Is to DATY. Our dates reactions have various results. Your technique may work for some but be annoying or too much for others. I've had tremendous non-verbal responses ranging from a provider who didn't kiss suddenly reciprocating with amazing French kisses to my date allowing her body to go completely limp during 69 and just resting her head in my lap. Some have been very vocal, some over the top and completely faked and one or two who appeared disinterested.  
My question to the ladies is - how do you get past DATY situations that aren't what you desire - bad technique, just not into it, etc.?  And guys, how do you handle the over the top fake response or lack if response altogether?

I know a certain popular provider here for quite some time, 4 years now, and she takes quite some time to cum, matter of fact is DATY isn't one of her favorite things to do because it frustrates her, but she lets many of the guys have at it, and they don't have any idea...

Sometimes she's legitimately down with it, it's very spur of the moment, and I really get a kick out of it because, number 1, it's a very special occasion when she's feeling it, it's completely hot for me, and she has the most stunningly beautiful pussy God has created, no matter what she thinks about it. Having her lips in my mouth, swathing her womanhood with my tongue, her scent pervading my senses, is pure heaven. I don't think she even completely realizes her affect upon me.

The experience for me has really hyper-attuned me into really paying attention to her response. It's very slow and gradual for her...fast, I'd say I'm down there 20 minutes, and I've gone down on her for over 40 at times...I like to spend a long time with her, I don't like watching clocks, so spending for the time doesn't bother me, I enjoy her company very much.

It's quite beautiful to see it happen...

She's actually quite sensitive, it seems almost painfully so...she requires the most delicate of touches in order to begin getting her aroused, my tongue in a whisper's breathe proximity like a wet feather gently licking all around her lips and button, on the edges, never right on her at first, she jumps away like an electric shock if you just jump right on it.

When she starts to finally relax, her pelvis, and legs just kind of open, like a book to be read, and she lays there, eyes hooded and her breathing becoming rhythmic...She kind of enters a trance...

That's when she's finally aroused enough where her sensitivity is muted, and I can finally start to lick her lips, and hood...The key here though (with her...) is even though I'm upping the intensity and focus, if I start to apply to much pressure with the effort of my tongue, it'll backfire.. I play a lot of gentle games at this point, just a little randomness for unpredictability in order to build things...

So, in my mind's eye I draw upon a guitar player analogy for fast fretting, a butterfly touch...extremely light, yet consistent...

As her arousal ramps up, she starts to circle her hips, move her pelvis, offering her sex to my mouth...again, the trick is not to dive in and apply heavy pressure...I'll just get a little closer so that more of my tongues surface is stimulating her...it's an oral sex rodeo, I keep my tongue going and I move my mouth in sympathy with her movements to keep things consistent. I NEVER rest my face, chin, upon her...It's a dance.

Pretty soon she starts to hold an arch, lifting her hips off the bed, tilting her pelvis forward offering her clit to my mouth, it's usually quite hard by then and absolutely wonderful to feel that marble...She's so beautiful when pushing forward to my mouth...makes me insane.

By this point it's usually just a wonderful matter of time for the inevitable...I keep a steady tempo with my ministrations, she tends to arch even further, ass completely off the bed, driving her pussy into my mouth...but I still maintain my distance, and gentle pressure...it's like controlling the ring as a boxer, using your jab to maintain distance...

When she's close, her arch gets even more pronounced, then she goes stiff, holds her breath, and gets completely silent, her mouth falls open, and it's pretty obvious she's in the first clenching grip of her orgasm...I usually press a little closer, spreading my tongue, and I lick the entirety of her sex

Then the moan happens, and her body releases, she may buck, and I know this is when her super-sensitivity comes rolling back, so I completely lighten up with my mouth, back to a whisper's touch, and just gently caress her as she comes through the other end..

She may clench my head with her legs, and shudder with involuntary aftershocks...She wants the stimulation to stop at this point, it's quite obvious...

A nice bit of cuddling & stroking afterwards, but if I'm ready, I don't like to let her slope down to much, because as magnificent as her pussy naturally is, after going down on her, she is so plumped up and engorged I have to enter her, it's like her pussy completely sucks onto my cock, and the feeling of it is unbelievable...

Anyhow, it's all about paying very close attention IMHO. All women are very different, and I've never met two who respond the exact same way. If any of you think you have, I humbly recommend that you truly re-examine your approach.

Women are extremely subtle.

Be well...

I prefer 69 to lying back, I'm orally fixated and would consider my lips one of my top 3 erogenous zones.  
My biggest pet peeve is if a guy has had a large amount of garlic and then wants to go down on me. It leaves my girl parts smelling of garlic, and that just does NOT work, hahaha!!  

My best oral experiences have been with clients.  Most tend to enjoy sex enough to pay attention to what they're doing. See above post by Martinimagic!  If someone made me uncomfortable or hurt me, I would certainly (gently) guide him in the right direction!  

Anna Faire xx

with incredible mouths, lips & tongues that rocked my world; many times over!  However, if I received less than favorable kisses "down there", I believe I would find a way to divert his attentions elsewhere!

When I'm going downtown, I always try to keep calm. DATY isn't about diving in like an animal. This is a time when the gal you're with might feel quite vulnerable, so the best thing is to be incredibly sensitive to the fact that you are enjoying this most wonderful meal. Take your time with it.. You get so much more mileage out of taking your time with it.  

As for the gals who are obviously faking it - over the top... Well, I guess they feel they need to make the guys feel good about what they're doing. Unless you have incredible intuition about what you're doing down there - communication is a great thing. Don't be afraid to ask what she likes and how she likes it. No harm in having her give you the directions to unlock her orgasm.  

Quite frankly, I enjoy doing DATY with gals that squirt. Such a delicious treat to cap off a great session of dinning on delicious pussy. Love rain on me.

-nycad  

if they are needed, which is rare because I can pretty much come in almost any situation. I am blessed that way. I am never not into it.