so finally found providers that were newbie friendly, told them i was new and no references, we chatted a bit, gave them some basic info and they said it was okay and i made sure no sexual talk what so ever, we made a date, they told me to confirm an hour or 2 before the date, i did so , the day of the appointment comes:both times with both providers they ignored me after i tried to confirm

am i missing something? am i doing something wrong? really disappointed cuz i was really attracted to one of them too, totally my type(Adrianna)  

really sucks since im coming from Li to manhattan and had my thumb up my ass waiting in penn , not to mention its an hour and a half ride x

Might be best for you to try an agency

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...to me this is never a great sign.  It tells me that someone isn't serious at the time of booking or doesn't really know their schedule.  I "confirm" appointments when booking, and there is a cancellation fee that must be paid if someone cancels on me at the last minute.  Once someone confirms with me (the conclusion of our booking process), I book my Incall, and by an hour or two before our meeting, my Incall rental is non-refundable.  So personally, if someone tries to tell me that they will "confirm" with me an hour or two before our meeting, I tell them to hold on and go re-read my cancellation policy.  I need a confirmation BEFORE I book my Incall, much more than 1-2 hours in advance.

Now some ladies work differently.  They don't necessarily schedule things as solidly in advance.  They get lots of inquiries and even lots of bookings that never follow through.  His used to happen to me a lot when I first started out in Baltimore and worked Backpage.  So if someone tried to schedule with me days in advance, or even several hours in advance, it was simply not possible to set aside the time slot for them in a real way, because if I did that I'd be setting my time aside for flakes and jokers all day and not making any money.  This is before I was truly screening, also.  My best bet was to use my intuition to tell if he guys as a bad guy or not, and if he was good, to tell him to call when hew as head my way to confirm.  Nowadays I would never work is way, because I am low volume and I also travel an hour each way (from Brooklyn) and rent a special location to host Incall in Manhattan.

Your best bet is to see a well-established provider who will screen you well (identity & employment) and confirm your appointment in advance.  For your peace of mind, re-confirm the appointment the night before, so that you hear back from her well before you do any traveling to NYC.  Then use her as a reference for other providers in the future, and it should make things go more smoothly for you.

Good luck!
~ Zoey Zacquery

I've had plenty of appointments confirmed well in advance but there's something to be said about the 2-hour or day-of confirmation and it works BOTH ways.  It says I didn't forget the appointment and I'm on my way and will be on time ... unless there's a traffic problem.  In NYC, traffic can screw up a lot of appointments.  When she texts or VMs me, it says that she didn't forget and is politely reminding me not to forget, either.  

My worst NCNS experiences were with popular well-reviewed providers who normally kept very reliable schedules so I just headed out to show up 5-minutes early ... only to be cancelled on the spot or NCNSed.  

I just remembered another one: booked and confirmed a week or so in advance with someone who now has several hundred reviews.  Normally VERY reliable.  Everything was by e-mail and she sent me her phone number for "day of" final info.  I show up and at t-minus 5-minutes, there's a 'number not in service' message.  I'm in NYC looking for a place to send a SAFE e-mail and I FINALLY get through to explain that I was there and I did NOT ncns her and I'm sorry, blah, blah, blah.  Well, she had changed her phone number and forgot to email me the new number!  We rescheduled on the spot.  I had to hang around a few hours, but I got to see her a few hours later.  If I had tried to call or confirm 2-hours ahead of time, I would have found out about the problem sooner been able to use safe email from where I was and, presumably, with the new number in hand everything else would have been on time.  

Even though both parties can be committed in advance to a meeting, stuff happens and the 2-hour confirmation -- no, let's call it "reminder" or "update" -- can save a lot of trouble (travel around town or, as OP mentioned, travel to Manhattan from LI).  

Although two hours doesn't help you (Zoey) with your pre-booked room, it could give you a chance to at least try schedule someone else on short notice.  Reciprocally, two hours notice ("I'm not feeling well." "I double booked and I like the other guy better.") saves the guy from wasting a long commute on the LIRR