Hello all, I had an experience that made me think about how there can be emotional instability in this industry, which can result in destruction of people's lives. In my experience, people who are emotionally stable are much better at adapting to a lifestyle of hobbying and providing. While terror stories you hear about come from the emotionally unstable people who get involved in this adult world. We all have our reasons for doing this. Or maybe we don't have a reason, we just do it. But whatever the case, make sure that whatever you're dealing with, or weaknesses you might have emotionally, that you NEVER allow them to effect your behavior here. Today, I was reminded of all the underserved blacklists out there that were given by ladies who got a bruised ego for this or that reason, but were never actually physically hurt, robbed, arrested, or beat up. Maybe they showed up and looked different then the photos and were sent away. So they decided to get revenge on the guy because he bruised their ego? Or what about the hobbyist who got turned down and decides to write a revenge review to ruin a girls business? All of these kinds of people are emotionally unstable and make trouble that we dont want or need in this industry. So, please think twice before doing any act out of emotion. It really can damage people's lives. It is not a game, it is real and put yourself in their shoes. How would it feel if your world came crumbling down around you?
For Providers:
Some of you have been here awhile and understand how the whole blacklisting thing works. Why it is useful, why it can also ruin a person's life. Today, I had a terrible stress to deal with, because I was trying to screen someone that was blacklisted. Seems that some girl was pissed off and decided to black list him on a website that anyone in the world can see. So once a guy has his name there, his sisters, mother, boss, wife, friends can all see his name. And why did she do this? Well, he sent her away after she drove to his house and he thought she was overweight and didnt want her. I'm sure she was angry. He gave her a little drop of cash to pay her gas home. Yes, its offensive if a guy says you look like shit and changes his mind. But will we spiral emotionally out of control and then go ruin his life, just because we got our ego hurt? A brilliant screener helped me out today, as this man had an excellent and trusted reference, yet also had a blacklist as working with LE. The girl who blacklisted him, put his name up 4 years ago. Can you imagine the damage she's done over the course of 4 years? And most likely that report will never go away. My point is, stop being emotionally unstable. This job is hard work, it makes us question everything. Our morals, ethics, boundaries, friendships, relationships, EVERYTHING. It is challenging and it can hurt. Who ever thought that it would be all pleasant and perfect to be in the adult industry? We get these lovely guys that make it worth it. But we get a few jerks too. But their karma will work itself out in its own time. That is NOT OUR JOB TO PUNISH THEM for being jerks. Did he rape, rob, or beat you up? Then go ahead and blacklist him on a private provider's blacklist site where only providers can see his info - not on a public site where people he works with or his family can see. This girl wanted to be sure he never had another date for as long as he lived. But that is stupid. Does she think other girls don't screen beyond what she put? We look at everything! References, personality, anything we can find that will make us say Yes or No on seeing someone. Please breathe deep inhale exhale a few times, go for a run, make a cup of tea, whatever. But PLEASE dont go on an emotional frenzy and blacklist someone who you know will suffer forever and didnt really do anything bad enough to deserve this. We have all this power when we screen. But believe me, abusing your power will result in your own bad karma. What a shitty day I had because of this girl's lack of control. I had nothing to do with her experience, yet she has made me suffer and other girls suffer too, as we have to try even harder to screen the guy and get to the bottom of it.
For Hobbyists: what would the world be without you? You are doing the best of things for us ladies. Men have found peace, love, strength in the arms of escorts since the beginning of time! The good girls in this industry know that you need us. We are here for you. But be careful! Not all providers are good and mean well. Sometimes it is about cold cash isnt it? For the guys who mean well, I say choose wisely! There is another kind of hobbyist out there too. The emotionally unstable one. and you make it very hard for ladies I must say. Do not go into this world with the idea to punish women, put notches on your belt, or detach. We have souls, lives, talents, and there are plenty of beautiful hearts who choose to do this job as a way of putting love out into the world. We have dreams, hopes, desires. We are careful. Do not take offense if someone chooses not to see you. Is it worth getting revenge on her just because you didnt get to fuck her? Please, this if for both the men and the women, dont use this adult world to take out your anger, violent tendencies, or vengeance on.
Finally, Love is all there is. No matter how we go about finding it or giving it. Love Not Hate. Love Not violence. Love Not Revenge. Let it go. Breathe. Run. Dance. Love and let this world be the one place people can count on to have a safe loving escape to run to when the real world is too dangerous, unloving, violent. We should be the ones to set a good example. Life is so hard out there! You all know this. Keep our escorting world a place of refuge and love. This is what I am about. I hope I encourage others to cling to this as well.
Thankyou for your time in reading this today, Cameo Knightley
-- Modified on 2/5/2014 12:00:28 PM
