I go above & beyond with screening to make sure I, in fact click with a gentlemen before the appointment. I know some guys aren't fond of e-mail for initial contact, but it really makes me feel more ready to greet a new suitor with enthusiasm, if we exchange a few "get to know you" emails first, similar to internet dating.

Appearance- I could care less, as I'm attracted to all different types of people, and I've found if you sit and chat with someone for a bit when they arrive, their attraction shines through.

Intelligence- This comes across in the initial e-mail. I am drawn to intelligent men. If they aren't they will usually be intimidated by my educational level, and have different male ways of expressing it. Which aren't always pleasant. Sorry guys, I'm a very strong, independent  woman, and can't play the part of damsel in distress.

Personality & Attitude- Same as appearance.

Long story short,  I still have the "what if's" go through my head before a date starts. If you're on time, clean & respectful you will always be a perfect "10" on the hobbyist scale, in my book.

Question For The Ladies...

Appearance - As long as you are clean (from head to toe) that is one thing that does not concern me. Some of the "hottest" guys have been complete jerks. I would rather have a nerdy down to earth guy any day of the week over that.

I like people that I click and communicate well with. I too enjoy some conversation beforehand - emails/Ims etc. to establish if we have a connection or not. If I don't think I am a good fit for the person I am happy to recommend someone who might be.

Normally whats is going thru my head is a mental checklist of everything I need to bring or do before an appointment. After I get to the door its just relax and have fun. ~

I just

fly by the seat of my pants LOL