Previous posts have had me pondering lately. There are more than 25,000 members online here currently. Some are going to disagree with you, some are going to be jerks about it. Sometimes arguments are persuasive & people can learn from other's experiences, sometimes people are unable to listen & are sure their opinion is the only valid one. At the end of the day everyone's opinion matters to someone. Even if it's just themselves. Lol!

I have to own that throughout my history of participation on these boards I am guilty of fitting into one of these categories at one time or another. It's all been dependent upon the topic at hand, the general tone of the board, my OWN mood at the time I log on, etc that determines how & whether or not for that matter I will post a reply. I have found myself beaming with pride, being humbled, & kicking myself. I've found myself getting infuriated, wanting to console, & rolling with laughter. Each & every time there have been varied reactions that weren't shared by everybody. Those varied reaction & opinions however were still valid & applicable to someone, somewhere at the time. I think it's all interesting.

This post for example. I'm not exactly sure what motivated me to put it up. It is after all just random thoughts that have been swimming around in my head for a while. IDK. Maybe it's because I just had a little bit of spare time on my hands. Maybe I am interested in hearing other's thoughts on the subject. Maybe I just wanted to type. Lol!

One thing I know is I'll likely have good, bad, or indifferent to offer in the future.  If it gets too hot I'll TRY to leave the kitchen for awhile. Hmmmm..... we'll see how that works out for me. Heehee!

Thanks for listening to my banter.

XXOO!!

if't often to tempting/easy to jump into blogs, and i'm guilty of this as well, so i try to remind myself often of  
Snoopy from the Peanuts cartoon series:
‘There’s no sense in doing a lot of barking if you don’t really have anything to say’  

you'll havta imagine the pic; can't get it to paste
here's a link:
https://www.pinterest.com/alyannadelrose/cartoons/

excepting your process is interesting to watch your bantering you're talking the changes you go through the stress is just a process of life the day that stops I think you won't be on the board anymore keep up the good work and just be as honest as you possibly can and expand your… Always with love Jennifer  
oh and take your meds!

LChayse, you are right again and I post the same way--sometime ok, sometimes not so well.

The  literature on blogs show that men are more likely to attack and trash women on line.  

Just out of curiosity I pulled three non-shill days a year apart.
2013 4/17 Men and women posts were      50 / 50
2014 4/17 Men and women posting were   66 / 33
2015 4/16 Men and women posting were   80 / 20%

Do the extreme sexist vulgarities and bullying of some of posters affect board participation by women?  LChayse you said it "Opinions matter."  

I learned a great deal from Elan, Kat, Trinity, Bri, Belinda's et al's informatiive posts.  
I haven't learned a thing from dirtyjesus or talon et al.
I have learned even less as the women disappear from the conversation.

I am sticking around for the ads. I like sex.

That is cute. Here. Let me help ya with that.

There are no meds currently available to successfully treat Antisocial, oppositional, Defiant Disorder. He recommends to just get laid daily & I'll be just fine. So far his Rx has been very effective. Thanks for the suggestion though. In the event I'm on the verge of a meltdown I'll certainly take it under advisement!

Have a great day! I'm off for some grillin & Moscato with friends & family!

Mwah!

Two important sayings about opinions come to mind.  One most of you have already heard:

Opinions are like arseholes, everyone's got one and they all stink.

The second one describes the mentality of the attack dog attitude you see here a lot:

Opinions are like orgasms, Once I've got mine nobody else's matters.

END OF MESSAGE

I have bad days though.  Days I wish I would have duct taped my fingers together so I could not type on my keyboard.  We are all human and what the OP said is 100% right on.

Have a marvelous night, all!!

Belinda

You pose an interesting question Pimpernel. I imagine there are a number of answers to it. Perhaps one day TER might consider a poll?  

I can only speak for myself. Bullying is my biggest weakness. When I see it happening I am likely to have one of those "kick myself later" moments. For whatever reason it infuriates me & I'll more often than not come at the poster with a taste of their own medicine. I kick myself later not because I feel bad for the bully being the recipient of my spit & venom  as IMO bullies deserve to get what they give. I am embarrassed at myself for allowing some putz to affect my mood like that rather than ignoring them. To my credit, I have made some improvements in that area but admit I still relapse from time to time & hit one between the eyes. Such is the life of a humanbeing. Heehee!

...for no particular reason other than they might disagree with their viewpoint. One can state their reason for disagreement in a civil manner and then let it go without any further vitriol but, I guess that's too much to ask from some chronic bullies.  

Folks I do not have VIP so PM's here are just lingering in TER Space. Please, if you'd like to say something to me privately shoot me an email. [email protected] It's senseless (IMO) to pay $30 a month just to read a few PM's.

Thanks!