The word "TIPS" comes from the Europeans.  It means To Insure Prompt Service.  In some European countries you tip before you get your food.  It is supposed to guarantee that your service will be prompt and courteous.

Now translate that to the hobby.  I have seen on many ad and websites that "tips are not required but are appreciated".  On one site it gives the price point + tip.  I've been kind of wondering about that concept.  I never tip a really small amount either in a restaurant or in a session with a provider because I think it comes across as an insult.  When I tip it is because I feel the lady really went beyond what I felt was expected given her stated donation amount.  And there are a lot of ladies who really do deserve an extra gesture of appreciation in my experience.  Now if their business was dependent on tips like it is frequently for wait people in a restaurant I could understand the importance to do so unless you were totally ripped off.  But when the normal donation is already a large amount (the normal amount in our area) which I am willing to pay to enjoy my desire for their services I'm starting to think that an added amount should not be expected or even hoped for.  

So, I'm wondering if I'm missing something in the dance of intimacy here, or if other have felt the same way.  Please enlighten me.  I'm sure that it is a very personal decision for many of us, but is there some insight that makes sense?  Thanks



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If you put some extra cash into the envelope with your donation, the lady will not usually find out about it until after the festivities.  Handing her an additional $20 or $30 before you leave would seem to be awkward and potentially insulting.

I try to bring a little gift, lotion or perfume, that I give to the lady right after greeting her and before we get going.  It doesn't have to be too elaborate or expensive.  What lady doesn't enjoy getting and unwrapping a little gift?  I think it conveys my appreciation, and especially with ladies whom I have not seen before, it helps put them at ease, and that does contribute to enjoyable sessions.

I agree completely. I have a client who sometimes brings me deliscious chocolate truffles and trust me I turn to butter! Financial tips are great too but if a gentleman actually brings me a gift I know he actually spent the time to do something special as apposed to just running to the nearest cash machine.

I totally agree with the gift concept, I usually do it and it has always been well recieved, maybe some chocolates or a little something Victoria's Secret, gift cards work nicely as well and can be kept on hand for the last minute appointment.

I have always had the best luck just giving some extra money. But I do most definately agree that it should be given to her face to face right after the session so she knows you gave it to her.
Otherwise a lot of girls stuff the money in their pocket or purse and go on to the next customer. They may not look at any of their money till the end of the night and if your tip is lumped in with everyone elses money she will have no way of knowing who it was from.

gman55436 makes some good points.  I think it's a question of what you are trying to communicate.  That is, if the session went well (and especially if you intend to visit with the lady again in the future), his suggestion would seem to make sense.  Tip the lady, if you wish.

Gifts seem most appropriate at the start of a session, before the festivities begin. That is, you're trying to assure the lady that you are a gentleman and that you appreciate her.  We all hope that the ladies will treat us as special so that we'll have such an enjoyable time that we'll "forget it's a service."  What better way to communicate that you are special than by treating the lady as special with a small gift as a token of your appreciation before you start the fun?  A little extra kindness and consideration upfront can go a long way toward helping a lady feel relaxed and willing to please you.

If a Provider does not work for herself then a tip would be great because they give like 40 percent or more to whomever they work for. For us Providers that work for ourselves if she has given you a mind blowing experience or you just fancied her a little extra would be nice but I do not expect it.
I personally think I make enough money but it is always a treat when someone gives me a little extra or brings me flowers or such.
I am the same way every time with or without a Tip. So it really matters not to me.
Ha, I hope that you understand what I have said, I just woke up.

Thanks everyone for your input.  It all really does help.  I especially like the idea of a little gift, an ice breaker to show we are gentlemen who appreciate a lady's kindness in seeing us sight unseen.  I agree that it adds a bit of a personal touch and shows that we prepare for our dates in ways that convey respect and kindness.  I suppose that a money tip is fine for some guys and not for others depending on how much they can afford.  I'm thinking that a gift of kindness is best given at the beginning of the festivities and a cash tip might be best held until the end so as to show that the lady really did give a mind altering session that you want to compensate her for.

I would also think that the whole tip or gift idea has some origin in our culture where the lady provides the wonders of her gender and the gentleman provide the finances.  Heck, that's true in dating and marriage as well I guess.

I have given gifts to ladies.  I usually present them at the beginning of the session.  I only do this for ladies I have seen before.

I also have given the lady a cash TIP. I have the fee out at the beginning of the session, so she can pick it up at her leisure.  But if I felt it was an very enjoyable time, I will give her a little extra.  This I present to her just as she is leaving.

If you wanted to make me feel, adored, pampered, spoiled, orgasmic....etc...you sure pulled it off today! Thank you sweety! I had an excellent time! That watch was perfect. It made me think of my favorite summery things like Vespa scooters and ice cream cones! Love it!