What do you do when you have had issues with a hobbyist that are not worthy of blacklisting yet not worthy of recommendations from you?  I have told him not to contact me anymore yet he still does and asks for appointments about 2-3 times a month plus I get a reference inquiring about once a month for him. Why would he use me as a reference when I told him not to and refuse to WL him?

It is a small reason why I would not recommend. I would feel horrible if I recommended him to another provider friend and he wrote a review that that about her. Just wanted to make that clear!

That might be a good first step--er, second step--ask some providers you know and trust what they would do in your place. Maybe you've already done that. If not, in hindsight I think it would have been better to use the back channel for this discussion than a public forum. But, it's public now so...

I have used call blocking on a couple of occasions, not hard to do the same with E-mail. Sometimes the simplest answers are overlooked.
Steel

I've used both of these in personal life and work fantastic.   Out of sight out of mind

...make up bad shit about him. I think posting this on the board is a very smart and appropriate move. He will see this thread and know it's about him and other Providers will PM you and ask you who it is. I agree it falls short of Blacklisting but you have every right to try and thwart any guy who doesn't know how to act appropriately.

1. He calls and repeatedly wastes your time (=money) with cancels.
2. He plays double message with you (see also 1)
3. See 1 and 2.  
4. He is rude (and abuses his power 1,2,3)
5. He somehow makes you feel like his abuses are your fault.
6.  You have given him more chances than you should and feel guilted into giving him more.

To even worry about blacklisting a bad client. The only references you could give is exactly what you have posted here. After a few bad references he will stop

No point in your continuing to waste any more of your time on him.

Every time he uses you as a reference is an opportunity to warn others about his behavior. Blocking or simply never responding to his messages should eventually get rid of him. For your own personal safety always remember he's still out there.

And have sent it too each provider that has requested a reference from me for him. I'm shocked he still using me as one.  

he's deluded, desperate and therefore ...trying to think of a 'd' word meaning unsafe... a little  dangerous.

Just be honest and tell him I wish not to see you anymore and then he will leave you alone. I wish girls would do that to me when I email them and nothing back.

Use me as a reference months ago ... Plain and simple! He doesn't get it. No, I do not respond to him when he asks if I'm available tonight or tomorrow over and over because he knows the answer and it's not worth my time. I do, however let the ladies know why I will not recommend him when he gives them my name as a reference.

It is kind of like replying to Talon, even giving him a yup, feeds him to reply!

I wanted this to be on this public board; I was hoping he would read this and see it from a different view. I am not afraid of him or worried he is truly stalking nor have I just dropped the ball in communicating that I do not want contact from him or to use me as references. I told him twice many months ago, that should be enough. I have ignored the rest if his emails  and texts (asking for appointments). Even after using me as a reference to a few ladies and I give bad ones for him, he still doesn't get it. Hopefully he will read this and move on ... If he contacts me again I will simply copy and paste the link to this thread.  

He pushes your boundaries, is a chronic timewaster and does not respect your decision.  IMO, any of those by themselves makes him a candidate for a blacklist.   I would note all of these things in any reference request.

Advice and views from the hobbyists as well ... Plus if he reads that other guys think he has gone too far, he is being disrespectful etc. then maybe he will get it. Sometimes you have to hear it from another source to truly soak it up.  
 

It really sucks about that but that's all anyone can do.  

that you were contacting him on a personal level via non-date texts.  You open a can of worms when you go beyond provider/hobbyist relationship.  IMO

Yes I used to send simple text messages such as merry Christmas and happy valentines day to regulars who used text messaging and I thought it was ok and just a sweet gesture. I do agree with you now in that it's possibly crossing a line so I don't do it now.  As far as texts other than business, there were none in case I didn't make that clear.  

Hi this is brooke, I don't post on the board much but I was just reading your response to comment about how you're asking for advice was "out of character" for you and I just have to say; well said girl! ... It is very rare to read something so eloquently put by another fellow provider ( or anyone for that matter!) I am very very proud to call myself a provider in the ranks of such a well spoken woman congrats and good job!

I doubt he can be shamed into good behavior

And can't you block him
On your email also?
He will eventually get a clue!!
Some People!!!

You've done nothing wrong by posting here; it's a legitimate topic for this board.  You are a positive contributor to this board and rarely have anything negative to say about anyone or anything thing.  This particular issue is a problem that you want to resolve and you are trying to move forward without having to blacklist the guy.

No reason to think every single one will be of interest to everybody.

He did find this and read it. Apparently he does not remember getting either the email or the text message about no contact but I did send them. That may explain why he continued the contact and using me as a reference, however because I value my integrity and stand by my references when I give them as not only being safe but respectful, I still will not give him my seal of approval.  I am confident that he will not contact me any farther and not use me as a reference thus he "got the message" as I had hoped.  

Glad it worked out for you and good of you to steer him toward TER. It's hard starting out, hopefully he explores TER and learns how to be a better client so he can enjoy all the great things the TER ladies have to offer.