What's everyone's opinion on being contacted by a provider in order to seek an appointment or generate business?

If it is someone who is only available occasionally, like a visitor, then I am more likely to be OK with it.  Or if I had told her it was OK to contact me.

...telling me that she enjoyed seeing me before and would love to see me again. It gives me warm fuzzies. As long as it's a soft sell vs. a hard sell ( "give me a call sometime, babe, I'd love to see you again" vs. "why haven't you called me again? Did I do something wrong?") I'm much more likely to see a lady again if she conveys to me that she'd welcome another go around with me. Sure! Contact me anytime! Send me a sexy text, PM, email...it's all good.   It happens kinda often for me.

and I love it.  
I waste so much of my time doing the contacting that it's a really pleasant change.
And usually it's sexy, and half the time leads to something, which is about 1000% better than the other way.

I agree with you Drumsticks.  A soft sell message from the lady wold be sweet.

Providers can PM me anytime !!!  I don't always keep up on TER and P411 like I should, and especially since I live in the 'Provider Desert' (also known as Rochester), if a Lady plans an under the radar visit to this city, I'd be grateful to get a heads up (literally and figuratively) of her upcoming visit!  PM away Ladies!!!

I love it when a lady contacts me.  It is very important that it be done safely that means

1. be sure that you have an OK from me in advance
2. only on a safe system
3. a message so vague that is could not create a problem
4. if you do reach out and the man does not respond then you should not try again until you hear from him.

I have had several ladies contact me and i really like it.  Going out on a limb here but for most of us it is less about the sex and mostly the connection with someone you enjoy being with.  a sex experience can be a #2 where a limited menu with the right lady can be a great time.  If you liked being with me then odds are I feel the same way.  If you contact me safely and say "Hi" I know that you and I will enjoy being together.  

Ladies; if you like a guy make him a regular.  Let him know that you want to spend time with him and you become irresistible.

I always reply back when a lady PMs me and oftentimes relationships develop through this beginning.  

One lady said something about a post of mine and I always remembered that and so did she...3 years later when we finally got to together, it was amazing. It's all about the "hunt" lol.

Totally agree with Cheyen's last paragraph below.

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Yeah, I think the same

I love it when one of the lovely ladies I see with some frequency, contacts me by text or email, with something as simple as " miss you baby " . It makes me feel good...as though I am desired. Love it !!!!!

After all, no clients contacting them means no business.

But I've had the occasional phone call where she did seem annoyed that I called.  It's a strange corner of the world we find ourselves in.

Phone and Text are tougher to control. The Hobby email is the safest.

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Don't call me I'll call you. If she is calling because she wants to see me then am looking at it as a donation free date.

Phone and text...NEVER
 

I've had a few providers (who I'd seen regularly) reach out to me from time to time. At the very least, it's nice to know when they're trying to drum up business, I'm one of the first ones they think of. A preferred customer, if you will.

I'm divorced, so I don't have the security concerns of the married men on the board, so I'm okay with a text or e-mail. And usually when I'm contacted I'm about ten minutes away from calling that very provider. Synchronicity!

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ide note: this post was (still) intentionally written with an alias, if you know who I am that's ok, I do it 4 personal reasons, alias posting is not the topic at hand.  
 
 
 
Ok here it is I debated long & hard b4 finally posting this,  
When it comes to being wanted...We ALL want that, all types of people (even the ones who take control to the extreme)
still want to be wanted and reminded of it, even us providers want to feel wanted!
I think it's pretty common & that's ok,  
However should we or would we be treating this hobby more like "match dot ect".... If we all reach out just to say "I miss you or hello or when can you see me again"  
is this not exactly what not to do?  
Idk now I'm confused, I like (and need) very clear lines and expectations....
Some of ya'all want us to reach out to let you know when we are thinking of you- but be sure to make it not seem like a sell...or "hard" sell.  
 
You each have different preferences of where & how to reach out but most agree hobby email or PM would be acceptable.  
Yet small amount of you are brave enough to come on and say "NO please don't & let me initiate all contact"-well cheers to you my good friend's (after all I thought that's what this sort of adult2adult p4p agreement entailed, why would anyone purposely blur the lines,? Should we assume nobody could turn into a stalker type or even just fall in love at some point )  
Also,  
Does this not take away from the others who we just met & haven't really clicked with yet but they follow all screening and are super respectful of your time always, should they not be acknowledged simply because we don't meet very often or I don't know them well enough yet?  

Some of us have big issues with people over staying their time, (& not just a half hour here or there) some men are very skilled at dragging out an entire day for the cost of an hour or two, many hobby-ist have had years more experience than some of us providers ....and while we (sometimes) struggle with the balance of how to be friendly yet firm.......now we have to worry about wether or not you think we miss you?!?.....well what in the world?!? How could we not?!
I am escort!  
I get naked with you, bend myself into so many positions, think of when & how you might like to have me, I keep myself fit, smooth, clean, energetic & try to always be happy & smiling, I need to stoke my strong sex drive, keep well lubricated & flexible,  
always alert & aware allowing me to tune into your likes as well as any potential red flags, I feel the crazy organismic expressions that cross my face, you've seen me in ways that most people closest to me have not & never will see me,  
I share myself with you, when and how you want it, each & every time it's about you.....
   
I've met many men & women in the hobby each one being vastly unique there is SO much to love & enjoy!  
Acknowledging a few leaves out the rest, & don't think it's not noticed some time or another.

Now about perception:this relating to-but not only:
"hard or soft sell" vs. "how are you or I miss you" I have been notoriously misunderstood even when I do my best to convey my truest of feelings it can be very hard to determine true meaning thru written word, so depending on the moment or mood who's to say how our sudden contact will strike you,
I came to this world knowing full well it would always be in the background of my life, forever, you can never undo being an escort.  
 Yet you can't go around announcing it either, it's very much a double life for most of us, (like you) and I should stop when I'm with kids or mom,neighbor, or even boyfriend or husband & email you about how much you cross my mind?!?!  
 
Where do you think I am when you cross my mind? Just lounging around in my bed with all my toys?!? Rarely more often,  
I'm running about my day, sometimes as busy as all of you, just because it's not a 9-5 conventional "job" doesn't mean it allows for the free time people think.....some of us have major tragedies or daily life events that require us to make very good money, couple that w/basic administrative work,checking and scheduling that goes into hobby life and we can be left with marginal family time, many times.....and when I most think of some of you, I'm relaxing for a few short moments in my hot bath, or I'm driving down the road and I hear a song or see a car like yours.  
 
Sometimes I'm at the movies w/friends or family and I'm struck by how similar you are to that actor.....I just smile my devious smile to myself and keep it under wraps, I do my very best to make each of you feel desired each and anytime you get to spend with me.  
I prepare my location, my body and mind every time.  
There's a lot more than the carefree sexual side ya 'all get to enjoy,  
there's always a behind the scenes.  
 
I only hope to most of you I don't come across as an uncaring,ungrateful bitch, if I'm near a computer and you cross my mind maybe I'll occasionally reach out, but never through phone or text it's just out of my comfort zone.
 
I'll think of many of you (more than a couple of you) daily,  
but that's for me to think about & slyly smile- the same way the hobby offers NS, variety and no jealousy to you.
We are not your wives & girlfriends we are physically,sexually, and mentally in tune with you, sometimes the emotions are part of it, but to sometimes not....  
You want the hotness, energy, no jealousy,no falling in love with you or becoming needy, than don't expect the emotional, it could very easily turn ugly.  
Try to tune in to the moments we share, read the the excitement & bliss you feel in those moments, know that it's yours to have whenever you reach out to say you want more, and please, please,  
Please, don't, ever, for a second, think that because you don't hear much from a provider between meetings, that she loves you any less

Being able to get so much off your lovely chest (I'm assuming it's lovely lol).

Wish you could write better and get to the point.  

How about editing it and summarizing it?  

You know most people won't read all of it, right.

variables so its just a preference. Is it just to say hi or a sly way to get business or they just like you as a client. Is it someone you've known awhile or maybe she got a reference that you were a good guy and maybe wants a good regular but you don't know her. I've had a couple and didn't mind. One used to text a little in between but she's gone now

See wether or not you think my chest is lovely anytime  
But ehem.....yep it's wordy, do I care ? Not really- I wrote it for as much for myself as to make a few points,
I love all communication even the horribly written grammatical errors & run on sentences kind (like I do a lot):
                                                           We all have sumthin to say sometimes.

 

 
Thanks for the smiling shout out. Cute.

Thanks for taking the time to share!

I know that the reason I was contacted is because the lady is looking for a business appointment.  we all know that!

the issue is of the people she has met in "business" she is interested in making "business" appointments and she is picking the persons she wants to see again.  I have no illusion that it has changed into a civi relationship.  I am in business and I make an effort to take special care of the people who I want to have as customers.  In a business like mine I get new clients from referrals.  In this business the providers can not count on referrals, they can take what comes OR they self select their favorite people with the intent of shaping her client list.

I think some of the contributors are over thinking this.  No one suggests a constant contact list with daily emails.  There are a couple of places where it makes sense.  any contact must be safe and only after asking if it is ok to contact, if a lady has contacted a man and not received a response a follow up contact is inappropriate.    

If she has read comments on the board, seen me before,  liked a persons review or has a friend who has met me, she can contact me through ter.  If I don't respond then let it go.  For me at least; if you went to the trouble of contacting me with a SOFT SELL chances are we will meet soon.  

But that is me, others feel differently and that is OK too.

they may just be keeping up good relations with a client they like even if its not for an immediate appointment. Thats ok with me. This is a business but I like to keep up the illusion sometimes. And come on ,some of us become FB friends