The other day there was a post about DATY and many people voiced their  
Preferences today I wanted to start a more all encompassing discussion  
((And yes I have my own motives for this)) but also I'm really interested in other peoples preferences. So everyone feel free to comment please

1. Does size honestly matter? My answer yes for a lot of reasons  
Small can be great and also may better allow for island travel,
Large is fun too but whats better girth or length?  
I think balance is key but not everyone is balanced...that's ok, it leads me to this thought if you have girth and not length that's ok too just realize canine may not be a great position.  

2. Speaking of dimensions...is it just me or is it so cool to have the difference of digits once in a while say a thumb and the great motion it can make that a finger just can't...also guys please note...NEVER at anytime should you be reaching or pointing far into a women, NEVER!! Sorry there is just nothing arousing about it,!... for me anyway.
Thoughts from others??  

3.How about 69 I'm gonna say it...porno has sold us short!!! 69 is cool in theory but it takes talent to stay focused on giving when your receiving is so damn good, also there are HEIGHT variations to consider here, and personally I think " lazy69" is so much more realistic & if done right there's nothing " lazy" about it! Lol!  thoughts on this???

4. I've said it before and i'll say it again: extended DATY is always best when there is a lot of mmm's & ahhh's and even some nice words are great!!!
Speaking of words...
if one is saying yes, yes, doesn't this mean OMG what your doing right now is perfect please don't stop or move in any slight way keep doing EXACTLY that!!  Isn't that what we mean ladies?  

I know that's what I mean......I know I don't mean yes, yes hurry up and try and switch your rhythm or add something else...NO for me...I'm almost there come on!! =)  

 
5. Eye contact.....UHG?! I have to say you gals who can, you must be awesome!! It's so completely hard for me and even when I've tried it usually I get a wash of color wiping out my vision...
But then again there's oral I love to watch the reaction of the receiver,but is it just me or when you look their way mostly they are laid back eyes closed anyway...HA !....still how great though!  

6. How about this -how many gals would prefer to be more dominate?  
What is the opinion of the people reading this- society as a whole do you think their are more submissive women? And if so why not more dominate?
7. Men,how many of you would like to be dominated, if even just lightly or alot I don't know and I'm curious?
8. Gals...isn't it easy to tell the women who are just "gay for pay" or bi  
And isn't it disappointing when you really want the gal to enjoy it & not just be watching for the guy's reaction. Is it just me?  
9. Guys & gals have you ever just wanted to hand someone a bar of soap !?
And did you ever try and make your point?

10. Gals have you ever dealt with such a well endowed man you vowed to never see him again...but then you feel guilty because he's a nice guy.
11. Has anyone ever wanted to just sit down with someone and say ok this little sex habit...it's gotta go...this is awesome...this one you could tweak a little....
    Anyway these are my sexy Saturday thoughts and I would love for anyone to chime in with their thoughts and comments.
Have a great day everyone!! =)
~Mindy

........ really fricking horny when it's raining (with thunder and lightening)  or snowing out.    I mean, REALLY horny.

more so than normal.  
That's MY sexy Saturday thought.  

I had to LOL at your number 10.    I have only met One man who was so well-endowed that I couldn't see him again. and that was before I started "this life".    I didn't feel guilty, just really awkward because I wouldn't respond to his texts or calls.     What could I say, um, hey you're really nice but your dick is too big?     Just didn't seem right.

5. Eye contact.

I've not fully contemplated your lengthy list but when I read #5 I felt compelled to respond. I read many reviews that mention good eye contact. Because of it, I suppose that many providers strive to include this feature. For myself, I feel like it adds an expectation on me to be watching. I much rather close my eyes or look upward while concentrating on the pleasure being received and allow the provider to concentrate on the business at hand (or at mouth, actually).

I enjoy making eye contact when they are down town, but there are times as I approach lift off I roll my eyes. It depends on the provider. Ones that like to talk dirty need to make eye contact for it to really have an affect. If the session has become more sensual then I worry more about the feeling than the look.

Nice way to reflect and vent. I am sure being a provider brings a load of questions, especially seeing as it has a tendency to be completive in nature.  Remember that you can only control yourself, it does not matter what others are doing. Make sure you enjoy what you are doing. As long as your motives are good in nature, things of good nature will come to you.  

9 & 10
Speak up!!! In order for us hobbyists to get the most out of experiences, we have to look to get the most out of you. You cannot give an amazing BJ if you are avoiding stinky balls. Or if our habits make you feel uncertain then you will likely close down yourself or put up more of a guard.

I get so turned on as well when it is raining!  I so want to play

I think eye contact is good to a point as it establishes a connection and shows interest.  That being said, too much eye contact can be a turn-off.  There was one girl who had constant eye contact to the point of creepy.  Every time I closed my eyes to enjoy the moment as soon as I opened them...there she was.  It got me to wondering, was I doing something wrong?  Was she waiting for something?  Was she worried I was going to steal her purse?  Just my 2 cents.

Lol..thanks I do usually speak up except one scenario I did avoid -the endowment -that being just one of 2reasons
The more important one I won't get into.  As far as the smelly -sure it's safe to say you would tell your good male friend especially considering you would probably want to continue seeing them. Thank goodness I've only met great smelling guys!  
     Ehem... Wondering if anyone will give opinions of the popularity of female dominance.
    And I've got to agree with Portia a rainy day/ night with thunder is a huge turn on!

I cant 69 to save my life lol.. I get so into how awesome I feel I stop doing for him then Ill be like oh ya thats what I was doing after I soaked his face haha.. and yes I have met a guy or two that I was like umm that isnt going in me is it lol.. And I love daty its def my fav but after I get done im so tickleish I cant stand it that is if he did a good job!!

because everyone's different and will have their own preferences.  Except for maybe number 9, you would think that would be common sense.

As an over view, your post shows how important communication is in a relationship, wheather it be an hour or long term.  When we express our desires we get closer to getting what we want, and giving to our partner what they want.
On the domination thing, never been an interest of mine, but with the right partner, anything is possible!

p.s. You have my attention, great post for a rainy day!

If nothing else this thread taught me to pay attention to the weather when to schedule!!

Speaking for myself only, female dominance is related to the emotional world of trust, boundaries, and comfort more than the emotional/physical world of pleasure.  For me, dominance is a different creature from control--I find most female providers I've seen want to have a sense of control in session.  Personally, I do not believe I've met a female provider in whom I would place enough trust to open my boundaries to the experience of allowing female dominance.  Perhaps I've not met the right provider, or perhaps I would just need the provider to present it to me in a way that felt right to me.  I am somewhat doubtful I'll ever be presented with that relational question in a session.

In my opinion, you are absolutely correct in your endowment comments regarding sex positions. I have always felt that if I had a few extra inches, then I would be able to perform some sex positions with a greater degree of skill.

Although women may encounter men with (let's say) "too much of a good thing," they are still fascinated by the organ's dimensions. In the link supplied with these comments, a urologist comments on the largest penis that he has witnessed. As noted by the urologist, half of the nurses in the medical building wanted to assist the doctor during the procedure.

Note:  The comments by the doctor reminded me of a friend's comments. My friend worked at a leading medical institution during his college days. He noted the interest nurses had with endowed patients. During a surgical procedure, they would measure the flaccid size of such men. If my memory is correct, they related to my friend that the largest organ measured by them belonged to a professional baseball player.

Note:  I do not want to limit a woman's fascination with a penis to simply a dimension of size. If a man starts dating (i.e., civilian relationship) a new woman, he can be certain that the woman shares intimate details about his penis to her (best) friend(s).

Yeah , I think rain and snowstorms have that effect on a surprisingly LARGE number of people!

Good to know, right?  

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...do you mean like throwing a guy down on the bed, ripping off his clothes and having your way with him? Dragging him by his cock into the bedroom like a little pull toy? Calling the shots and deciding which position is next and deciding when and where he's gonna cum? Or, do you mean more along the lines of being a Dominatrix? I enjoy it when a woman takes charge and calls the shots on position changes and how she wants the session to go with a little give and take from both of us, of course. I do have some fantasies around some very mild bondage scenarios, mostly on the lady's part but I'd be open to experiment on mild exchanges with me, too.  

Eye contact during a blow job is very sexy to me but it's OK for both of us to look away or close our eyes frequently during it. I understand what you mean about this being difficult for you to pull off. It's just not for everyone and it's certainly far from being a deal breaker.

I love good conversations and appreciate deep thoughts!
So here are a few thoughts:

Funny statements on size, but I'm sure true.

Good point on 69, somewhat the same can be said about different positions. 69 is a fun position, but I think it comes down to communication from both to be fun. Haven't tried lazy 69 yet...

Eye contact, usually my eyes are rolled back into my head so not much to see there.

Dominate.....hmm. I like when a lady is aggressive, dominate could be fun. Have yet to experience that.

Ooh no, I hope never to experience that. I follow the 1 hour rule for my shower and brush even closer to the time. Ladies I have met have always been fresh and clean.

#11, nobody's perfect and being honest enough or comfortable enough to be able to say something can only make the experience and future experience better. Could even allow for some additional training...

What is  lazy 69 ?

I believe the comment about nurses is true. I remember being in the hospital a while back when a nurse came in just to "check" on things and lifted my gown. Yes there was some work done in that area, however I do feel she was looking at a bit more.  
Anyone that has been in the hospital knows there is very little modesty so it wasn't that big of a deal.

Size, it is what it is, not much I can do about it.

Digits, I enjoy using my fingers and thumbs, but sometimes feel like I'm just poking around. Might need a little direction from someone willing to say, "not like that, do it this way".  

As for 69. I enjoy it, but that maybe just because I love having that thing in my face. One of the best things you can say when we are together is YES YES YES JUST LIKE THAT!!   As for Lazy 69?? I have no idea but I wouldn't mind learning.

Eye contact is great but my eyes tend to wander, there is so much good stuff to look at.

I'm pretty vanilla when it comes to domination. I do like it when my lady takes the lead but still follows when I lead.  

I usually tell my new friends. If I do something that you don't like, smack me in the head and tell me.  

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She gets paid to spoon her clients

Yes I guess I mean exactly all the first stuff you mentioned...wow I never really put it into specific's  in my brain 'till just now,
So needless to say I'm probably not real savvy at it -but hey maybe I will take up practicing

What I was trying to say/ ask about size is do other gals feel that it can  
determine wether or not someone gets the island tour?
 Do you think less endowed men are better at giving oral ?  
Anyway lazy 69 from what I'm talking about  is laying on your side

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I don't mind if you lose focus during 69. I consider it a compliment. It's not a competition, just enjoy.  

I'm not into the BDSM scene, but it is a HUGE turn on when a woman is assertive about being pleased. I am especially turned on by being "forced" to orally please a woman. Sit on my face and grind that pussy and ass all over my face

I have been refused entry by providers due to size and greek is removed from the menu and only one woman has been able to open her throat for a true DT. It is kind of a curse.

This is a report from October but it was also on WCCO's news last night.

from Nov 15th

I also get pretty horny during storms, but have to add that very frigid and windy cold days also have the same effect- I want to be encompassed in a down blanket and warm naked skin and  try and make the windows steam up! haha

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Not suren this falls into the category of dominated, but it would be fun to be aggressively instructed in how to please your companion . Aggressive instruction  with equally aggressive encouragement... session being all about your pleasure
 
#11 I for one would love constructive criticism. I think it only makes recurring visits better. If your partner enjoys herself, that will likely reflect in your shared time together.