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Veryu well said Claeavers...Most people know of my dilike for alias's and typically they do NOT serve a valid purpose other than to stir the pot of trouble.
As I have always said, if you have something to say, Step up to the plate and say it, do not hide behind an alias!
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and it is not condusive to this hobby!
Six reasons why I support TER's "alias" policy:
1) It levels the playing field.
It is common knowledge that there is a private boys network that operates behind the scenes to share private information and formulate group positions on every subject. When someone posts a thread that differs from their position or that attacks one of their members then they respond like a pack of wolves devouring their prey. Anonymity encourages a lot more of the infrequent posters to get involved in the discussion while still allowing them to maintain their low profile existence.
2) It helps keep some of the few remaining women around.
Most of the women have either left this board or refuse to post under their real name due to the hostile environment that seems to exist here towards the local women. The ability for them to post with an alias is far better than not having them post at all.
3) It allows people to post without fear of retalliation.
Hot discussion topics sometimes brings out people who have extremely short tempers or those who prefer a fist fight over an intelligent discussion. Using an alias helps ensure that these people are kept at a safe distance.
4) It provokes interesting discussion topics.
A lot of people would not even be here if all of the posts were just about 411 on the latest provider, or just more complaining about rates. Many of the fun, interesting and sometimes controversial posts that seem to invoke lots of discussion routinely come from people who use an alias.
5) The truth comes out more.
People seem to speak more freely when they use an alias. Granted some of it may not always be the truth but I personally believe that the majority of it is.
And my favorite reason for using an alias is .......
6) It drives the "Control Freaks" absolutely crazy.
There are certain types of people who think that they have to analyze every post, research all of your previous postings and "PM" you about every little thing you say. Since they are not able to do this when you use an alias they become extremely agitated and react by posting a hostile reply.
I've said my peace, so ..... Flame away
It also allows for easy slamming of others with on fear of retribution. I'm w/MDL on this one, if you got something to say, stand up and say it or sit down and STFU. I've never used an alias and I don't intend to figure out how to even go about it. And yes, I was one of those guys in school that used to beat up the little shitheads that snuck around and "tattled" on people.
With free speech comes the rather sobering truth that you are also RESPONSIBLE for what you say! - And there by need to accept the "repercussions" of your voiced opinion - This board is a rather safe place to exchange differing opinions, But I still believe we have a right to know at least the correct "handle" of who's saying what to us! -- What if our founding fathers would have signed the declaration of independence in an "alias"!
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I have a good relationship (under my TER handle) and respect for a few of the posters on the other side of this issue, but I am afraid that I must disagree. I sometimes post under an alias to avoid harassment--some hobbyists have actually been the victims of extortion or have been "outed" in the past by escorts. I understand the attitude of "step up to the plate and say what you have to say", but I did not get into this hobby to demonstrate bravado (and quite frankly I don't see how courage can be measured on an internet board). No, it does not require bravery to post on a message board. It does, however, require a willingness to expose your career, finances, and marriage to potential destruction. Some may call this "courage." I call it an unnecessary exposure to risk.
eoFm. eoFm.
Let's at least punctuate these time-wasting huzzahs to posters with whom we agree.
From the our position in the marketplace(the buyer) we should already be unknown and anonimous when on the message board, our true identity isn't nessasary to pass from the board to dating encounters - For us, it's a "choice" whether to be "known" from this board or not. However I understand the ladies (the supplier of the goods) need to be "known" because this board is part of her marketing, her ability to watch what is being said about her on the board an in reviews, and in some cases offer us specials or flirt with us!(or bitch us out for calling them "old!" I support the use of aliases for the ladies who join us on the board. If they need to speak but not cross what they need or want to say with business - I understand. Technically they are "outing" themselves to us every time they accept an appointment from a guy on the board.
All though one of my least favorite things is some older gal, trying to tell me off - Because by nature, I "soften" my responses to women compared to if a male said the same things - It's just part of my nature, I really enjoy rough sex too, but only when a girl WANTS it rough! -- So I support a double standard, I and am willing to give women some "more than equal" rights - You can call it Chivalry or Chauvinist! (or how about "Chauvinistic chivalry")
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