I never have anything in writing, never carry phone numbers on me, I use a seperate laptop and erase all emails, no checks are written, I don't write ever write any notes, and I tear up any receipts for gifts right away.

Priceless

Night out with your "favorite girl":  $1000
Dinner and tickets to the opera:  $500
Hotel room:  $100
Being single and never having to worry
about the wife/girlfriend finding you cheating:  PRICELESS

Sometimes there's a feeling that money just can't buy
But that's just my opinion, I could be wrong.

Some Rules to Avoid Getting "Caught" (note I did not say to "prevent" getting caught, there is no foolproof method for that).

(1)This is the most important -- If someone else besides the person involved in your "secret" knows your "secret" -- it is NOT a secret.  Never tell ANYONE (even your best buddy since 5th grade) what you are doing.  

(2) Destroy ALL receipts immdeiately, pay cash whenever you can, for gifts, rooms (even very nice hotels accept cash), etc.  If you must use a credit card, obtain a separate credit card just for your fun endeavors and a PO Box for the statements.

(3)  NEVER EVER go to the same place with your spouse or SO that you went with your paramour -- the risk of being recognized is far too great.  Along those lines, make sure anyplace you go with your paramour is discreet (and please, discreet does not mean dingy, there are some very nice places that are discreet).

(4) Always "check" yourself before heading home.  A quick once over in the mirror, check your pockets for receipts or other paper trail items, if an automobile was involved, check for lipstick, makeup containers, hairbrushes, etc.  Make sure there are no long blonde/brunette/red hairs on your lapel.

(5) If at all possible, take a shower before you go home.  I always find a way to take a shower before I go home.  Have some cologne in your automobile and put a light amount on, if you go home smelling "fresh and clean" with no hint of your normal cologne lingering on you, it will raise suspicions, particularly at bedtime when she cuddles up to you.

I'm sure there are some others, but these have worked well for me.

I keep a travel kit at work with items to allow for a shower with soap similar to what is used at home.  An extra shirt is invaluable for those encounters which use fragrant oil and no shower is available.  (Note to providers, not sure if this is a widespread opinion but I appreciate lotion massages using common lotions not fragrant massage oils.) Good for if I miss a spot.

Tech wise goes a bit overboard, I have a server with no monitor attached that I access using terminal services.  That's where I conduct all surfing and e-mail related to the hobby.

Note to others:  If you are using your companies equipment as your alternate please clear your internet cache and history regularly as IT professionals do notice this.

Good luck to all

Re:When the wife busts you

Some time ago the wife got tired of being the one to pay the bills, and frankly, I was tired of having to explain charges on the credit cards, so I took them over.  Makes it very simple to charge and pay without a lot of explanations.  Another way is only do it during the day, or when out of town.  The simple rule of thumb is "when you deceive, you make at least 10 mistakes.  Try to fix at least 5 of them".  Things like, if you don't get a subscription to a city newspaper that has a large adult provider section, then don't go out and get one and leave it on the front seat of your car after session.  If you don't pay the bills, get a direct deposit of part of your paycheck into an account that the wife does not know about, that way she won't see large cash withdrawals.  Simple stuff like that is the best.  Anything elaborate is hard to maintain for long. Remember the K.I.S.S. theory.

Of course your not going to leave the hotel or resturant receipt laying around.  But, if you don't travel around the city as part of your job, try explaining why you bought gas in north mpls when you work in st. paul.  make sure everything is paid in cash.  also, don't forget that every bank account is accessible online, so the misses can always go and look what, when and where you bought something.

Never hurts to stop at the health club on the way home.  15 minutes in the sauna provide a very nice wet shirt etc. for the bag as proof of your workout and the reason you showered before coming home at 11:00.....

I would suggest some caution on these boards as well, and in reviewing here.  Suppose your dates of travel to various cities match the dates of your reviews here, for sessions in those cities.  Suppose further that you post on these boards with your main handle rather than an alias, so that those reviews can be matched with those posts--and the posts and reviews typify the way you think and write, and even the handle reflects your real-life interests. (Remember that the beginning of the end for the Ted Kaczynski came about through his brother's recognition of his prose style and preoccupations, in his published manifesto.) All this could readily turn initial suspicion into near enough certainty to warrant the hiring of a PI.

Anyone out there been busted on such TER evidence?  This site would not be hard for a concerned spouse to find, after all . . .