Hi, I was wondering how people go about negotiating fees.  For example, if someone were asking for 160 for a half, some people say that could get that price down.  Obviously, whether or not you're a regular plays a factor in price-setting, but how would one negotiate prices in general and what would be a good price point for the above example?  Thanks!

Maybe I've been foolish, but I've never tried negotiating.  If I don't think the fee is reasonable I don't set up the appointment.  I suppose if my tastes were esoteric I might find myself in that situation.  However, I'm pretty much a meat-and-potatoes kind of guy when it's time to play.

Most reputable ladies find negotiating to be disrespectful and a  turn off. There are some however where it might be standard practice but for the most part I would discourage doing that.  In chat a guy mentioned that his favorite stoped seeing him becuase he called her and asked her if he could come and see her for $$ instead of $$$.  After that she never returned his calls again.  So for him the chance taken was not worth the outcome.  What do I know? Just my .2 cents.

I don't like the idea of negotiating.... This is why I'll never go see someone whose ad says, "Rates start at.....". I'd much rather know what I'm getting myself into so I can have the fee ready when I get there. Anything to help keep the atmosphere from feeling too business-like.

RoundMidnight

Usually if a lady states in her ad: "My prices start at $X amount" then negotiating is acceptable.  But if a lady states that her rate is total cost or all inclusive, then trying to negotiate with her, like the guys said, will probably be looked upon as an insult.  

Every lady is different though, and maybe if you have been seeing her for a while, and say you want to negotiate so you can see her on a more regular & frequent basis, then asking to make a deal might not be frowned upon, (because you are offering something in return for her cutting a deal).  

Just approch it with caution with whoever it is, the worst she can say is no.

By golly, I think Morgan has got it!! I find that negotiating works when there is a developing relationship that is working in two directions. It should be a win/win for both parties. The ladies have a right to their view of their assets, and hobbyists have a view of their willingness to pay.

Somewhere between what the lady feels is right for her (in your particular case) and where you think you should be is the truth. However, the truth is in the eyes of the beholder.

In the case of the provider and the hobbyist, never forget that the provider is an independent business person and will assess every opportunity on its face value or better yet over some extended period of time with you. If they perceive there is going to be a continued "value" in meeting with you, then there is an opportunity to strike a bargain that may be different than the going rate.

I have found that negotiating for a win/win requires some "rapport and relationship" to exist prior to each party feeling they have struck a "best deal or reasonable deal".

Don't forget that this situation is fluid, and you should consider ensuring that you have put forward a "position" that is interesting and has value to the provider.

This is a touchy/feely business (pun intended), and the clinical approach to the transaction may leave you unfullfilled.

I have found in my personal ATF's that if it works both ways, there is always room for a negotiated agreement that is different than what the street will bear!! That's my $.02...

Bottom line. Negotiating with someone you like and have seen more than once will most likely yield a better result than a "brutal frontal assault" such as, "Hey there bend over and brace yourself, and I want a deal!".

Hangin

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