hi i am a part time hobbiest. i have problem with trying to give refernces as i live 3 hours from the twin cities and i try to keep my hobby very discreet. so how can i convince providers that i am not le or some geek? i am going to try in about two weeks to set something up with a provider but so many that i have been following on ter want references. HELP!!!

Otherwise I'd have a lot more trouble getting to see them.

Seriously though, you do have some options to consider
1)  See what other forms of screening the ladies in whom you are interested will take.
2)  Look at joining a referral service such as P411; if you are OK with the info the service wants then that opens up possibilities for you
3)  Look at escorts whose screening requirements you are OK with meeting.