If a gent shows up at a lady's for an appt. and she is not attractive to the gent, what's a gent to do? Let's assume the lady will not provide a photo or show her face prior to the appt.  

I would not leave unless she obviously misrepresented herself. That's the chance I take when I agree to see someone purely on the basis of limited information or pictures available to me.  A lot of time and energy is spent on me by the provider long before I actually see her, and as you mentioned, it's not very easy for her to make up that lost revenue if I just leave...

If she hasn't blatantly misrepresented herself, it was your choice to take a chance. I to have had the door open and thought, 'she isn't what I expected and isn't that attractive'. But I made the choice to visit with the information I had and most of the time it turns out pretty well.  
And ladies, don't get offended by the comparison, (some of you know how I love my food) but it's like going to a restaurant and ordering something from the menu. When it show's up at the table and isn't what I expected and really didn't care for it, I don't ask for my money back. It was my choice to try something new.

I agree with MM811 wholeheartedly... you just don't know where the diamond in the rough is..or the 'stinker' who just didn't make it worthwhile for you either..but in both cases, we can learn and hopefully touch others in a positive way. One last comment, I'm sure many of you have seen providers who have "improved" from their first visit. I know I have..sometimes there's a learning curve, theirs and ours.

I suppose that you could leave the money and leave.
Alternatively, you could go ahead and perhaps learn that beauty is much deeper than skin deep.

...how often a provider opens the door and didn't want to allow our ugly mugs to enter? Lol!  Thank god they seem to be much more tolerant than most of the guys!

I totally concur and I like the food analogy.  It's incredibly insulting to tell a woman "you're not attractive so I'm leaving".  How would it go over if some woman said "well your dick is a little smaller than I usually see and you're a fat ass but what the hell you're here so lets get this over with."  I realize they are in the service business and we are paying so it's not exactly the same thing but for goodness sake I'd rather burn the $$$ then look another person in the face and crush their feelings.  I'm a dude, I'm sure I'll still get it up.  Fine I'm a magina or whatever its called, I've been called worse.

The OP said, "Let's assume the lady will not provide a photo or show her face prior to the appt." So now it's up to the hobbyist to decide if it's worth the risk to see the provider w/o seeing a photo first. Once that decision's been made, and assuming there's been no misrepresentation (verbally for example) by the provider re looks, it's only fair that the hobbyist follow through with the appointment and try to make the best of it.

When I first started this 'hobby' I would stay.  But now have grown harden, by all the mis-representations.  LEAVE, if she's not the one your expecting.  Your time and $$$ is just as important as any else's.

If you are not enjoying it, she will be able to tell and could possibly effect her performance.
IMO, most ladies would not want to risk getting a crappy review in this situation.    Be nice
about it and  leave $50-100 for her time (and if she is working out of a hotel, offer to cover  
the cost of the hotel or portion of it).   This way, you do not have to go through the motions
and the lady at least is able to covers her expenses.   If this should happen, and you do not  
actually go through the appt, do not write a review.

This is a highly "visual" business.  If the lady chose to not even show a body picture then some of the responsibility should/could be hers. All businesses have some risk.  

That's a big difference IMO. Do not be under the allusion that any of this would exist without the money.

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NEVER!  Ha ha

Why is the instinct to be mean and say "you are not attractive"?   Why is their no instinct for decency and  
kindness?     No gal wants to be on the receiving end of a sympathy fuck.  No gal wants you to go through the motions if your heart is not in it.  We can tell when something is not right in your mind about what is happening.    

ooks are the first impression and SEXY is more than looks.  Many a time the pretty one's, the "good looking" ones can be the ugliest so easily because they've been sadly shaped by too much praise based on their looks that they turn rotten inside.  Certainly, there are those that are beautiful on the inside and out (you for one dear Trin), and since this is life on earth we get to see and experience everything and in this hobby even moreso as we expose ourselves as we play and play more!  

You are already there, so you might as well get your nuts emptied before heading out, then just take good notes on her so you dont get sucked in again the next time she switches up the fake pics in her ad...

Elan you didn't look at the books cover and tell me to get out. We would never have the wonderful relationship we have now. Heheheheee

Damn, I'm so disillusioned... And all this time I thought they've been letting me in because of my bad boy looks, dry sense of humor, and quick wit...

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Stick with well reviewed TER women and utilize TER for what they are here for.  

If a lady told you to get out and you drove to her and wasted time, you did actually see her so you can post a review and she would lose a lot of business.  I would be pissed if it happened to me.  I would not blame you one bit!!!!    

What came first, an initial review or a well reviewed lady?  We all know the answer!  What is TER here for?  The sharing of information.  New reviews tell much more than review number 100!

..& I am grateful for the gem hunters.  I also advise that those who are highly adverse to being disappointed to utilize the benefit of TER and the well reviewed gals.

Thank you, Elan.

Would you still give the same advice if you weren't reviewed yet?  There was a day someone needed to TOFTT on you as well.

This has turned out to be a very enjoyable and FRIENDLY post lol. Keep it up everybody and thanks for sharing your words of wisdom, humor, contrary points of view, and so on. Almost like a greatest hits...

if her body is represented correctly in her photos then I would say go head. What 1 person find attractive is different then let another 1 find attractive and some of us just don't feel comfortable with our face out on the net.

Yup, that's me, a modern Daniel Boone paving the way for those that follow in my tracks

gentleman please consider what you are telling the woman.  we have all had it happen and there is a big difference between a blurred photo (or no photo) and being clearly misled.
the most important thing is consider that you are talking to a human with feelings.  This lady is not selling time shares, she is offering herself.  
If you arrived by your choice and were not grossly lied to, follow through like you committed to.  She has gone to some trouble to be available and ready to see you.  The alternative is so cruel I can not even imagine doing that to any person.  You will have stated plainly that "you are not good enough".  Not poor performance which she has control of but "you" are too ugly, something she can not control.  
You are not going to have children with this lady so why would anyone with warm blood in there veins do something so unconscionably mean.  You are there at your request and you have made a promise.  If she is unattractive TURN THE LIGHT OFF and tell her she is beautiful.  What difference does it make, you are gone in an hour and you have an inalienable rite to never come back.

I'm assuming your responding directly to my comments so let me clarify.  My point was I would never say "your not attractive" or "you're not as attractive as what I was expecting based on your reviews and my attempts to judge your features by viewing your blurred photos".  If that was the case I would still complete the session not as a "sympathy fuck" but because although she's not exactly what I thought it doesn't mean it's not money and time well spent.  It is after all probably going to be great sex.  It's not like I'm blacktopping a roof in 100 degree heat, it's still very enjoyable.  

..... a need to TOFTT, that is.  Take a look at her first review, and you'll see a great example of how a first review should be handled.

My main point was that one doesn't have to say mean things and belittle.   There is a way to be honest and not hurt the other persons feelings...to be fair, even handed and just.    

Want to fuck?

When you really think about it, this one post, this one question, is THE question.  It cuts right to the heart of the most hotly debated topic in all of hobbying, the topic that hurts more feelings and drives a greater wedge between the "teams" than all others combined.

Nice post Omega, got me all choked up and I'm not being a smart ass!

Very very well said in my humble opinion.

That was so damn well written and that I must say, even with my staunch record of heterosexuality, I'd give you an oily handjob.  Of course I'll need two recent references.

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I see a lot of evidence that is the case.... within the hobby, and outside the hobby.  Everyone is seeking The Big 10 (no, not that Big 10 and it's 12 and soon 14 teams so it's not really the Big 10 anymore and.... sorry, got off track there).

The providers who "give a crap about our 'feelings'" are out there - you just need to seek that kind of provider.... if that's really what you WANT in a provider.

I wonder what you look like naked

it is not a fantasy island it is just a fantasy date.  

You mean that has never happened to you?   Happens to me all the time.

Perfect!! I could not agree more.

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For my part, unless I believed she had misrepresented herself, I would go through with the appointment.
 
I prefer to give people the benefit of the doubt and act as though she is worthy of being treated with respect until she shows me she isn't.

Are you sucking up,.....let me rephrase that....Are you practicing marketing or have you ever met me? If you have, thank you. I do not get that often unless you are a gay man. They, for some reason, have always found it necessary to hit on me.

Well said!

There is no correct answer. Thanks for the feedback.  This was hypothetical. I did not test on, nor we're any providers hurt during the testing of this question.

I posted about this before, but yes, this situation has happened to me before. No, my pictures are not misrepresented (at least not more so than anyone else's pictures are-- pictures are never "reality" but I would never purposefully make myself look much different.)

Belinda is a total hog