Hey guys, do you think that the ladies expect certain things from certain guys. In other words, does the word get out among the ladies that this guy likes this and that guy likes this, so we get treated that way because its our reputation. I guess for the guys, you need to be around awhile to have any insight on this. My two bits...its seems to me that my sessions are mostly all the same, and its getting sort of boring. It seems that way especially with ladies that I've seen alot. Only a couple ladies really try and switch things up, and do something different. It may be my fault too. Maybe I need to ask for something different, but that sort of ruins the surprise. I'm assuming that is why I've been looking for variety lately. Ladies...you can chime in on this too.
Are you always going for the ladies with the same body style? Do you only have 1 hour dates? Are your dates all incall or all outcall? Little changes can make a big difference. Try going for a dinner date, or even out for lunch. Anything that you let get into a routine is going to get boring.
Also, it sounds as though you always let the lady take control of the action. Try taking the initiative, and see where it leads. You may be pleasantly surprised.
And yes, we do get a reputation. As long as mine is that I am a gentleman, that's all I need.
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I know they talk, but I don't think they sit and compare notes about us. Maybe the are checking out the reviews that you have written, so they get a feeling for what you're wanting. The ladies do want to make you happy.
Well, you're right in that I do tend to let the ladies lead. And I tend to see a lot of the same ladies over and over, so they come to know what they think I like. I just need to break out of this mold, experience something new. Maybe I've seen it all and done it all. na....I know better than that. lol I need a really aggressive woman, or the opposite, someone who lets me take control and do what I want. lol Within reason, of course. Or, someone who trusts me and lets me be aggressive and is aggressive back at me. Just in a rut right now! I think those who know me just expect me to be good old easy going ----, fun to be with and easy to please.
...the ladies you have seen in the past, pick one that is totally different. If you have always cuddled, find a shark in the water type. There are a lot of great ladies on here, do your research.
You may want to see someone from the past, only this time talk to her, tell her what you want.
JMHO
I sound like I'm really dissatisfied. Just looking for variety, a changeup or curveball instead of the fast ball. It's not all bad, and those that have seen me should know that. Must be a funky mood tonight. The last review I wrote was outstanding. Got to repeat soon, just don't want it to be the same again. I'm just thinking that ladies need to be more creative and interesting. lol If I've seen them before, I'd let them do lots of stuff. lol
You have seen some very good ladies, I did not take it as you are dissatisfied. It just sounds like you are looking to change it up a little. The reason I recommended a lady form your past is that you are more free to discuss your wants with them. Communication is the key!
I think they are more concerned with are you a good client or not (or so I've been told). It can be easy to fall into a rut though, just like in a civilian relationship; if you want to shake things up you have to take matters in your own hands and see some new ladies or have a talk with the ones you see about doing some different things.
Yes the gals talk, but from what I've seen they don't take the time to build a session based on your habits.
References are all about whether you pay generously or at least fairly, are you clean and polite, and on time.
Sweetheart I miss your bright eyes! As for your question.. I think that it all depends on individual tastes and some long term connections can get very boring even in this venue. I know for me I'm different all the time I cant seem to keep things the same even if I tried (except my #1 fetish) anyways I go on feelings and try to bring surprise as I like spontaneity too. Have fun exploring fun! Warm kisses.
Well, since I'm batting for the "otherside". I'd like to ad a little insight on the subject. Honestly you gentlemen are talked about and scrutinized by us..not to the level we are by you but it certainly is a reality. There are certain hobbyists that are well known and are discussed. I think there can be the misconception that certain men expect certain things...but to a large extent what goes on during your time with a provider is regulated by you if you play your cards right.
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Hum! I think we did well! Let me show you again! 
Kisses,
Amber
I'll agree. We did well. I'm not sure what I'm looking for, actually, just want it to be extraordinary. If anyone has any ideas, let me know. Maybe I have been hobbing to much and need to back away for a while. I just don't know.
Otl,
I am going through exactly the same thing right now, and while thinking about it, this is probably exactly why I started into the hobby. I am learning communication is key, as in most anything we do.
I feel my problem is I feel I want something "more" but I for the life of me don't know what that is, so how do I articulate that to a provider or evena a civiee. What ends up happening is I fall into doing the same thing. Don't get me wrong I have had an awesome, unbelievable time with all providers I have seen, except one in Brazil, but I am still searching for that something. When I find "it" i will be sure to post what "it" was.
My perspective-
Many ladies have a style of entertaining. But, in addition to a style they respond to you. And you are right to an extent that we go back to those we feel satisfy our yearnings. Many do read your(our) reviews to get an idea what we like and how we like to do what we do. So, if you liked it once they think that you will like it again the same way. In a long term relationship you can explore with each other much more, but an hour here and there makes that true connection much more difficult.
Some providers are more passive- in fact I think most are more this way. They respond to you. They don't take serious initiate. If you like to finish a certain way they remember and if you were satisfied once I do believe they want to re-create that experience for you and them..
You sound like a very respectful guy, and within the framework of safety YOU need to indicate that YOU would like to throw a change-up, a curve.
Do you have any fantasies that you would like to fulfill?
How would a provider know that if you don't tell them? Also, as most sessions are an hour, your budget may dictate what you can do.
In Jest, you sound like my ex-wife. She expected surprises but never told me. Until it was too late.
Be careful what you wish for-you may just get it!
We all get into a rut sometimes.....but there is trust and a bond with the ATF/regular in my opinion.
I generally let a gentleman take the lead during a session but I remain in control.
Happy Hobbying
Red,
Your comment, "I generally let a gentleman take the lead during a session but I remain in control.", made me laugh. One time a woman who I had a mild disagreement with tell me "You may be right, but I'm not Wrong"
promises..promises. lol we are all lucky to have you sweetie.
For me, and I am sure for many other ladies we do not categorize our gentlemen as EASY to please, but rather FUN to please! I take my ques from my partner, from the reviews you have written and the communication we have had before the session. I myself, find it very erotic when a "regular" enters the session with a bold new attitude, idea and freedom. I have always been mindful of preparing for a session with a "regular" with as much effort and enthusiasm as I did for our very first encounter. While there is something super exciting about that first time meeting of coming together with a complete stranger, I find the freedom, comfort and openness comes more freely with repeat sessions.
That's nice to know. My times with you have always been great. I always feel that our times are open-minded and erotic. To anyone who has seen me...I think you know I get great pleasure from pleasing you. So don't try so hard to please me! Do what you like, what turns you on, what takes you over the edge and it will make me happy. Because I know that "what is good for the goose, is good for the gander". Trust is an essential element of getting wild. That's why I do repeat alot. I think that I just need to relax and realize that she likes this as much as I do.
Actually, I think it's a splendid idea...guys could opt in or opt out.
and that comes with an imagination and not so rigid boundries.
As lovers we need to get away from the norm, whatever that might be for you personally.
Variety comes in many forms.
See women of all ages groups and sizes and shapes but don't stop there. Try different positions and locations. Not always in bed with the lights out so to speak. Role playing is great, more couples should do it in their real civvie lives.
An imagination when dealing with relations is a great thing to explore.
Try doing it in public, if you have the courage...the first time may only take a few seconds you will be so excited! lol
Think outside the bos(bedroom). Foreplay is also a huge part of great relations.
Of course most of these options require more than a 30 minute session...some not even that long!
Good luck...explore new entities!
Amazing when the unexpected happens, but the lady has to think you would agree...example...she seduces you on the balcony of a hotel overlooking the pool and you have fun pumping away while she waves at the guests below or just stares out into the lake or ocean!
