Dear Providers - and feel free to use the alias to so you can answer honestly.(I am!!!) .. I know many of you enjoy what you do and others do what you do because you feel you may have to and still others may be forced to. To the ones who enjoy what you, please respond.  

I enjoy a session where there is a strong connection. I understand that much of this is a fantasy being played out and each person is playing a role - but there is still the possibility for mutual satisfaction. So if I can have a provider have an orgasm through my efforts, I feel great. I have always tried to observe the reciprocity approach

Others in the hobby may want to just concentrate on themselves and that's great as well. What ever you want - it is your money and you should pursue what ever makes you happy.  

For those of us (and judging by the reviews there are many of us)  that do want to make a connection with you what are the things we can do in and out of the physical realm?

For example - I have found some women like to have the breasts played with a bit more "aggressively" than others. I have found some that love to have their nipples played with gently and still others that have found that a bit irritating.  So how many like a "firm hand" and how many prefer a more gentle approach when playing with breasts?  

When it comes to DATY - it has been my experience that teasing around the clit as opposed to the full on attack seems to be preferred more.  What are your thoughts on this???

When it comes to non sexual, I get we should be respectful, clean and prompt - kind of table stakes there. What advice can you providers give us or provide some examples of things that your clients have done that have helped to set the tone either in advance (when setting up appointments) or when we meet? Typically there isn't a lot of time when the session starts - but any thoughts are welcome.

And remember - this is just a discussion board and we are talking about sex...not world hunger and if Michelle Bachman is crazy or not (she is by the way!!)  

For us clients - feel free to chime in as well with anything you may have done in the past especially around the non sexual stuff... most of the sexual stuff is spelled out in the reviews!!

Thanks for any and all responses --- let the discussions begin and have a great weekend.

Rudolf,

Providers are interested in a paying client that keeps paying within proper boundaries.  Some are better than others at feeding your ego and other psychic needs.  I think some guys might be better served by going on eharmony.com.   Those that feel a need for a "connection" seem to keep wanting that connection to get deeper and deeper until they forget its a fantasy.

It's NOT all about the money. It takes a woman that loves sex and loves people to be good at this work. This IS fun for me too.....yes,there is risk and sacrifice, hence the $$ exchange, but girls that are faking it, don't always last long or excell in this biz.  Boys aren't THAT stupid!
I like slow, sensual, soft touch, sexy music, candles......SEX IS FUN!!

Hilary I agree completely!  Lets face it there are plenty of ladies in the real world that are kind of free, (if you don't consider dinner, drinks, and entertainment cost).  That would be called a relationship.  This is a hobby or fantasy whatever you want to call it.  Sex is fun and even more fun when you get to enjoy it with a different person for time to time.  

I am glad to see we like the same things.  

I agree with the previous poster, They have some very valid points. If its not fun, all involved will not enjoy it. And for me, money has nothing to do with it. If you do your research, you should have a good time. Personally, I stay away from BP. Too much of the unknown there for me. Stay with a well reviewed provider.

Also, if there is no connection, to me its a waste of time for both involved!!

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Also, the connection is a big part of it for me. If we don't connect, its not much fun.

IMHO, a few of the most important things are mutual respect, open communication, and just plain decency.  If you keep these things in mind, most everything else just falls into place and works.  It
really is that simple.  

My .02 cents.
belinda

I agree with you completely.  It is more enjoyable and HOTT when the two people have a connection.

So how often does a "connection" really happen?  Great when it does but likely a minority of the time....

I think that's a very good point imnotpretty (I'm not pretty either). Forgetting that this is fantasy almost always ends in trouble (unless you are Richard Gere and Julia Roberts).

There are only a very few gents that I was not able to connect with on some level, and
even those cannot in all honesty, say that they did not enjoy their time with me.   I
try to find something wonderful about every person I meet up with.

Perhaps, I have such good luck in this regard because the gentlemen who I meet have done
their homework and I have done mine.  There are several that have wanted to see me but I
turned them down because I did not feel it would work to both our benefits.   I have miscalculated
a few times and have seen 2 or 3 maybe that I should not have but my instincts are right, most times, IMO.

Happy hobbying, Everyone!   It is going to be a most wonderful day!  
Hugs, Belinda

Oral pleasures....

Just my 2 cents...

xoxo
Kyla