I am an under the radar provider, well reviewed and happy with my life and life choices.  I enjoy what I do, I help other ladies out with references, and I think people enjoy this hobby for a variety of reasons.  Some wish to find an ongoing relationship, others are here for the variety.  To each their own and let's all be happy happy happy!

So I was rather unhappy to recently learn that my name has come up in what people call "back channels" which might also be called gossip allys.  "Oh, she went under the radar, she must have been busted" "She must have been working with LE" "she must have been (fill in the f*&King blank)".

Can we please stop the drama?  If someone is still around, has been around, has reviews, is getting new reviews sometimes, has not disappeared without a trace for weeks or months with no explaination and suddenly you "hear" these rumors, can you just ask for clarification?  Why believe the junk people whisper in your ear just so that you will go back to see them, and not me or someone else?

By all means be safe.  Be smart.  See reviewed people or take your chances on the potential "diamonds in the rough" if that is what gets you off!  Enjoy what you do.  See the ladies you enjoy, the TYPES of ladies you enjoy, and LET OTHER PEOPLE DO THE SAME.  Have some respect.  We are all here to have some fun, make some money, relieve a physical or emotional need, or none or all of the above.  Let's get back to doing that, what do you say?

Gossip make the world go round? I don't think so.  Gossip shuts some worlds down.  Unless that is your intention to spread suffering in the world, let's get over it.

It won't do any good, mind, but it's worth saying from time to time.

NoMoreDramaPlease,

You expressed your thoughts well.  I think that there is more underneath what you said.

Besides, your advice is senseless: "See reviewed people or take your chances on the potential "diamonds in the rough" if that is what gets you off!"

Oh yes, we would much rather just roll the dice instead of using other means of getting information.  What are you trying to do, stop people from talking over email?  Good luck.

TER's policies force back channel communication.  Posting vague accusations about unnamed individuals who did unclear things is not going to curtail it.  

Well said and we thanks you. I do however want people to share the facts.  Their was a bust a few weeks ago and it has been reported to me that the individual did not screen or check references.  remember this is a hobby and the more we share the better off we all are.  The ladies in this town are wonderful and they are more than will to let you use them as a reference if you have treated they as ladies.  Girls many thanks we do appreciate each and everyone of you.

Vey well put. I agree with you 100%. I think you would of got more responses and what not if you wouldn't have posted under an alias though.

Please allow me to clarify.  Some people will only see very well reviewed people.  Some people raelly enjoy going through other sites such as BP and CL and potentially TOFTT.  All I was saying is enjoy this hobby however it is that you do it.  But please when someone says "so and so was busted" please
a) don't perpetuate that rumor which IS only a rumor unless you personally verify with the person in question that it is not or
b) if you know the person in question, ask them what is up so that at least they KNOW a rumor is going around and has a chance to correct it.  If it is a false rumor, let the person who told you the gossip know that it is simply not true (and then decide if that person is who you wish to see again).

No I am not imagining that people will stop talking over email.  But since most providers HAVE email or phone numbers on their profiles, why not contact them too and find the real story.  I know this sounds like an unlikely success with ladies you don't know but really what else can I suggest as a way of ending gossip? At least if a person know there is gossip then can address it if they want to.