A new local provider asked for my full name in order to see me along with the usual screening info. I refused and she told me that it is standard practice around the country and that no self respecting provider would see someone without that info. It was a deal-breaker for both of us. She said that it reflected the quality of the providers that I am seeing. I personally don't know what common practice is nationally but I not would give my full name under any circumstances. How do hobbyist and providers feel about this here in MN? I've never had another provider ask for that info here and I have 92 reviews.

...for her name.  If she wants yours would she give hers?

or what ever information she feels she needs. You have the right to provide the information you feel comfortable with. Looking at your reviews, you already know whether or not you have to give your full name to see great ladies. Anyone who would say that with regard to some of the ladies you have seen may not be worth your time anyway. If that's a deal breaker, the deal should be broken.

Was she willing to give you her full name in return?  I'm guessing no...  One quick google search on my name and a provider could extort me until I had nothing left...  I don't know what fantasy world she live in. I've only had one highly rated provider require that of me and I simply told her no thanks.  There are more amazing providers in this town than I can possibly see in the next several years so there's no point in putting myself in such a vulnerable position.

No.  Joined P411 and have had no problem here or in several other cities around the country.  Full name never has been requested.  In my opinion it doesn't seem to be a practice used by all providers around the country, but probably varies by the individual provider and the circumstances.  So deal breaker for me.  Too many other choices out there

Who is the provider in question?

No Self-respecting Provider would see someone without knowing their full name?? really???  
When they've got a long list of references to vouch that the guy is safe to see?  

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I have given my full name to a provider for screening, and I understood the reason for it, and I felt comfortable doing it.  I was just starting out, with no references.  I understood that she needed to protect herself.  I also understood that she was sharing a lot of herself with me.  Yes, she could have tried to blackmail me.  I could also have made life difficult for her.  But I knew that she wouldn't, because she was a well respected provider with many positive reviews and references.  

I don't know the "quality" of this "new provider" but I DO know there is no higher quality Woman than you Portia.

...is getting really bad advice from someone she looks to as a mentor. Maybe she needs to reach out to a more seasoned and savvy established Provider for wiser advice on how to make this work well for both parties.

I've very, very seldom been asked for my full name and this provider's assertion about the 'quality of providers' is not supported by anything I have ever heard of being typical, either here in MN or elsewhere in the country.

I had the same request in the last week from a new provider in town, but gave her other information instead, including some P411 and TER whitelist, telling her she could call any of the ladies listed as a reference. I offered to meet her at a neutral location before our meeting and said I'd show her my driver's license if I had to, but no email with my name and nothing before we met. All that made her feel more comfortable. I don't know if she contacted my references, but we met and didn't need to advance meeting or license. Had a great time, too. My guess is she's getting bad advice and talking with her about alternate options may do the trick.  

In an attempt to arrange an appointment with a sexy and fun provider, I have even offered up my LinkedIn profile. I know that would send a shutter through most seasoned hobbyists, but I trust this individual

...is why does she needs it with that many references?

That's the issue I have ... Yes she can ask, expect, demand all she wants and she has the right but to ASSUME anyone who uses other methods is less quality than herself is cocky and disrespectful to the many amazing local ladies here who use various ways of screening!  

Amen honey!

proper way to screen a new client with no references.
and no reviews writtten.

I have multiple ways I screen.  
As long as I know the gentleman is not a killer or a cop I don't care if his name is Fred, John, Ringo or Steve.  
On the other hand, some gentlemen I DO want their full name. It is all about the comfort level of the PROVIDER you're trying to bone.  
If she is asking for more then you want to give move on.  
If she charges more then you want to PAY move on.  
No one is forcing you to give your name, you don't have to see her. In turn she can allow anyone she wants/CHOOSES to touch her body.  
I for one don't give a flying fuck if you have 3, 94, 500 reviews; ldm -I would never see you. There is no personal information that you could provide that would make me change my mind about seeing you.  

Karley I don't wanta sound like a jerk here....... But some guys will turn everything you just said into a full circle about being comfortable and the safety issue.  It is a big can of worms pretty much.

Agreed, there is this thing called a DNSL that we all have, well most of us just as i'm sure you guys do as well.. If someone contacts me that's on my DNSL i ignore them period. She may have just wanted to make up some excuse not to see you.. My DNSL includes hobbyist whom have shown poor behavior on TER, people I've screened with horrible record and people who blow up my inbox over and over and over. Not sure why my original post was pulled will try to re post.  

There shouldn't be much of a hassle, though when i started 7 months ago i did require full name etc due to having NO knowledge on how the reference system works and not knowing any of the lady's i now know.    
   
 With that said, if shes truly new she may just need a little help, for someone to maybe explain to her how it works (like a amazing provider taught me).. But if that's the only way she feels safe that's honestly up to her and up to the client to give the information..    
   
   
 When i did require fist and last names 3 out of 10 would fork it up WITH having references.. Again... I had no idea on how references worked.    
   
 5 months later, i only require full name for new friends WITHOUT references. Which is standard..  
   
 The only way you have to give me a full name is if your references saw you over 9 months ago.. The more recent the better.. and that's just my 2 cents..  
   
   
 You guys please, as being new myself give the girl a break, its hard being the new girl (i still am) but freshly new is a whole nother animal. From all of the story's I've heard from well known well respected providers, it took some of them years to figure things out... Remember we are only human, humans fuck up.. Let it go.. I personally know how hard it is to try to come back from making newbie mistakes, and some people here can be extremely judgmental and not look at it as a mistake, a simple mistake.. We grow and learn from our mistakes.. I hope no one took that the wrong way, nore was i saying anyone's being judgmental on this thread if you feel that way that's a personal problem. I'm stating my experiences. A doctor doesn't become a doctor with in a week, hell even a year everything takes practice and hard work. Let the girl figure things out, give it a few months or even a year.  
   
 I'm just saying, being new is HARD any little mistake I've made has blown up and people still talk, :oh well brushes off shoulders TALK IS CHEAP: and if your reading this, don't let anything ANYONE says get you down, PERIOD do what you feel comfortable, if you need any advice though i'm still new hit up my inbox.  
   
   
   
 Love and happiness

I've been at this for 36 years and have always used my real name.  I provide any personal details they want as long as they do the same.  When I started this I knew that the risk of being caught was real and accepted that risk.  At times I've encountered providers in public when accompanied by my wife.  We never made sustained eye contact, but usually talked about it in our next session.  I've never been betrayed by a trusted provider.

I have known the full names of a lot of my providers with whom I've maintained multi-year relationships.

It made me Smile Really Big.   Loved it.  

Wow!  
 I had no idea I was doing it all wrong over the past 15 years without an issue by just needing a couple provider references or just you having some verifiable reviews P411 or otherwise.  
Does not know what they're even talking about and if they're that paranoid they need to not even bother being in this hobby .  
No one needs to have your full info .  
Xoxo V

I think it is reasonable for a lady to ask for the gent's name.  But, I also think it is reasonable expectation for a man with a long list of reviews to have earned his stripes and not be required to give his full name.   I think it all depends on the situation.   Is the guy new?  Are the ladies he has reviewed new or not known to the provider?   Did the lady catch you in a lie?   These are some of the situations where she might want to know more than your TER handle.

The hobbyist has the right to refuse to supply the requested info

Knowing what I know about you I don't trust any of your claims here & I hope in the event you have PM'd her identity to anyone here they are wise enough to take your claims with a grain of salt. The number of whitelist referrals vs the number of reviews you have speak volumes to anyone with 1/2 a brain.

And that goes for both providers and hobbyists alike.

I stated my opinion and I stand by it.
Period Point Blank

You always make me smile Ms. Good. My feelings exactly and I have observed many providers contact forms on their websites asking for "name" what is that supposed to mean? For the most part if I am familiar with the hobbyist, they have a good fair amount of reviews or are also a member of P411 or whitelisted, I may skip asking for a full name, but if I have never heard of them before, they are a newbie, they only have a few massage references that have no reviews or much of an identity anywhere I will ask.  I hope I don't get slammed here but I have explained to some that apply, most are very willing though, that it is a criss/cross,  when you meet me at any one of my incalls , you now know the location, address, maybe even more and would be easy to find out more if you were that type of person, so what is the problem if I hardly have any other information to go on about you?  On the flip side, there are some clients that have more then a few reviews and are whitelisted that include full name and work identity right on their letterhead to me- I know, I know- leave it to me to throw a wrench in the tricycle wheel on a Sunday in here, but the bottom line is keeping ME and YOU safe.  Shoot away now , but I have stuff to do, I will check occasionally. Love you Sam~  
Could someone answer me though about contact forms and the question name? or even full name? thanks! J.

But Ray, you are a member of P411 and no doubt Oks as well as reviews I would assume, I didn't look before I wrote this haha.  Big difference. J. xxxoo

Now we have a predetermined whitelist to review ratio as decreed by our lordess of the board Leann?

Depending upon the provider, which means highly respected, well reviewed, I have no problem revealing my full name.

If any of you were around before the internet you probably remember answering some rather intimate questions and sometimes even more once you arrived.  After that you were good to go.

a.  you know the answer to your question
b.  you're using the board to pressure a new provider
c.  grow up

Yeah, like, may I see your drivers license lol
we always asked for that.
this i know, ive been around.
and no one had an issue ever!!!!!!