I was just told by a provider recently that she wanted to marry me. This is the second time it has happened to me (different girl this time). It made me kind of uncomfortable,  and I don't know if I should keep seeing her, or texting her for that matter. I was wondering, has anyone else had this happen to them?

I've never seriously considered "marrying" a provider, but I've dated some outside of pay-to-play and had a few live with me in an on/off sort of way for long periods of time in a sex-4-rent arrangement...  

Right after they have the best orgasm they've ever had.... ;=O

I've had a provider refer to me as her husband.  

She might be trying to play you, thinking she get can get a lot more out of you by being your SO, at least for a while.

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(We of course were barebacking, as is my usual custom).  Anyway, it took me aback a bit and I asked her what she meant, come to find out, she WAS actually married, and he was in jail... Which lead to that me asking "are you ok?" And her saying "not really" and a whole string of events were I let myself sink into someone else's quagmire way to far before pulling out and running away...  

I concur.

She love you enough to go off the clock for awhile? She love you enough to retire?

I have been a hobbyist for years. Lots of ladies have made me happy and vice-Versa.

This is supposed to be a professional relationship. Friendly conversation and chatter are fine. Even exchanging some emails between appointments is OK. Common interests, conversation and such make together time even better.

on those dinner/shopping dates, did you pay her regular rate for her time?

No did not pay any rate. Paid for dinner and shopping. Also, shopping was nothing spectacular. Shopping was done at a Grocery store/Walmart/Target.

If and when one person or the other oversteps those boundaries, it is time to end it.  It is a business relationship and should be kept that way.    I have learned from personal experience.

But I've had several do a little fishing.  Asking if I was involved, hinting how they would like to go riding with me (I train horses).  I think my ATF from years ago, (a hot little Italian girl I'm sure many here would remember) Would have dated me, and had things worked out differently in my life I would have dated her.

I totally agree with your statement Bell,
I too have personal experience under my belt.
I had to learn the hard way back when I began to partake of the hobby many years ago, I was inexperienced, I dared to cross the line, with a young lady, who was UTR. We had it in our minds, that it could work, and the result, was a painful lesson to us both.

Since that time, while I may have had genuine feelings for some ladies, I have toed the line, and not ventured past, even when the other party has tried in vain, to get me to cross.
it is business, or it is other, but not both.

Even in personal relationships, Boundaries are everything, and many here in the hobby, are crossing boundaries, and living on the edge.

No less then 6 of my latest dates have been calling or texting looking for another visit.  It's enough to drive a man to dating!

the Love Goddess, who is a certified sex therapist and psychologist, and who ran the Erotic Highway board for some years, used to address this issue thusly:  

Pollenbroker has it nailed,  you are being chumped.

I don't disagree with the Love Goddess -- but I do wonder how provider behavior differs from that of a wife/SO?  Try telling your wife/SO you want to quit your job and live on love for a few years and see how that goes over.