As you all know, I never post back here but I wanted to ask the ladies and gents too about threesome etiquette. I recently had a threesome with another provider on my free time and a personal deal. The guy was staying with me n we had been together for 3 long years. Our relationship has been hot cold all three years so it was on its way out. Now I love woman and couples and apparently she has done doubles before. Now granted this wasnt a paid gig and we all had emotional ties to each other but dont the rules apply the same as if it were a work related gig? Like if I do a couple and we are done and im out the door, she has to trust that I wont be calling her man. Woman can be very territorial in a threesome which is why the only person that matters on feelings and really trusting one another is the female? Right? So this provider and my now ex hooked up behind my back and ignored me for days on end and they were no where to be found. And they keep being mean to me saying some pretty messed up things like "we should be like the three musketeers and im not sorry I did your man only sorry you werent there." I dont care if you hd sex with him but it shouldnt be behind my back it should be in front of me. And we are not the three musketeers since you two decided to have twosome. This was supposed to be threesome. They act like im the wrong one. So am I justified for being md and hurt and feeling left out of have the rules changed? Is it ok for them to have done this behind my back after I clearly told both of them that I wasnt ok with it?
Personal relationships are much different than P4P relationships and the rules are not the same. It sounds like you invited another woman into a personal relationship that was admittedly unfulfilling or hot and cold. If your relationship was as stormy as it sounds it's not surprising he slipped away with her if she's giving him everything he wants......for now. It's probably time to leave them both in your past and move on to something new with less drama. My thoughts on threesomes is that they are best left strictly as P4P. When brought into personal relationships they invite the very result you found. Best of luck to you finding happieness.
I feel like when doing a 3some for work, a paid gig, the trust doesn't fall on me as the paid provider, it falls with the couple who hired me. They made a decision, I assume together in most cases, to call a provider so they must trust each other not to make it more than that and not to pursue anything more. I as the provider have no emotional ties. However in your situation all 3 of you are emotionally invested therefore it becomes a little more complicated. If the three of you went over the rules and they knowingly broke them they are definitely in the wrong. I think this is why some couples who want a 3rd person choose to call a provider and not bring in someone from either of their personal lives..as it is, neither of them seem to be worth your time...I'm sorry you had to deal with 2 "friends" who felt it would be okay to sneak around behind your back.
Sounds like in your post it was your personal relationship taken to a p4p level, correct? It sound like the other provider work in' her business on your man. If he is paying she will continue playing. A good rule of thumb would be to keep personal and business desperate.....NO deals! In my experience it is best to have a third party in a 3some to always be a stranger to both parties, it is a rare bird that can fly away from an amazing 1 time deal and remain friends. Random sex between friends is a huge risk! Time to move on and try again, good luck! P.S. Silver lining is you got out of a rocky relationship Scott free with no blame!
At the risk of sounding a bit harsh, it looks to me like this 1) They have already broken the agreement 2) They aren't repentant 3) They sound like they plan to keep seeing one another 4) You are not OK with this You said the relationship was on its way out so I'd say it's time to consider it finished.
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