But, every so often, I do feel some anxiousness and uncertainty when meeting new friends.   And, if I know the gent is early driving around the parking lot and scoping things out, that anxiousness would be increased.  I think you would be better served to be punctual but not early.   Be discreet and act like you belong there.   I don't always remember, but I try to tell the gent exactly where the elevator is so he is not in the lobby looking like he's lost.  You want to blend in as much as possible.  Driving around and scoping things out only brings attention to yourself.  

You should look at a girls reviews.  Sometimes, if the girl has a driver or a pimp, someone has written it in the reviews.

They are typically smart and experienced enough to avoid trouble.  Once you have some experience then you are more likely to be able to sniff out a bad situation and avoid it.  But there is no foolproof solution and a little paranoia is a useful thing for a hobbyist or provider.

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Seriously. This sounds totally miserable. If I was you, I'd stick to outcall at a decent hotel. Nice, neutral, public ground for you both.

is in large part excellent.  I am reminded of the scene in Ocean's 11 where Brad Pitt is explaining to Matt Damon all the rules of pulling off the scam of being an agent from the NGC (Nevada Gaming Commission).
He gives him plenty of advice and direction but when he gets to the most important item, Pitt is interrupted and you never get the key element to remember.  Same here.  Its different for each of us.  The best most solid advice is to see well reviewed providers and follow their lead on getting to the meeting.