I'm starting out, naturally I'd like to have reference history.  
Is it therefore a give that I should check up front that she'll be a reference?  
Maybe that' a dumb question but I'd prefer not to see some people and find out they'e not reliable or just don't communicate references to others

I always ask if it is okay to use someone as a reference. Asking for a whitelist referral is also a good way to gain a reference.

It's also wise to give them a heads up when the time arrives that you actually plan to use them.

ou get an OKAY after each visit and that is spectacular as it saves everyone time, keeps this hobby the most safe, it's discreet and is used often in the twin cities and many other cities across the country and the world