What motivates you to be *politely* persistent when wanting to see someone & when do you decide it's time to just let the opportunity go?  

 
Reason being is I handle all of my own admin and the last six weeks or so I've started to reflect on level of effort in the inquiries I receive. Now, the level of effort in all the inquiries I've received span the gamut. There are some who reach out, receive my template auto-responder and never reach out again. I imagine people feel that a template response comes off cold, but I do not have an assistant and need a way to get people the information they want quickly AND sort through the chaff (re: time-wasters). Whereas others, both new and returning friends, will fill out the booking form or email all the information required, send a follow up email to let me know they've sent in screening, make every effort to match my schedule, even offer to pay flight change fees/Amtrak fees/travel fees, and for an incall for an extra day in their city, etc. and everything in between just to ensure we can connect.  

 
That said, is it that that person is just someone physically you can't really find elsewhere and you absolutely must see? Or is it their personality? If you move on quickly, is it due to only wanting an engagement out of convenience?  

 
There's no wrong answers here. I'm just "vocalizing" some questions that have been floating around in my head.  

xo

I am only speaking for myself here, but I think priorities can run the gamut.

Sometimes I only have a specific window when I can meet. Sometimes I might be looking for a certain type of provider from an appearance standpoint. Sometimes I might need a bit of a connection.  

I have a weird job and planning well in advance is hard for me, so I sometimes am looking for last minute or looking for something at the end of the day and I know that isn't always easy.  

I think the other part of this is there are times when I reach out to more than one provider because I'm not sure who might get back to me. I get that the downside for providers are guys who waste their time. The downside for men can be providers/schedulers who suddenly vanish or change their schedule at the last minute, etc.

If I get a negative response then I'm done.  This can be anything from rudeness to arrogance to simply discovering that something like her screening requirements or rates aren't in line with what I'm willing to do.  In the last cases, hopefully that info is available before I even make first contact but sometimes that's not the case.

If I'm getting little to no response then I probably won't try more than 2-3 times depending on how interested I am.

If I get a good response but we are just having issues getting our scheduled to mess than I can keep trying for a good while although not indefinitely.  At a certain point I'll just decide I've put too much effort into it or maybe she really just doesn't want to see me and move on.

Like was said by the two gentlemen above me. It could be a slow process, likes months because I see her. Then it could be "in the mood". Nowadays, because of my age, that it takes more stimuli to get my Evenrude going, so I love to see more than one...a threesome. Plus ones that work together well...if you know what I mean, LOL

...it's by a combination of personality and reviews, though the visuals override everything.
2) Even if I'm hooked, I am above all horny. Deferring horniness is not a skill of mine, or enjoyable. But it happens very occasionally, if hooked hard enough. The thing is, there are so many options. I've never seen so many strippers providing on the side. Thank you COVID. Twitter and Instagram bring more into the hobby every day. The temptation to move on is constant, especially if screening takes too long.
3)  Rigid screening processes often don't work well and take significant, valuable, time, as providers are also aware. They are sterile and unattractive right when I am hoping to encounter a real person. It is the anti-viagra.
4)  Instead, I usually work quickly with references & recommendations from friends (50%), or with known schedulers and agencies (30%). First option is a phone conversation. It's sometimes easy to tell immediately if it's going to work. Almost without exception, the beautiful smart local (underlined) women I've met are friends of friends. The other 20% is impetuosity.
5)  The provider who takes the time to look at my first approach and makes an informed, quick decision to get back to me will get my business 9 out of 10 times, even when they need something else from me. If I run up against proforma screening, 9 times out of 10 I will drop out. Only twice in the last year have I followed through beyond that point.  

A story. A provider asked me to fill in her screening requirements on a supposedly secure web form. Two days later she sent an email following up. At the bottom of the email was -All My Personal Info- as part of the email thread. I was furious, and pointed out that unencrypted emails are basically public info. She blew a fuse. I blew 2 fuses.

Well it wasn't my intention to get this far into the topic, but...  
Lastly: The search for the ATF goes on, and I've come really close...  Usually my reviews are of newcomers and disasters.  Looking back over the last year, 60% are first reviews, and there are surprisingly very few regrets among them. There are another maybe 10 people not reviewed. Four of them I am seeing regularly now. (This will be the year I go bankrupt, but it has been crazy fun)  
Maybe this is the significant point: I did not screen this year -- other than with references, an email, and maybe a hobby phone number -- for any of them.
As the OP would say,  
TL.DR - I don't often hang around to fill in screening forms.  
[Paige, if you read this far, you could take the comprehensive screening info I emailed to you as a compliment. No one can call me rigid... except my intimate friends]

A couple thoughts to share:
- Past reviews really drive my level of commitment to pursuing a provider.  If the reviews consistently talk about passion, presence and being engaged in a session, and there’s a strong attraction to her physically, I’ll be persistent.
- Screening info requested plays a role.  I reached out to a high end traveling pro a few weeks ago and their expectations surpassed my willingness  (e.g., selfie holding my drivers license , personal cell phone number, 2 references in addition to P411, 90 min minimum, ~$1000 donation).  That’s a hard pass for me.  In general, if a provider asks for more info than P411, my interest needs to be exceptionally piqued (as was the case for the lovely Ms Paige who asked for a bit more than just what my P411 profile provided, and yes, she was/is worth it…).
- There have been a very few cases (two I can count) where the provider is so compelling to me, I’ll take a leap of faith in pursuing time with them, even in absence of reviews.  For those, I’ll call in my best references, generously support them on OnlyFans, and wait for months for a response to my request (though with regular interaction on OF) on the hope that it comes thru one day.  Call it waiting to land the big fish.

The late Joe Carbo said every enquiry was potential gold. He lamented throwing away that potential considering the cost of generating that interest in the first place. But if you are booked solid or as much as you want, then the effort not so important.  However if your short of your scheduling goal, then pursuing all leads is not a waste of time.

I’m not sure how this particular opinion answers the question at hand. As I said above, I answer every inquiry. To reiterate, I’m asking what makes a client be persistent versus cut their losses. However, thank you for your answer.

I'm not persistent at all.  Too many alternatives.  If they can't be bothered to get back to me, I move on.