Things happen and we have to accept it as part of life. But what bothers me in this day and age of instant communications is when someone does not have the courtesy to contact me to cancel.

I made an appointment with Remy a well reviewed provider in Minneapolis. Her profile and posts here on TER got me interested in her. We emailed back and forth several times during the week. On Wednesday or Thursday she posted that see had moved to Mankato to continue her graduate studies, but still had outcalls available in TC. I emailed her on Thursday evening confirming our date for Saturday at 3pm. She replied that she had a friends apartment available or she could get a room. She asked me how long of a meeting I wanted.

Friday I replied to her and told her I would email her at about 2pm on Saturday to get directions. Saturday comes and at 2pm I email her, no reply. I email again at about 2:15pm, no reply. I call and leave a message at 2:30pm, no reply. I send another email about 2:45pm. This time I get an auto reply email saying that "I am on hiatus until December. " I guess at 2 and 2:15 she was still working but at 2:45 she stopped.

I emailed her again asking for an explanation and all I got was an auto reply.

I know I should have a back up plan as was suggested to me. But I didn't. So I'm out a little money for gas and a wasted weekend. Hopefully next weekend things turn out better.

It's likely something came up at the last minute.  I'm sure it sucks. but she has a good reputation and I doubt it was avoidable.  I would not let it bother me.  

Its not clear, based on your account, that there was a clear commitment on her part, nor yours after she asked how much time you wanted and you didnt answer her till the next day.  Sounded pretty iffy from the start.

From his description, they had a reasonably firm plan in place although not all the details had been finalized.  Given her reputation, it looks like something unavoidable and unfortunate happened after her last email to him on Thursday evening.  The emails he was sending went from getting no response to getting the auto-response so she or someone was using her email account.  I don't think he is being unreasonable in expecting at least a quick email along the lines of "something came up; can't make it."

I am curious if anyone else can shed any light on the matter without compromising Remy's privacy.

She did it to me a few weeks ago.

OP- "Maybe this post will somehow  get to her so she can contact me to explain."

Vorlon - "I am curious if anyone else can shed any light on the matter without compromising Remy's privacy."

Sweet mother of God, do we have to go there?? For the life of me, I will NEVER grasp why a girl not following thru with an appointment seems to get some of you guys panties in such a sanctified bunch.

I can see if you had made elaborate plans, rented a hotel suite where you could not get your deposit back, sprang for an outfit you couldn't return or paid the girl in advance and she didn't show.

None of that happened. The most you lost was a few hours of time and a couple gallons of gas. For that she must rush to the board to beg your forgiveness?? Give me a frikkin break!

I get the urge to warn other guys that calling the girl might just be a waste of time, what I get lost is the desire for an explanation, or apology.

I think the mistake most of you guys make is believing the dangerous lie that this is actually a date. It's not! It's a frikking business transaction! She can either make the appointment, or she can't. And she don't owe you jack crapalackasquat if she decides at the last minute, that there are more pressing issues in her life than accepting the generosity of a stranger.

I'm absolutely all for more professionalism in the business but these woe is me, I got stood up, the sky is falling, I demand an apology posts just slay me. She's not your girl or your ex and bottom line is, the party don't start until she actually shows up. And if she doesn't show up, no need to be 'puzzled or troubled'. Take it that she's a grown woman with her own reasons. You still got your money, the sun will rise tomorrow and you hopefully will get fucked again.

cannot find the time or inclination to respond to emails, especially when she knew what time to expect it and look for it.  Things DO happen but a simple email or reply to calls is just common courtesy.  We all deserve at least that when unforeseen cirmcumstances come up.  A little good communication goes a long way and most men are understanding, IMHO.   They just want a little respect for their time!  

To the OP, I am really sorry this happened to you and I wish you better luck next weekend. Hopefully, whoever you see is worth the wait!

Lapdoctor has it right.I don't hear any providers freak out when they get a ncns.I had a ncns last week all I did was look for another date and all was good.

Maybe if you give her some more time, you two can work it out, in a way that works for both of you.

Remy seems really dedicated to her provider life.
She definitely strives to be high quality.  

I hope you two work it out.  
I don't know what happened to Remy, but she is sincere and tries to deliver the best experience, ya know what I mean?
I hope you two can communicate soon, so you can find peace with this issue.

*insert an internet hug here*

No disagreement on that and I think the OP is deservedly making this public.  But given her reputation, I think she deserves the benefit of the doubt but the autoreply sure is mysterious.   I don't know her nor have I ever been a patron of her services but it seems a bit out of character.

I have never seen Remy.  Yes, she is well reviewed.  However, when one acts out in a manner not consistent with her reviews, she actions or nonactions need to be made public and I thank the OP for doing so.  However, the apology is between you and her.  Nothing that this board should be any part of.  

No ones pefect.
I definitely think its worth the wait.
And this is definitely not her style.
Shes always been one classy & punctual doll IMHO

I know that something DID come up for her.  Why she didn't call or apologize is beyond me but know that she is a stand up gal who follows through on her promises but it was not something she could have avoided.  

I can't go into more detail but Remy is still one of the coolest chicks around. That has not changed although I believe she may be on an extended break

Try not to take it personally at all as I'm sure she didn't mean to put you out in any way.

Yes it is.  And if I ever did something like this to someone I was trying to do business with, I would definitely offer an explanation.  I believe it would be the considerate thing to do.  And I would like to be treated with the same consideration if I were on the receiving end.  And I believe this is true whether or not the relationship is a escort-client one or some other business relationship.  I am well aware that unexpected things are all too likely to come up for both escorts and their clients.  I have been on the receiving end of appointments that fell through and NCNSs.  That doesn't mean we shouldn't be courteous to each other.

No one said this was an NCNS but you can easily find instances where providers have griped on this board about being NCNS'd.  And from what I have been told, it is a frequent on the PO boards.

You didn't miss out on much...trust me. You have to be a true chubby-chaser to enjoy her, otherwise it's no fun.