but it happens frequently not just in this world but in the civy world as well.  Maybe it happens more with lower end, less experienced, and/or the younger ones (great I just became my Dad bitching about that damn younger generation).  I will say doing all that primping and preening takes a lot longer then what you and I have to go through but that certainly doesn't justify not extending a little courteousness and picking up the phone to let us know.  Although I haven't had that problem I do bring a book to read just in case.  The last thing I want is to walk into an expensive get together and be pissed off.  Buzz kill.