So I get exaggerating the thrith in you reviews but when its for the negitive, thats just frustrating.
I am glad I have several good new reviews to combat this one bad one that I just recieved, but still.
If you read the review maybe you too will find it funny that he discribes me as "cold" but also mentions I talked and talked.. (also, I thought chatting was a good thing!)
Sorry ladies and gents, I suppose Im just venting. Bad publicity is just that, BAD. I want and appreciate complete honesty in my reviews, the good, bad, ugly.. and beautiful. I dont want anyone thinking I do something that I dont, or that I am one way when Im another. If you didnt like me then fine, but dont lie or exaggerate to make me seem like a cold, mean provider, which I truly pride myself on not being!

So you're saying that you did not call him and ask where the donation was and then hung up? I am just wondering what part of the review was a lie.

Reviews are subject to a reviewers opinions and bias.
One bad review is not something to worry about.

It is not a fake review and providers can't get reviews removed because their feelings are hurt. You should know that. It remains because she CAN'T remove it.

and elicited multiple replies. Don't you think he's entitled to the same courtesy?

We have moderators who determine when it's time to move on, or when the thread concludes on its own.

If I can make a suggestion....Do a search on the board prior to making your choices. Had you done that, you may not have bothered with her in the first place.

Exactly what part of the review is a lie?

It was weird and out of line that you would think he's not coming; that's the first.

The second is that he "tried to kiss [you]," even though it's not on the menu. If it's not on the menu it pays to ask before swooping in. (On the other hand, you could have handled it better with words rather than turning away. You may have been thinking, "Didn't you read the menu?" but he's likely just feeling rebuked ... that you were cold.)

That's two major breakdowns in communication out of the starting block ... the session was already doomed. TER offers a lot of information and would pay for both parties to do more homework before getting together. Providers can easily see what the guy likes and his scoring tendencies (if he has enough reviews) and clients should at the very least read the menu and some reviews to see how her session tend to flow.

and just said "bad/misleading (IMO) reviews" and called us a pack of hungry wolves.
It's not he said, she said. You have no credibility. You are a drama queen and a flake.  

This is what the discussion board is about dddduuuuhh

I suppose it was the implications of me being a cold hearted B.
He was late for the appointment so I had made other plans. When he called I had already left and needed time to get back, be ready, etc.
As far as the turning away when he tried to kiss me... He was rude when he showed up, so no, I suppose you could say I wasnt in the mood to be affectionate, at least immediatly. But he makes it sound so cold, "I turned my head away." I do like to think I was alittle nicer and more graceful about it.
I Think the biggest misconception was the issue with the donation. I did not see him set it down, but either way, he but it on my bookself in the living room. Isnt the cliche to put it on the nightstand? Or at least somewhere in the bedroom.
Well when I called him I wasnt yelling or angry, but I think its understandable to have been a little anxious or worried! I thought he had left without paying!  When I found it I apologized for calling and thanked him, the hung up.
I just dont want to be made out to be mean, cold, or rude! I truly believe I am none of these. And am not trying to be dramatic! Just voicing my opionions on people implying or lying on reviews. Sometimes you dont click, but I always try to be nice, warm and caring. (as my other reviews show, which helps)

Anyway, sorry for the rant, It just really makes me sad when a review or comment portrays me in a way I really dont think, and hope (!) I am not.
HAve a great week everyone!

I think you are reading between the lines.  Lots of providers don't kiss.  I didn't read it as a negative, just that it was not a GFE session.  

I think you are overreacting.

One of you two has it wrong.

His review says he called just prior as agreed (12 minutes) and you say he was late. This seems to be where the trouble started.

For letting the review remain rather than trying to get it removed.

Everyone is intitled to their own opinion, and if that review should sway someone from seeing me, so be it. (not that im happy with it
I just want it to be understood that I am not the way he portrayed me.
Maybe I am overreacting, but how would you feel if you were running a business and you did everything you could to make your customers happy and you read a review that portrays you in such a wrong and negative light, especially on a forum that has much influence over other peoples decision? I am not refering to the kissing part, I am referring to the "cold" part, and saying I was angry with him over the donation. I dont want anyone to lie about anything on the reviews, good or bad. I dont know. I feel bad that I came off that way and have messaged him asking if there is some way I could make it up to him, I'll be he didnt expect that.

Everything in it is just as it happened - - and I resent the implication that I was late.  I was right where Khloe told me to be when I called 12 minutes before the appointment was supposed to start.  Yes, I perhaps should have known that kissing wasn't on the menu.  I wasn't rude at all when I arrived, in fact I was quite accommodating and determined to be upbeat even with the delay - hey, it's just a delay and these things happen, right?

What are the reviews for, if not honesty with the experience.  

At first I wasn't even going to write a review.  I thought maybe it was just a case of not clicking with a provider or even a personality clash. I even attempted to send her a pm afterward expressing an apology (even though none of the mix up was my fault), for both the confusion at the beginning and her impression that the donation wasn't present. I thought maybe I could get a reference from her so I could see another provider (I always ask in advance if I can use someone for a reference). Maybe then the appointment wouldn't be a complete bust.

She never responded to the request and I waited a week and a half before writing the review. Finally I decided, since she wasn't even going to respond to my very polite pm, I'd go ahead and write a respectful, and truthful, review.

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We have heard both sides.  Now it's time for everyone to move on.

I did not read the message that was sent to me until just now, but now I read it and he says in the email that he was glad to have spent some time with me. Now I couldnt be all that bad then could I?
Also, It was a "mix-up" with the time. He had scheduled it and one of us had the wrong time. So, I thought he was late.. I did not think there was any bad feelings or vibe during the session, but now I wonder if this is more because I didnt respond to the message sent after the appointment, which like I said I didnt even read til now.
Either way, yes I do agree that reviews should be honest, as I have already said a few times in this thread. Maybe we didnt click, maybe he didnt like me, maybe this.. maybe that. I was not starting this thread to be dramatic or babble. All I was doing was voicing my opinion on bad/misleading (IMO) reviews. I thought that was what the boards are for! I was asked to clarify so I did! I was not trying to bash any one person, It was more of venting and trying to show that I do not think I am rude or cold, and my other reviewers and other clients I do believe would attest to that. That is all I was trying to accomplish, but boy, you hobbyists can be like a pack of hungry wolves!
As always- Positive feedback is appreciated!
I am done with this thread since all it did was start drama and a he said/she said.
Good day

You're right. Lesson learned.

Lets all remember a review is one persons opinion.  I always average them out.

spooged in your eye and then laughed about it

Don't come on here every time you get a poor review and complain about it.  It only paints you, as quite a few think already, as a drama queen.  If the review is a fake or says things that are false and really damaging to you (like you offered BBFS, ripped a client off, etc.), you always have the option to take it up with TER directly.  Beyond that I think the best thing to do is see what you can take from the review to improve.

But now you're done with the thread and the drama. Nothing in my review was a lie.

I started by saying that sometimes people don't click - or there is a personality clash. I think that's where you should have dropped it. My ratings were not out of line - and they weren't terrible. I acknowledge that services were performed and they were reasonable. I don't inflate scores and I didn't trash you with 2's or 3's.  I think you're a nice looking woman and I think the session was fairly performed and valued. But, by no means am I going to rate that session an 8 or even a 7 when you were obviously not interested . . . and with your attitude here - dragging this into the forum and calling me a liar, I feel pretty vindicated by pointing out that your attitude isn't what I'd like to see in a provider, and certainly not in one I'll be seeing for repeat visits.

Where did I lie, Khloe?

When I evaluate whether to see a provider, I throw out the best and the worst review, and average the rest, reading just enough reviews to know if I am going to click or not, giving more weight to more recent reviews  In the inflated scoring system we have here on TER, I would say your reviews are average to a bit above average.  Don't get bent out of shape about it and cry foul here on the boards.  Also, be careful who you call a liar because a fellow hobbyist with several reviews will get the benefit of the doubt from us (excluding who might be a white knight).  To survive and flourish in this business, your best move is to take Vorlon's suggestion.  Do not talk about the review.  Just learn from it and improve your service.  There are countless providers who improve their service over time as they learn the business and we recognize that.