I was wondering if there were any recommendations of ladies that cater to a sensitive penis... Love Goddess on The Erotic Highway board suggested tantra, but I'm open to other suggestions as well.

I recognize it might be a unique situation, but embarrassment aside, I'd like to experience a mind-blowing time instead of "torture".

Thanks

Well, I'm sure there's a lot of providers who would be willing to work with you if you talk about what the situation is.  I have experience with tantra and the reason it's coming up is because the training I did included how to deal with these kinds of situations.  So you up the odds of success.  But really all you need is a willing partner and the ability to communicate.

Any provider SHOULD be willing to listen to you and work with you to provide you with what you need to feel satisfied.   Patience and open communication and a gentle touch can go a long way towards achieving what you seek.   Myself and many other providers that post on TER can do this for you.

I might be misunderstanding a basic tenet of tantra but after
reading a little more if feels disingenuous, even disrespectful, to visit a provider specializing in tantra with the sole and selfish intent of [hopefully] riding an orgasm all the way to uninterrupted completion being stroked and otherwise "handled" throughout it all. If course the disciplines learned might also be just what I need...

I'm thinking about it too much because I'm getting confused and starting to feel more desperate.

give yourself over to understanding lady...

If you are selfish in a helpful way, you might just get what you want -- that is, be up front and tell your chosen provider exactly what you're looking for and see if it's a possibility.  

I don't mean to play shrink, but just ask yourself how much of your with-provider behavior is mirrored by your normal-everyday-pullquicker behavior.  Are there any similarities, such as nervousness, stage fright, strong fear of embarrassment/failure, more of a big-picture guy, things are black/white no shades of grey...?  Maybe addressing these will help your provider time.  Just a shot in the dark.

The handjob thing sounds very familiar to me as I relate it to people I know with similar issues.  I think if you have the resources, take the time to let a provider know up front about the sensitivity, maybe book a little extra time than normal to give yourself enough leeway, and build up some trust with a provider.  When it gets to much, have a subtle signal to back off, so you both don't make a big deal out of it.  

I haven't seen many, but it sure sounds like there are a bunch of ladies here who would be willing to give you an assist.  Maybe you just need to tell 'em slow and steady wins the race.