This may be a strange request, but I can't think of a better place to ask it. In the past year, I've been hospitalized twice, requiring complete bed rest. I am (mostly) recovered, but my stamina and some of my strength is still missing and may never return. I want to know what I'm still capable of and if I've lost some of my "touch". I am interested in meeting with a provider, perhaps several times over a short period of time, to explore what I can do, am I any good at it, can I get better with instruction, and if there're anything new (to me) that now satisfies. So, I need a widely experienced provider, with imagination. A former PT or MT would probably be a plus. One that will teach, if necessary, and can think of alternatives. My goal is to satisfy any lady I might be with, not just providers. Late afternoons are the best for me, and I can't host, although I'm willing to pay for a room. I drive a 10 year old car, so even though I don't skimp with providers I have hospital bills to pay! Please contact me privately, but feel free to discuss if this is weird, offensive or a cool idea in the forum (you will, anyway!)

Also, I do not in the least find it weird, strange, or offensive. It pleases me to know that you are taking care of your health and you are now ready to explore reawakening your sexual health!

Posted By: PastaPappa

This may be a strange request, but I can't think of a better place to ask it. In the past year, I've been hospitalized twice, requiring complete bed rest. I am (mostly) recovered, but my stamina and some of my strength is still missing and may never return. I want to know what I'm still capable of and if I've lost some of my "touch". I am interested in meeting with a provider, perhaps several times over a short period of time, to explore what I can do, am I any good at it, can I get better with instruction, and if there're anything new (to me) that now satisfies. So, I need a widely experienced provider, with imagination. A former PT or MT would probably be a plus. One that will teach, if necessary, and can think of alternatives. My goal is to satisfy any lady I might be with, not just providers. Late afternoons are the best for me, and I can't host, although I'm willing to pay for a room. I drive a 10 year old car, so even though I don't skimp with providers I have hospital bills to pay! Please contact me privately, but feel free to discuss if this is weird, offensive or a cool idea in the forum (you will, anyway!)

I like your post because I'm in the same boat.  I had brain surgey about a year ago and started to see ladies once I was cleared to work.  I went through the reduced stamina and meds reducing feeling.  Minnesota ladies were very understanding.  I stop seeing ladies about four months ago because my meds reduced feeling even more.  Your post motivates me to get back at it and see what works for me.

Thank you all for the response! It's very supportive and hopeful. I will respond to everyone who e-mailed me, but please, no more ladies, I'm going to have a hard time deciding (and saying no to the rest) as it is!.

I would never think to ask a physical therapist to donate their skills and time, or any other professional to volunteer to help me regain my recreational activities for that matter. But then, I am not a provider with extra time and money. Oh wait-is there such a thing?
Maybe I will find a "classy" dentist who will give me a free dental exam to see if I can re grow the tooth I lost...or maybe I will use this line to get free what should be paid for like everyone else with bills.

Posted By: PastaPappa

This may be a strange request, but I can't think of a better place to ask it. In the past year, I've been hospitalized twice, requiring complete bed rest. I am (mostly) recovered, but my stamina and some of my strength is still missing and may never return. I want to know what I'm still capable of and if I've lost some of my "touch". I am interested in meeting with a provider, perhaps several times over a short period of time, to explore what I can do, am I any good at it, can I get better with instruction, and if there're anything new (to me) that now satisfies. So, I need a widely experienced provider, with imagination. A former PT or MT would probably be a plus. One that will teach, if necessary, and can think of alternatives. My goal is to satisfy any lady I might be with, not just providers. Late afternoons are the best for me, and I can't host, although I'm willing to pay for a room. I drive a 10 year old car, so even though I don't skimp with providers I have hospital bills to pay! Please contact me privately, but feel free to discuss if this is weird, offensive or a cool idea in the forum (you will, anyway!)

Ok clarify then. He offered to pay for the room. Said he does not skimp (?) with providers but follows up with how short of cash he is. Instead of publicly asking for help in that manner, why not ask some of the providers in his price range if they have patience for the service he is needing?

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Posted By: TrollaLot

I would never think to ask a physical therapist to donate their skills and time, or any other professional to volunteer to help me regain my recreational activities for that matter. But then, I am not a provider with extra time and money. Oh wait-is there such a thing?  
  Maybe I will find a "classy" dentist who will give me a free dental exam to see if I can re grow the tooth I lost...or maybe I will use this line to get free what should be paid for like everyone else with bills.  
     

Posted By: PastaPappa

This may be a strange request, but I can't think of a better place to ask it. In the past year, I've been hospitalized twice, requiring complete bed rest. I am (mostly) recovered, but my stamina and some of my strength is still missing and may never return. I want to know what I'm still capable of and if I've lost some of my "touch". I am interested in meeting with a provider, perhaps several times over a short period of time, to explore what I can do, am I any good at it, can I get better with instruction, and if there're anything new (to me) that now satisfies. So, I need a widely experienced provider, with imagination. A former PT or MT would probably be a plus. One that will teach, if necessary, and can think of alternatives. My goal is to satisfy any lady I might be with, not just providers. Late afternoons are the best for me, and I can't host, although I'm willing to pay for a room. I drive a 10 year old car, so even though I don't skimp with providers I have hospital bills to pay! Please contact me privately, but feel free to discuss if this is weird, offensive or a cool idea in the forum (you will, anyway!)

   
 No where in his post do I see a request for "free" services.

Instead of asking "ME" publicly why don't you take your own advice & contact "HIM" & ask "HIM" why?

Sorry Leann-that was not directed at you. It was for him. I just answered you when you told me to read it again. I would never expect anyone to speak for anyone other than themselves.

Apology accepted. Have an amazing holiday!

I had a heart attack a few years ago and had a stent put in.  I too was a little apprehensive about getting back in to the hobby.  One of our lovely Minnesota  providers (no longer with us) was a coronary care nurse at the hospital I had my procedure and I worked out a rehab session with her.  I passed (a couple of times in an hour) and I was no longer apprehensive.  If you ask around you might find a nurse who provides who can help you safely return.

I'm not asking for free sessions at all. However, to use your dental analogy, if I needed 10 crowns, I might mention that I would have difficulty paying for 10 crowns at the full price, and (at least with the dentist I have now) would probably get a price break. Since I expect this to take more than a session or two, and I anticipate that it would be beneficial for the sessions to be closer spaced than what I would usually be able to afford in terms of frequency, I am more or less telling those providers who are on the upper-end of the compensation spectrum that they might not want to respond since I wouldn't want to waste their time if I can't afford their rates. I'm not out for a "deal", I am out for information. I simply do not know how to proceed and was asking. No, I'm not one of you rich guys who can afford the top end providers on a daily/weekly/monthly basis, but that doesn't mean there aren't providers in my "price range" (horrible imagery there) who CAN provide this service. I didn't know how to proceed, and I didn't want to set expectations too high. The bit about the room is because I can't drive to White Bear Lake or Coon Rapids or Plymouth to meet a provider, but I would be willing to get a room, if that would make it easier (and the provider would be able to use it for her own purposes if she wants to try a change of venue). I'm not trying to beg for services, I'm trying to find providers who can deliver the service I need. And may I repeat Leann's request to continue this debate, if necessary, via e-mail instead of in public. (Thank you Leann)

Please reconsider allowing your chosen provider to keep the room for further use. Remember if the room is in your name you are responsible for EVERYTHING that goes on in that room. A multitude of things have & can go wrong with such an arrangement.