Welcome back Cate, hope to hear from you weekly!   I as a hobbyist am always out for that unexpected pleasure that a provider can deliver, be it a some unexpected dt or extreme pressure change in the oral cavity.  Experimenting with angles and positions for the other orifices is also a thrill.   Why do I look to many providers for first time visits?  Don’t know for sure, but there is some excitement  in that first visit, and I do try to do repeats when I’ve had a good time. Know I’m over due for a visit to Cate.

Usually I am thinking

about how good it feels. While I try not to think about how good it feels.
I actually like talking during the act. Not pillow talk or dirty talk. just talking. But I have been told that is weird. I really like to just lay there fully coupled without doing anything but having a conversation. But I have not tried that with a provider yet.

Hey sweetie, me too, long over due, hope all is great in your wd.   You and a few other of the local mature mamas have a wonderful knack of giving me just what I didn't even know I was looking for.   For a fat old fogie, my first hope is that I don't sense that she hates being there.  You and your sisters take that starting wish of mine and then you push the envelope.   You cultivate the illusion!  You truly are my very special, amazingly sexy girlfriend for a while.   You make me happy.   And that's why I give up other things in my life so I can afford to take pleasure in your company once in a while.   Be well, hope to see you soon.

I think the reason why some TOFTT is for the adventure. I was just conversing with another here through PM about this in regards to a girl who neither of us could seem to get a hold off, and there was some question marks about the ad. Yes, it was the intrigue and adventure of it all that got us interested.

Now as for your topic at hand. I don't think of other women generally, simply because that would assume I am with someone I do not want to be with. Now it did happen once where I found myself being with someone who was less than thrilling and I just want to get it done with and get the f** out. Yes I thought of other women, and more importantly just thought of ending it all and leaving.

However there are two girls I see, one I just met today, and what is in my mind is completely them. Because they are beautiful women that are sensuous and providing a pleasurable experience. I have no reason for my mind to wander any where else. I do not want to just get my rocks off, instead I rather enjoy the time I am having with them. Limited budget means that time is limited as well, so every minute counts for me. I do not book 30 minutes because that is too short, it is the full experience that matters including "talk time". I don't think of myself as a man of the time if I understand that correctly, but do think that I wish the overall experience can somehow be pleasant for my companion (not just the intimate part).

Welcome back Cate!

Wow where to start.... First off it depends! On the orifice, the owner of the orifice, the odor of the orifice, the reaction of the owner of the orifice, the attitude of the owner of the orifice and esspecially the attitude and actions of said owner in the immiediate time preceeding the entering of such orifice.

Sometimes it is just like you opened your question,.... "Okie Doke, here we go!"

And then there is the "OMG that is so hot!" Sometimes it is "oooohhhhh that is sooooo goooood!" And then there is the "don't look you fool, she is such a cute little hottie you know if you look your gonna be all done.... Damn why did I look, ooooh that is so hott, oh shit!" And the rare, "you want me to do what?" "Hey I am perfectly happy right here in your pussy but if you really want it in your mouth, who am I to argue?" Pull off the cover and let you "have it?" "Well ok but remember you asked for it.... Did I mention it has been a while for me..... um, there is some coming out of your nose Hun."  

And then the negative end of the spectum it might be, God I hope I can stay hard and just get this over! (yes this might be related to some of TOFTT issues, but had it happen with a well reviewed lady once). To the complete other end of God I hope I don't embarass my self by popping in the next 30 seconds!

Many years ago when I was almost a hobby virgin, I had about a 3rd appointment with a almost 30 something (sexually peaking?) hot looking lady who had been away from work for a while (got breast implants) and she was VERY much in the right mood. Everything  was going along great but she was really into it and she started talking dirty and told me not to cum because she wanted it in her ass! I was not expecting that (I really am a hick from up North) but she had hold of me and was guiding it in and I was thinking you want to put what where? Well ok girl! hope this works out ok and is not too messy! Of course I was all covered up and she had "prepared".

And if I remember correctly the fee was 150 or 175. And she was an honest 9 on looks. Advertized on CL. So that helps to put some light on the TOFTT question as well. Sometimes you just get lucky! Why do people gamble... I mean for Petes sake, go look at the buildings in Vegas.... Do you really think you have any chance in hell in winning long term???? But a lot of us still do it and tell ourselves we will get "lucky"....  Maybe it is the primitive hunting instinct in us. We are allways looking for the good deal or the next undiscoverd TGTBT provider, who just happens to be true!

Personally for me it is often lack of choices, timing and location. So the TOFTT type deals might be all that is available..... But I must say the really well reputed Ladies are rarely a dissapointment and ussually are some of the best of times. But on the other hand I might be able to see 4 or 5 or even more young hotties for satisfying 1/2 hour quickies for the same cost as a 2 hour Heaven on Earth great time with a really great and reputable Lady. Both scenarios are great! But some of us may have at least somewhat less than unlimited financial resourses so we make some of these choices.

as a newbie, I would be thinking of how nervous I will be, hoping not to screw it up. How to stay hard.

The one time i let go, I decided fuck it, I am paying for it. The hell what she thinks. Instead of sex, she blew me in 5 minutes and made a nice paycheck.


However before hand I Will also be overthinking legitimacy. Such as trying to get you to say youre there doing something not. However, it seems that only 1 provider on boards does that. Call it plumber training, vocal exercises, or whatever real reason we could say. If only more providers took that approach.. maybe newbies like me will watch like a hawk less and spend more.



I am nervous, and have had many one night stands where I talk myself out of a boner. The "fuck it" attitude didnt mean I treated her like some german film. Just decided to hold her hair and cum in her mouth (willing) - unlike what I do with my other

It is not about the ability to enter an "orifice". For me it is about the illusion created or not created in the short time we have together.  It is not about how fast you can do it or how many times you can do it or how many orifics can be entered, it is about the illusion of GFE. I enjoy myself more as my partner enjoys herself. I invest my time and hard earned money to receive an illusion of a GFE not an opportunity to enter an "orifice".  Remember your brain is still the primary sex organ and if there is not a good illusion then the "orifice" does nothing for me.

Any Star Trek fan would know

that we have to switch to auxilliary control during.  The main computer is off-line during the mission.