Minnesota
Hello old friends and those unknown. As many of you know, I’ve gone way UTR. I must admit that I miss the banter, and thought-provoking threads that I used to start, and thoughtful replies. I also miss the interaction with those of you who know me well. My target date for complete disappearance and de-listing on TER is the first of July. I will still be around to give references for my acquaintances (so make note of my email address) and to stay in touch, but not through TER. So I thought that I’d present you and myself with the opportunity for one last thought provoking thread, and one last "hurrah" with Marie. (You should see the smile on my face). Damn!!!! I loved my old website too.
Oooookay, I’ll present the last hurrah first. In a way this is a special. Those who know me also know that I recently (last 6 months or so) increased my rates by 50. It has worked out very well. So for this last hurrah, I’m proposing a decrease in rates, and re-adding a ½ hour session for those who missed seeing me because it has been absent for over a year. The special rates for the special will be as follows:
Incall ONLY
½ hour 175
1 hour 225
90 minutes 300
2 hours 400
3 hours 600
**For outcalls (if I already know you), add 50. I don’t do outcalls for those whom I’ve never met before unless you have impeccable credentials.
As always, screening/verification is a must. Please be prepared to give me at least 2 credible references and/or a way to verify your employment. Keep in my mind that I am flexible on ideas of how I can independently verify that you are not the wrong kind of person with whom I would like to spend time.
Now on to the thought-provoking…….
The recent thread regarding using work/employment verification as a screening tool sparked a slew of comments and stances is the subject. Oh MY! That dude created a firestorm among us all (both hobbyists and providers alike). From strictly a hobbyist’s point of view (especially newbies) trying to establish themselves, it turned out to be a false alarm, but an alarm. It sure was a downer. The very thought that a provider would maliciously use that information should always be on a hobbyist’s mind, but it was brought to the forefront with that one. As written here many times before one way to mitigate the possibility is to stay with well-reviewed and established providers. I’ve personally been presented with references of providers with only one or two reviews that were written in yester-years, and had no current ad or website. Not good! In my personal (other meticulous provider’s) screening regimen, not only are you being screened, but the validity, credibility and integrity of the referenced provider is under scrutiny as well. I would be skittish in accepting a reference from a another provider who was malicious, and equally reluctant about giving a reference to her. Joining a screening service like P411 is also a way to minimize exposure of your private information. Of course you’ll probably have to provide employment information to the screening service sans other provider references. Still at least you would have provided that sensitive information to a single source or two rather than relying on the integrity and temperament of an entity whom you really don’t know. Please know gentlemen, many providers trust screening services and work information over provider references. There are many, many dynamics at work in the latter-mentioned. One final remark regarding references was so poignantly mentioned in another thread from earlier this week entitled “Question about references”. It is ALWAYS appreciated if a hobbyist gives the reference-giving provider a heads-up that she will be requested to give a reference. Stated even better was the notion to ASK the giving provider’s permission to use her as a reference accompanied by memory-jogging instances to make her remember you if it has been awhile. Since I’ve just broached the issue………I’d like those guys whom I haven’t seen in months who call and say “This is Dick or Steve”. Don’t you realize that I may have seen many “Dicks” over time? LMAO now. Coincidental to writing this, I just received a call from a “Tom” wanting to make an appointment. He said that he was new, and didn’t have any references. He then said: “How about if I show you my work badge when we meet?” I think that you all can understand how far the conversation went. He said “never mind, I’ll just stick to the 4 or 5 girls that I see on a regular basis”. I said: “I thought that you just told me that you were a newbie; why don’t you give me the information on those 4 or 5 girls as your references and we may be fine. Your work badge may be a police badge, and I’m sure that you’d be glad to show it to me upon meeting me.” He said: “I don’t think this is going to work out.” I said: “Thanks for your interest.” ~click~ Dude just wasted minutes on my business phone. ~mean face now~ but still with a sense of humor.
My Pet Peeves:
*Everything in this section has happened a multitude of times. Less it wouldn’t be mentioned.
Text messages: Texting is fine, quick, and even clandestine way to make appointments if we already know each other. Unacceptable is getting a text message (especially late at night) that merely says: “R U available now” (and I don’t know you). Attempting to negotiate an appointment time via text message when you don’t have an appointment time in mind. Many of us don’t have unlimited text capability on a hobby phone. Then there are the lonely guys wanting to carry on a long conversation via text message.
Tardiness and expectations: The client shows up late for an hour-long appointment (sometimes up to a half hour with valid reasons).
The client is courteous enough to keep me informed of his status. He gets there and the session begins. At the start, he is informed that I have to be somewhere else 30 minutes after the time the session should have ended if he were on time. He gets a little miffed, but decides to proceed anyway. He gets further miffed when his original time has expired, and is accusatory of a“rushed” session, or wants to extrapolate the rate for the actual time. Hey guys…..we do have other civvie things to do in between appointments, and it may or may not involve another appointment. Things like grocery shopping, little league games, big league games (as in Major League Baseball), spending quality time with the kiddies, or just doing nothing. I realize that this type of thing goes both ways, and it always comes back to respecting the other person’s time. I felt really bad….the threads of the guys whose time (including travel time) was disrespected by a provider(s). It really sucks. Please know that there are many reputable providers out there (friends of mine) who would never do such a thing. They even advertise the fact in their ads.
Pre-mature flattery & sex talk: I love flattery. I think that it makes us all feel good (men and women). But to the Casanovas out there……After having only seen my photos and without as much as email traffic beyond setting up an appointment; how can I be that “beautiful sweet, soft, sexy thing that you’d love to dine between my legs”, etc.,etc.. Ya know??????? You can save those kinds of “sweet nothings” for a time AFTER we’ve met. LOL
Everyone (ladies and gentlemen), please feel free to express your pet peeves. We’re all still learning here. While many of these issues have been discussed in some form in the past, reminders to the veterans, and education to the rookies is never a bad thing.
~Negotiating escort rates - I can’t respect anyone who attempts to negotiate rates with me, especially when it’s evident from their reviews that they’ve been seeing $500/hr providers around the same time they’re trying to haggle with me. And if a monthly arrangement is involved, I quickly lose respect for gents who don’t keep up their side of the bargain.
~Providers who don’t send a “thank you” note after I send them a reference - Whether it’s saying “excuse me” when passing someone in a grocery store or sending a quick “thanks!” to a provider that just gave you a reference, I appreciate people with manners. If you are a friend of mine who would like to use me as a reference, please seek out ladies with some grasps of etiquette. lol
~Expecting emails within a certain timeframe - While I will typically return emails within 24 hours, sometimes I simply need to ignore my inbox. And if that results in my losing potential clients, then so be it. It’s not that I don’t want the business or that I don’t care, it’s just that I need to periodically take breaks. The only way I can stay fresh after completely giving myself mentally during an extended engagement (or hourly session for that matter) is to take time for me, which benefits my clients in the long run. I have a busy non-escorting life, and I appreciate my friends who are patient with me.
~Hobbyists that don’t out NCNS ladies - It makes no sense for a gentleman to be NCNSed and then post that information on the board without outing the lady. These same ladies will just continue to NCNS you all, you’ll complain about it and nothing will be done. Meanwhile, the professional ladies who call if they need to cancel will keep losing business to the unprofessional providers.
~Providers who create beef with other ladies when there actually was never a real issue to begin with.
~Hobbyists who out provider’s incalls and homes - I now know where at least three ladies provide/live and I shouldn’t. I appreciate a man who is discreet for the benefit of all in our community. Shhhhhh…don’t ask, don’t tell.
~People who bike the wrong direction around the lakes - Aaaaaarrrrgggggggggggggggggg!!
Marie: While we will lose a meaningful contributor to the board, I understand your need to be UTR for personal reasons. I wish you best of luck and great success in all you do. And as always it’s nice to see you posting on the board…even if it’s to talk about the negative!
Xoxo.
Hi Marie,
So nice to see you here again! Just the other day, I was thinking of how boring the MN board was getting (sorry everyone, lol) and of how I missed your posts!
Sorry to hear you are leaving TER. You KNOW you will be missed, my dear. I wish I would have had time to get to know you better, because it is apparent that you are a “rare gem.” *smile*
Pet peeves, Marie? Oh yes, I am certain we all have plenty of those, lol.
I can think of a few. Definitely.
How about guys who suggest that I should pay them? Lmao, here. If you do not want to “pleasure me” for “free,” then please do not bother. It is honestly not necessary to our “date.” Don’t get me wrong, I enjoy it as much as the next woman, but please do not make me feel like you just did me a big favor. Puhlease!
Pleasing you makes me just as happy, and I honestly do not want to be left feeling as if I owe you something. I am not going to play that game. Sorry. 
As soon as you get your website up, advertise, break into and become known on TER and other sites, risk having family and friends recognize you, and risk having your life turned upside down, as soon as you decide on the rates you feel you are worth and that others will donate and list them along with all the other creative things you can think of to put on your website so others will notice you, and as soon as you spend your days sifting through idiotic emails, such as, “Saw your ad. How much?” and then go rent a place, sit and wait nervously to meet that newbie, hoping and praying you screened well enough, then hope that this person is respectful and clean and will enjoy their time with you. As soon as you do all that and more, please let me know, and I will consider calling and making an appointment for daty. I mean, REALLY!
Okay that is a big one, lol. Another is a guy who asks for FS. Please respect me AND yourself. Do you really want to drag something home or into your next civvie relationship? If you are asking that of me, then how many times have you actually talked someone into that, and do I really want to play with you at all, now? Very doubtful.
My other pet peeves are arrogance, sarcasm and hygiene. Yet, hygiene is a big one, and we have heard it said many times: Do not think just because you showered this morning that by the time you step out of the car or truck you have been driving around in all day (or after sitting in your office chair all day) that you will still smell fresh and clean. The following phrase, “Do you mind if I use your shower?” is truly music to my ears! Lol You can bet that before you come to see me that an hour or sooner before our date, I just stepped out of a soaking hot bubble bath and washed every inch of my body, shaved my legs so that I am soft, silky, and so that I smell as close to "heavenly" as possible, lol. I will be smothering each inch of my skin with a lightly perfumed lotion, flossing and brushing my teeth, swishing mouthwash, and making sure that I am fresh and clean when we begin. Is it so difficult for guys to do the same? Don’t be shy about asking for a shower. I may even join you if I am feeling like a little fun in the water, and I might be talked into washing your back and those other "hard to reach" places. *wink*
Don’t get me wrong, I am fortunate in that the majority of the guys I have seen are very conscientious in regard to their hygiene. However, it only takes one or two very “memorable” sessions to list this one as a pet peeve. I will not proceed if I feel you are not clean, if you smell the least bit funky, lol, so please save yourself the embarrassment and shower, and brush your teeth. Especially if you enjoy DFK, make sure your mouth is CLEAN!
That is all I have for now. And before I end up writing a book, lol. And some other pet peeves have already been named, like NCNS issues and negotiating rates. I have NEVER EVER NCNS. I always call if I have to cancel, and always as far ahead of time as possible. I also call if I am running late, so a guy doesn’t sit and worry and wonder if I am planning to arrive or not. I always thought these types of things were simple, common courtesies. Not that complicated.
Marie, thank you for your one, last post. It makes me sad, but I support you in whatever you believe you have to do. You are one “together” lady, and I have no doubts that you know what is best for you and that you will do the “right” thing for you and always follow your heart. As you ride off into the sunset, lol, I know there is another, beautiful sunrise waiting for you to begin yet another day, another chapter in this crazy book called life.
I hope you will drop me a note, now and then, Marie! It will always be a pleasant surprise to hear from you, sweetie. But for now, I wish one very classy lady all the best that life has to offer her!
Cheers!
Angie
XXOO
After all, they are only pet peeves, commonly known as MINOR annoyances.
Cheers!