Hello old friends and those unknown.  As many of you know, I’ve gone way UTR.  I must admit that I miss the banter, and thought-provoking threads that I used to start, and thoughtful replies.  I also miss the interaction with those of you who know me well.  My target date for complete disappearance and de-listing on TER is the first of July.  I will still be around to give references for my acquaintances (so make note of my email address) and to stay in touch, but not through TER.  So I thought that I’d present you and myself with the opportunity for one last thought provoking thread, and one last "hurrah" with Marie.  (You should see the smile on my face).  Damn!!!!  I loved my old website too.

Oooookay, I’ll present the last hurrah first.  In a way this is a special.  Those who know me also know that I recently (last 6 months or so) increased my rates by 50.  It has worked out very well.  So for this last hurrah, I’m proposing a decrease in rates, and re-adding a ½ hour session for those who missed seeing me because it has been absent for over a year. The special rates for the special will be as follows:

Incall ONLY
½ hour 175
1 hour 225
90 minutes 300
2 hours 400
3 hours 600

**For outcalls (if I already know you), add 50.  I don’t do outcalls for those whom I’ve never met before unless you have impeccable credentials.

As always, screening/verification is a must.  Please be prepared to give me at least 2 credible references and/or a way to verify your employment.  Keep in my mind that I am flexible on ideas of how I can independently verify that you are not the wrong kind of person with whom I would like to spend time.

Now on to the thought-provoking…….

The recent thread regarding using work/employment verification as a screening tool sparked a slew of comments and stances is the subject.  Oh MY!  That dude created a firestorm among us all (both hobbyists and providers alike).  From strictly a hobbyist’s point of view (especially newbies) trying to establish themselves, it turned out to be a false alarm, but an alarm.  It sure was a downer.  The very thought that a provider would maliciously use that information should always be on a hobbyist’s mind, but it was brought to the forefront with that one.  As written here many times before one way to mitigate the possibility is to stay with well-reviewed and established providers.  I’ve personally been presented with references of providers with only one or two reviews that were written in yester-years, and had no current ad or website.  Not good!  In my personal (other meticulous provider’s) screening regimen, not only are you being screened, but the validity, credibility and integrity of the referenced provider is under scrutiny as well.  I would be skittish in accepting a reference from a another provider who was malicious, and equally reluctant about giving a reference to her.  Joining a screening service like P411 is also a way to minimize exposure of your private information.  Of course you’ll probably have to provide employment information to the screening service sans other provider references.  Still at least you would have provided that sensitive information to a single source or two rather than relying on the integrity and temperament of an entity whom you really don’t know.  Please know gentlemen, many providers trust screening services and work information over provider references.  There are many, many dynamics at work in the latter-mentioned.  One final remark regarding references was so poignantly mentioned in another thread from earlier this week entitled “Question about references”.  It is ALWAYS appreciated if a hobbyist gives the reference-giving provider a heads-up that she will be requested to give a reference.  Stated even better was the notion to ASK the giving provider’s permission to use her as a reference accompanied by memory-jogging instances to make her remember you if it has been awhile.  Since I’ve just broached the issue………I’d like those guys whom I haven’t seen in months who call and say “This is Dick or Steve”.  Don’t you realize that I may have seen many “Dicks” over time?  LMAO now.  Coincidental to writing this, I just received a call from a “Tom” wanting to make an appointment.  He said that he was new, and didn’t have any references.  He then said:  “How about if I show you my work badge when we meet?”  I think that you all can understand how far the conversation went.  He said “never mind, I’ll just stick to the 4 or 5 girls that I see on a regular basis”.  I said:  “I thought that you just told me that you were a newbie; why don’t you give me the information on those 4 or 5 girls as your references and we may be fine.  Your work badge may be a police badge, and I’m sure that you’d be glad to show it to me upon meeting me.”  He said:  “I don’t think this is going to work out.”  I said:  “Thanks for your interest.”  ~click~ Dude just wasted minutes on my business phone.  ~mean face now~ but still with a sense of humor.

My Pet Peeves:

*Everything in this section has happened a multitude of times.  Less it wouldn’t be mentioned.

Text messages:  Texting is fine, quick, and even clandestine way to make appointments if we already know each other.  Unacceptable is getting a text message (especially late at night) that merely says:  “R U available now” (and I don’t know you).  Attempting to negotiate an appointment time via text message when you don’t have an appointment time in mind.  Many of us don’t have unlimited text capability on a hobby phone.  Then there are the lonely guys wanting to carry on a long conversation via text message.

Tardiness and expectations:  The client shows up late for an hour-long appointment (sometimes up to a half hour with valid reasons).  
The client is courteous enough to keep me informed of his status.  He gets there and the session begins.  At the start, he is informed that I have to be somewhere else 30 minutes after the time the session should have ended if he were on time.  He gets a little miffed, but decides to proceed anyway.  He gets further miffed when his original time has expired, and is accusatory of a“rushed” session, or wants to extrapolate the rate for the actual time.  Hey guys…..we do have other civvie things to do in between appointments, and it may or may not involve another appointment.  Things like grocery shopping, little league games, big league games (as in Major League Baseball), spending quality time with the kiddies, or just doing nothing.  I realize that this type of thing goes both ways, and it always comes back to respecting the other person’s time.  I felt really bad….the threads of the guys whose time (including travel time) was disrespected by a provider(s).  It really sucks.  Please know that there are many reputable providers out there (friends of mine) who would never do such a thing.  They even advertise the fact in their ads.

Pre-mature flattery & sex talk:  I love flattery.  I think that it makes us all feel good (men and women).  But to the Casanovas out there……After having only seen my photos and without as much as email traffic beyond setting up an appointment; how can I be that “beautiful sweet, soft, sexy thing that you’d love to dine between my legs”, etc.,etc..  Ya know???????  You can save those kinds of “sweet nothings” for a time AFTER we’ve met.  LOL

Everyone (ladies and gentlemen), please feel free to express your pet peeves.  We’re all still learning here.  While many of these issues have been discussed in some form in the past, reminders to the veterans, and education to the rookies is never a bad thing.