How do you feel about a provider asking for feedback on a session with you?

Is it a turn off if she emails you to ask what can she do to better please you next time? Would you be turned off if she asked what can she do to get make you feel it is "not a service" instead of a "hot time" or "went extra mile" the next time she sees you?

One guy was happy that I cared about better pleasing him and gave me feedback for the next time we met. Our next meeting was far from a service.

Another guy was turned off when I asked for feedback. He gave me the feedback, but has returned my email since. It was obvious from his reply email that he was not happy with me asking for feedback.

What approach do you prefer? Should a lady ask for feedback on how to better please you or just leave it alone?

Thx

I don't know why anyone would not want to give feedback if asked. That is the qualifier here: you have to ask for it. Positive feedback, or even negative, will only help you improve for the next time or next person. If feedback didn't work, businesses would not do it. Personally, I have never been asked for feedback. I would give it though.

I can understand where some people would prefer not to give you feedback. But overall, I think most guys would love to give it, good, bad or otherwise. They can always say no or ignore the request.

Good post. Good luck!

I think it is ok to ask for feedback.  Maybe it is easier for a guy to give you some constructive suggestions by email, than in person.  He can also tell you again what part of the session he liked.  As you know, we all like different things.
If you have his email, the guy must be ok with you using it.  If he doesn't want to respond, it is pretty easy to erase an email.

It is my opinion that feedback is great.  It is far better to ask how you can improve your service.  Even corporations figured that out a long time ago.  Ergo, suggestion boxes popped up all over the place.  You will be amazed at the feedback about something that you thought that you were good.  Sometimes you’ll have to have a tough skin.  Meaning…..”be careful of what you wish….you may get it.”  You must also be flexible enough to understand that what one person says for improvement may not be what another wants.  Everyone is a tad different.  I’ll use the example that someone may like a raunchy down-dirty partner, where as another wants a submissive/passive person to pound.

The bottom-line to this subject is that in my opinion, go ahead and ask.  The asking can occur before, during, or after the meeting.  How many times have we heard:  “communication is the essence……”.  I’d be a little careful about mixing $$$ and acts in the same communiqué.  Leave the $$$ out.

One last thing is to be mindful that some people do not express themselves well in writing or “oral” argument.  On the flip side of the latter-mentioned, some people have NO problem in expressing what is desired.

You did well with this post, and I hope that I’ve helped answer your question(s).

The response from flicker was right on.

I think asking for feedback is great.  But please understand that while there are many things that most or all hobbyists will like, there are others that fall under the old "your milage may vary".

I would be more likely to return to a provider that asked for feedback if asked.  I think I would appreciate that a provider thought enough about me to ask how to be better.

I think that it would be kind of a turn on to review the session in my mind and fantasize on how it would have been.

The word of caution would be; like Marie said, there are times when a provider might say something that would be hurtful.  Maybe for whatever reason the hobbyist might simply say to a provider, "We just didn't click".  Of course, a provider should never take that personally.

Either way, trying to be better shows a commitment to one's craft and should be rewarded.  If nothing else, going back would give a hobbyist a chance to reap the rewards and lessons learned in the feedback.  That would be the best part.

speaks volumes about your character. To me, it makes it obvious that you want to be the very best that you can be. If asked, I would happily tell you what you want to know. Just make sure that you are prepared to hear some things that you may not have considered.

. . . for feedback, I'd be thinking, "Oh oh, this is like a woman asking, 'Does this make me look fat?' "

I'd be trying to guess whether she really wants the truth, assuming there actually was room for improvement.

I see a request like that as totally positive. If she truly wants to find out what works and what doesn't, she may have to be bold enough to ask, and to learn and grow from the replies, whether positive or negative.

Life isn't always black and white. We live in the "gray" parts a lot, so to me, those who are willing to take it up a step in the communication department deserve kudos.

Tell the truth.  You would be doing no one any favors to NOT tell the truth.  If a woman asks....tell the frigging truth.  Wives excepted.  If a wife asks that......it's a set up.  LMFAO  But true.  Trust me.

Personally, I prefer communication on trhe spot!

Isn't sex or anything else all about communication?  I am not real talkative during the event, but certainly don't mind the lady asking or directing! :P~

Body language isa  great indicator that I look for, but verbal cues are always welcome during.

My one question in response, how does a person know when a partner is pushing your head away if she really wants you to stop or is just that close and on the verge.

I have had two different responses to my actions.  One time I stopped when she pushed and she said thanks it is getting sensitive and the other said wtf you stop!   OOOPS!