I don't know why anyone would not want to give feedback if asked. That is the qualifier here: you have to ask for it. Positive feedback, or even negative, will only help you improve for the next time or next person. If feedback didn't work, businesses would not do it. Personally, I have never been asked for feedback. I would give it though.

I can understand where some people would prefer not to give you feedback. But overall, I think most guys would love to give it, good, bad or otherwise. They can always say no or ignore the request.

Good post. Good luck!

I think it is ok to ask for feedback.  Maybe it is easier for a guy to give you some constructive suggestions by email, than in person.  He can also tell you again what part of the session he liked.  As you know, we all like different things.
If you have his email, the guy must be ok with you using it.  If he doesn't want to respond, it is pretty easy to erase an email.

Great Post!

It is my opinion that feedback is great.  It is far better to ask how you can improve your service.  Even corporations figured that out a long time ago.  Ergo, suggestion boxes popped up all over the place.  You will be amazed at the feedback about something that you thought that you were good.  Sometimes you’ll have to have a tough skin.  Meaning…..”be careful of what you wish….you may get it.”  You must also be flexible enough to understand that what one person says for improvement may not be what another wants.  Everyone is a tad different.  I’ll use the example that someone may like a raunchy down-dirty partner, where as another wants a submissive/passive person to pound.

The bottom-line to this subject is that in my opinion, go ahead and ask.  The asking can occur before, during, or after the meeting.  How many times have we heard:  “communication is the essence……”.  I’d be a little careful about mixing $$$ and acts in the same communiqué.  Leave the $$$ out.

One last thing is to be mindful that some people do not express themselves well in writing or “oral” argument.  On the flip side of the latter-mentioned, some people have NO problem in expressing what is desired.

You did well with this post, and I hope that I’ve helped answer your question(s).

The response from flicker was right on.

I think asking for feedback is great.  But please understand that while there are many things that most or all hobbyists will like, there are others that fall under the old "your milage may vary".

I would be more likely to return to a provider that asked for feedback if asked.  I think I would appreciate that a provider thought enough about me to ask how to be better.

I think that it would be kind of a turn on to review the session in my mind and fantasize on how it would have been.

The word of caution would be; like Marie said, there are times when a provider might say something that would be hurtful.  Maybe for whatever reason the hobbyist might simply say to a provider, "We just didn't click".  Of course, a provider should never take that personally.

Either way, trying to be better shows a commitment to one's craft and should be rewarded.  If nothing else, going back would give a hobbyist a chance to reap the rewards and lessons learned in the feedback.  That would be the best part.

speaks volumes about your character. To me, it makes it obvious that you want to be the very best that you can be. If asked, I would happily tell you what you want to know. Just make sure that you are prepared to hear some things that you may not have considered.

. . . for feedback, I'd be thinking, "Oh oh, this is like a woman asking, 'Does this make me look fat?' "

I'd be trying to guess whether she really wants the truth, assuming there actually was room for improvement.

I see a request like that as totally positive. If she truly wants to find out what works and what doesn't, she may have to be bold enough to ask, and to learn and grow from the replies, whether positive or negative.

Life isn't always black and white. We live in the "gray" parts a lot, so to me, those who are willing to take it up a step in the communication department deserve kudos.