Hmmm. I’m not sure why I found this so intriguing as I rarely, if ever, post on these discussion boards; don’t really have much to say. However, having been someone who did their thesis on escorts vs. girlfriends and wives, I just couldn’t help but put in my two cents.
Truly, the bottom line, as research shows men (believe it or not) most often patronize escorts due to two primary reasons: 1) Married men that are unable to, or just simply, not getting the type of sex they desire at home and 2) Single males enjoy the non-commitment aspect of guilt free, unadulterated raw sex.
In addressing the first reason, I found that marriage in the millennium differs not much from marriage in the 50’s. How so you ask? Financial stability for both men and women, shared common interests, and even physical attraction. So how does that tie into sex? Because we live in a constricted and predominately patriarchal society (only a few pious hypocritical men) that utilizes moral and religious reasoning to create laws to conform to their distorted sense of what should transpire between men and women (consensual). We have these silly issues with the legality of escorting.
As in most patriarchal societies, the voice of mainstream recklessly and unabashedly overtly and covertly tells women “don’t sleep with him on the first date”, “never ever suck his nasty thing”, and my all time favorite “sex is a duty for you to perform for your man, of course you cannot enjoy it, nor at anytime express your sexual desires”.
So many additional studies have been done sociologically and psychologically on how men and women differ in terms of sexual drive etc. Guess what? Without cultural normative influences, men and women differ minutely. That is to say without the guilt and shame, and game playing, most women are taught in the name of virtue, they are just as horny as men are. However, due to a few pressures growing up, their sexuality is stifled and their made to feel ashamed of their bodies.
Many of my friends are married and engage in this wonderful hobby. I have first handedly seen the dynamics of their marriages and have truly come to understand why they are in this hobby; they are rationed out missionary, one pop sex, every other week. For those that scoff at my observation(s). Take a poll with any age range of married men and ask them if they are getting all, that’s right all, of their sexual needs fulfilled?
As far as the single guys who love this hobby (me!!!!!!!) there are a myriad of different reasons why us guys generally don’t want to be in a relationship of any kind, other than a guilt free sexual one. Just think, as I’m sure you guy’s will vouch for, all the different shapes and sizes of these beautiful escorts that are at our disposal. On Tuesday – Blonde, Wednesday – Black etc. And for the most part, the escorts are extremely intelligent, savvy, and warmly offer the GFE (different definitions apply for all of us!!!!!!)
So why this long diatribe, besides attempting to be somewhat philosophical, because quite simply, with gangs and violence towards everyone bursting at our cities proverbial seams, the police have to arrest three guy’s that were going to engage in consensual sex? Come on, seriously?????
Additionally, hats off to the escorts that are in this because they love sex. The sexist term “ you’ve come a long way baby” doesn’t even do you justice in going up against historical and existential set in stone beliefs about how you should act. I’m not sure who said it, but it’s classic “Rarely do well behaved women make history” Stand up and be counted. Unfortunately, because of the laws we have to get creative