So I hear about these things called Meet & Greets... basically a party where you can mingle with providers, find one or two you like, and maybe arrange a date for later. This sounds great because it's hard to choose a provider on the basis of a few airbrushed photos with the faces blurred out.

But there's a problem... Other clients will be there, too. And that freaks me out. I know it's irrational, but I like to believe that every date is a "real" date, and that she's mine, and I'm hers, and there's no other man in her life. My tenuous grip on this fantasy will be utterly destroyed the moment I see another client. The cold reality of the hobby would, I'm sure, come crashing down on me like a ton of bricks.

So, for those who have attended a Meet & Greet... What's it like seeing other dudes there, and having them see you? Is it as awkward as I expect it would be? I can't imagine the atmosphere being anything like a normal party...

...but in all seriousness, for the most part, they are casual events. Meeting the other guys is great. You get too compare notes and get real recommendations from guys who know the ladies.

You may feel awkward at first, but after talking to a few people you realize we're all in this clandestine hobby together and you have other things in common as well.

If you think your fantasy will be crushed by seeing ladies with other guys, then it probably will be. The ladies are there to meet new clients as much as you are to meet new ladies.

It's fun meeting some guys you may have PM'd or emailed about girls. Putting faces on the girls with blurred or no face photos is very enlightening too.  It is also true that the parties are just casual encounters with people that have the same interest as you do.

However, I agree with MnGInc, if it's gonna ruin your fantasy, don't go.

Swim

There are neat guys that you have a lot in common with, loose women, booze and food.

What's not to like?

I am still looking forward to my first. I think meeting other Hobbyist would be nice, we all share something in common. How much football and other sports can you talk about. Hot women good conversation and a relaxed atmosphere, can not get any better than that.

I suppose that's the attitude I should have. For now, I just don't like to be reminded that there are guys getting with (or about to get with) a girl I've been with. I suppose it's the male instinct, probably going back to caveman days, that makes me protective and perhaps a bit selfish. I know I've experienced this in "real life" with a girlfriend and her ex, or even an ex and her new guy. I hardly want to think about them being together, and meeting the guy face to face... well, it's just not a pleasant experience for me.

So perhaps it's only natural that these feelings extend to "the hobby" as well. I even find it difficult to read the reviews of the escorts I've visited! Perhaps someday when I'm more mature and self-confident I'll be able to see it differently.

I am a very private guy but like you was intrigued about the concept of a M&G  that might provide the opportunity of meeting the babes. Now I understand these ladies are Providers and I have no illusions that I am the only man in their life,  So absolutely not concerned about seeing them minge & flirt with other dudes [ of course I'm pretty sure they all love ME the most..LOL ]. But was hesitant simply because I did not know what to expect of other dudes.  Eventually I gave it a try....and really had a good time. The ladies as expected are great...but I was honestly surprised how comfortable I was around other hobbyist.  Every guy I've met at a M&G has been a real gent...it's been good to match a board name with a real person and I have appreciated the advice and info I have received from guys I have learned to trust.  To be real honest with ya...if the thought of these ladies with other guys is upsetting to you...well...you probably should get another hobby.

Any provider you see there likely has other clients in attendance as well as you.  If that freaks you out, best to not attend.  If she has plans to leave with one of them (not you), you might not like seeing that.

For those of us who understand and can operate with the realities of the hobby, M&G's are fun to attend, and provide the opportunity to socialize with ladies we have/are/might consider seeing, and with fellow hobbyists that are active participants on the boards that we exchange quips, tips, and PM's with.  End of the day, they really are normal parties, except that other attendees are hobbyists and providers.  If you are able to adjust your mindset to that, you will be able to enjoy yourself at these events.  If not, and the hobby realities would crash down upon you like a ton of bricks, then best to stay away.

In fact, you may want to rethink the hobby in general.  If you can't find a new lady and think that your buddies will love to hit it too, you're probably going to have lots of angst.

If you are self-centered enough to worry about meeting women at a M&G and wondering who they have spent time with, then PLEASE do not attend. But I just went to my second, tonight, in Vegas, and I had a blast. Eight hours, pool party, met some great people, both sexes. Guys tended to talk about the women (who have you seen, how was it, etc.) and even the women were asking which providers I had seen, same scenario.

There were two ladies there whom I have seen many times, and I met guys who had seen them many times, and it was great. It's a hobby, man. Chill out, go to a M&G and have a blast. You may get boob-smacked in the face, get some great DFK off in the corner somewhere, get to check out some great bodies in the hot tub. These aren't Eyes Wide Shut parties, just a lot of normal folks having a great time, and it is a hell of a way to meet ladies you just really want to spend some time with.

I understand how he feels. May be he has feelings for one of the providers. It happens. Happened to me.  It hurt a lot to even think that she was with other hobbyists.  I moved on. Stopped seeing her.

When you put it like that, how could anyone NOT want to go to one!  I haven't had the opportunity, but someday...

I think I may know what you are going through.  I tend to be the jealous type.  While I would love to see some of the ladies reviewed in person, and it sounds like a great time, I am unsure how I would feel if there was a provider there that I had been with before.  Jealousy is an emotion which by definition is irrational.  But keep in mind there are other ladies there and they will probably want to meet you too.  

If you go, keep the drinking to a minimum so that you can keep your emotions in check.  If it is awkward, then leave.  I see no downside to going. "The cold reality" of the hobby is going to catch up to you eventually.

SInce you are aware of the potential difficulties, I think you will be able to keep your reactions in check.

I would recommend going. I see two main possibilities. One, you find it very difficult to deal with the reality and you now know you should exit the hobby. Better to find out like this then some other, more hurtful way.

Possibility number two: Having the reality upfront and personal, you develop a rational view of the hobby. It is no longer a nebulous "other people doing other things." You find the ladies put you at ease and the gents are just like you. You now have a grounded and healthy outlook.

Either way, I think going will only help you. Help you to know whether you should bow out gracefully, or jump in!

This is the reasoning I went through to decide to go to my first M&G.

-tessen

I have never been to a M&G, or a 'mixer', but only because of scheduling logistics.  In my real life I keep a choirboy image, but would love to discuss the hobby. Given my conservative environment, the only way to discuss the fun is with like minded fellows. This is a GREAT opportunity to talk with others about topics that would get you judgementally snubbed in real life and to talk with and stare at girls that would get you slapped in real life. Like I said, I have never been to one, but would like to go.