...its really a travesty.

 I know I can't be the only provider here legitimately into kinky sex/dominant men. It seems like when I tour NYC there's absolutely no shortage up there (one of many reasons I'll be moving there come July, bye bye Big Easy!) but here, guys are just.... weirded out by it.  

What gives? Is it a cultural thing? I'm really curious ... and a bit frustrated. I try to make everyone I meet as happy as possible and don't ask for much in return (except of course for my posted rate and some discretion) would a spanking at the end really be completely out of the question?  

Sorry, I'm just venting. I miss the men of the Big Apple

I was raised to be a gentleman. I hold the door open for my dates, walk on the street side of a lady, and will protect her if she is in harms way. This is not just on a first date, it's something I do everytime. Hopefully I will get some back up on this but if not so be it.

Behind closed doors, I'm not one to beat the shit out of you or humiliate you because of a weak ego and feel the need to degrade a woman because of some mommy issue. I'm nit against tying a woman up, and telling her what to do to me, and role play is fun.

Sounds to me you will, heck we will be better off with you in the northeast.

I took your post as a disrespect to good southern men. I lived in New England for several years, and you should find everything you are looking for there.

MM

Having a fetish-geared curiosity doesn't mean you have underlying psycho-social issues. It just means your curious about new physical sensations.  

The discussion I'm trying to have here is whether or not the general culture in New England vs the South plays a role in how we approach exploratory sexuality even in the most open of circumstsances (if there's anyone you can tell a crazy fantasy to, its an escort!). I notice a huge difference where New Orleans seems to have very "standard" practices, while NYC kink is almost an ambient attitude, everyones got a fetish. That really surprises me .... I have a prefrence not only for kink, but for as much variation in my sessions as possible (let's be honest, it could get dull otherwise)...so yes, that's a draw to NYC but hardly a "diss" to NOLA

Does New England have a better culture for kink than New Orleans? A good question, but we are coming at this question from different ends of the spectrum, provider vs. hobbyist.

I have lived in both. I'm born and raised one block off the streetcar line, and I have lived just outside Boston. The history, ambiance, and people of New Orleans lend itself to be a far deeper group of people that are more open about what they like. As a result I believe they are not lacking kink in their personal relationships, therefore less likely to seek it out in a provider. On the contrary, while the Northeast is rich in history as well, I feel they are more reserved in their personal lives. I could see how that aspect alone may lead to a more willingness to seek it out in a provider because they are less likely to get it at home.

I enjoy role play much more than just a good BBBJ. I still have one or two scenarios that I have not done yet that I can't wait to "play" out. Many of my role playing has occurred in my private life, same is true for the BBBJCIMNQNS that I have had. That does not mean they were better.  

You are correct, who better to tell a fantasy to than an escort? I have a provider that has a pretty good idea what mine are.

MM

no shortage of kink here, maybe they are just seeing other providers. i've never really heard a provider complain about making money regardless of what the session was like unless she was disrespected. most are happy to provide gfe and pse in addition to kink as you call it.

Where are you not advertising?

Kink is everywhere & I never have a problem finding kinky fun.  Try posting an ad on the BDSM board here on TER & Eros.

I use all the other BDSM sites as well.  Simply google search kink, or BDSM in the city you desire...

I have run into a few dominant men here, but I get more requests from subs.  In real life, I prefer to be the sub (not spanked and shit).  In hobbyland, I like to dominate.  
I do think the women in NY are generally stronger in personality than the Southerners.  Perhaps that is why more men crave a dominant role in NY.   I have heard that up North many women insist on going "dutch" and being "equal".  Here, if you ask a woman on a date, you better be paying, opening doors.    

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she was talking to daniella.

Lovely name by the way, keep TER classy.

For the record, I never said I retired, I just went UTR and I took an offer for an extended vacation, doing the traveling I've been dreaming of since I was little. It was impromptu so I think some people might have gotten confused, but it was more than worth it - nothing can replace what you gain from genuine life experiences and exploration of new places and cultures. Apologies for the confusion it may have caused any gents, but I was always just an email away from those who know me best.  

I think my ability to come and go as I please instead of harping on hobby boards day in and out says a lot about my "business" and my retention rates but, believe it or not, it can be about more than money *gasp* - I also crave adventure. There's a million ways to live very comfortably if you're female, smart, young, and reasonably attractive; adventure becomes the much more evasive treat. Considering all other basic needs are met, who wouldn't want as much positive variation in workplace experiences as possible; I'd say thats true for any line of work.  

I think enough has been said here...this doesn't seem to be a conversation many people are open to having candidly with a reasonable amount of good humor. Never meant any harm. Thanks to Magic for the worthwhile inputs.