So I guess I should ask how the hell you ended up with such fake bills? Clearly she felt you were trying to scam her and for good reason. Guys will pull that kind of crap. I know a lady that was visiting Vegas and agreed to take casino chips as payment. Bad move on her part, they were fake. Always get your cash from the bank. It's very rare for a fake bill to get past a bank, though it can happen.
Look on the bright side, it could have been worse. If you really feel bad, sending her the full amount is the right thing to do....with a nice note explaining what happened. However, if you got those bills from other illegal activity, maybe don't go into much detail. Once I accidentally shorted a lady $40, so shit happens. In that case, I immediately sent her the rest when she pointed it out. Fortunately she knows me really well and realized it was probably an accident. It's far worse to have a screwup the first time meeting someone. Not exactly the best first impression.Tonight I had my first ever experience with a provider that went south and I was kicked out.
The sitch- Texted a provider for a 1hr massage, and sent a $40 deposit through Venmo. The balance would be 180 ($220 total) So I grab 2 Ben Franklins from my drawer (I'm am musician and get paid in cash a lot) and go over.
I get in get nude lie down and ask for a $40 upgrade for prostate massage, and drop the 2 100's and a 20. (with the 40 deposit, it's 260 total now)
She says the bills are counterfeit. I look at them and they look alright, but I say, no prob, I can Venmo you. She says no, I only do Venmo for small amounts.
- "Well, I can go to an ATM!"
Nope, got a client coming in 1 hr.
-"Well, what about after?"
Nope, what you did is a federal offense, and you have to pay me in cash for today, then we can talk. Otherwise I'm going to blacklist you with all the other providers.
- "What if I come over tomorrow?"
Yeah, you have to come over and I need the full 260 for my time today. Then you can book another appointment.
So I leave. She returned the 100s, but not the 20. (So she has 60)
I look at the bills when im back in the car. they actually look pretty lame I even have a third fake one at home, I find. I'm an idiot, I guess for not noticing. :/
So, I get her time's valuable. But she didnt do the service, especially the prostate upgrade she only heard about a few min prior, she now wants full payment for as well!
I thought about paying her the remaining 160 to get her to 220, but I assumed she would quibble about the remaining prostate 40, and also, I'm not driving across town to deliver cash. Other payment platforms exist.
I do feel like my lame "I didnt know they were fake" is what any grifter would say, so I feel bad about that, wanting to make that right.
Thoughts on what to do? If a provider wants to weigh in, I'd welcome it. What about the blacklisting? I think that's prob a good a necessary thing for providers, but seems unfair to me due to her rigidity on the sitch. Thanks for any and all responses.
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I would pay her the cash. Trying to pass fake 100's intentional or not, is huge. Personally, I would feel bad and give her the money. Just my two cents.
You gave her counterfeit cash. That's on you. And I get it was not intentional, but how can she know that.
Now you can try to rationalize this from many angles:
- It wasn't your fault - but it was
- She should be more understanding - but she really doesn't have to be. What is a provider to do with bogus bills?
- It's the principle of good customer service - but it's not.
- Whatever POV you want to take - doesn't matter.
If this was a dispute over thousands of dollars, you might want to fight this. But come on. Make it right with her and go back for lots of great orgasmic fun. A few months down the road, after she's provided her services to you many, many times, you will both have a fond memory to laugh about.
Life is good
The Cat
It’s a good thing you didn’t try to pass those bills at a proper establishment because you would probably be in jail now! I would chalk it up to my own stupidity and pay her whatever she requested. You caught a glimpse of her, so on a separate note you can go back to see her for service if you think it’s worth it!
Some good comments here. I wrote it right after, and was a little worked up. Now it seems clearer! (in the ways you have eloquently written)
I posted a note, but I dont see it showing up. Thx for the responses. I was worked up right after, and everything you're saying makes sense to me now. I've contacted her and will get her the $.
Good call. Good Karma. Good Luck!
So I guess I should ask how the hell you ended up with such fake bills? Clearly she felt you were trying to scam her and for good reason. Guys will pull that kind of crap. I know a lady that was visiting Vegas and agreed to take casino chips as payment. Bad move on her part, they were fake. Always get your cash from the bank. It's very rare for a fake bill to get past a bank, though it can happen.
Look on the bright side, it could have been worse. If you really feel bad, sending her the full amount is the right thing to do....with a nice note explaining what happened. However, if you got those bills from other illegal activity, maybe don't go into much detail.
Once I accidentally shorted a lady $40, so shit happens. In that case, I immediately sent her the rest when she pointed it out. Fortunately she knows me really well and realized it was probably an accident. It's far worse to have a screwup the first time meeting someone. Not exactly the best first impression.
Please post a review so we can all avoid!
The provider has no blame in this. He gave her counterfeit bills and she refused to accept them. That's all on HIM, not her.
If anything, she showed remarkable restraint by not blacklisting him or reporting him to the Feds (who wouldn't have cared at all about her profession).
Go back and re-read the OP.
Life is good
The Cat
It’s your responsibility to do due diligence by inspecting your cash prior to your appointment. You still need to pay the poor woman. Being a musician does not excuse the fact you paid in fake bills. I check all my money. Ask her if she will accept venmo as a gift, or voluntary contribution, so you don’t have to see her, or drive back. You could also buy a prepaid Visa, or giftcard of her choice to send her the code for her to utilize. There’s, so many options this should never happen. $40 for a prostate care is an amazing value this lady is obviously working hard if she booked.
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