It's late, and I've had a few drinks, and I'm desirous of female company. When I was living in Eastern Europe, I could find some loving without much trouble at this hour. But in America, I have to go through the process of contacting a lady; hoping she will respond; then have to provide personal information I don't feel inclined to give; and, if I'm accepted, wait a few days for an appointment. Yes, I'm whining. I'm very glad to be living in Southern California, despite its many problems; but this is one time when I get nostalgic for time I spent in the former Eastern Bloc.

The downside in Europe, though, was not with me, but with the women. Most did not like what they were doing, and were providing just as a means of making money for their children, as they were usually single mothers, or for their families, who had insufficient pensions. I knew some who got out of the life as soon as possible. In a way, being with them and getting to know some of them has affected my whole view of the hobby. At least with the women who are on TER's boards, I get the the sense that they actually like their career choice, at least in short-run. It's a service, but they enjoy their work!

I guess there is a tradeoff everywhere you live. But even if you are using someone for sex, or money, you can try to appreciate and respect your partner. It may sound paradoxical, but so much of life is. In an intimate moment, you can for a moment love someone and find joy. And maybe you can be one of those lucky one who can find a lasting. Ahh, I get too idealistic after a few drinks!

I still remember when i visited amsterdam, it was soooo easy to SEE and pick! Not always the servive matched with their looks but for a nite of fantasy was ok. I am new to this here in america and it seems so complicated and hard... But im not giving up my chances! LoL
In regards of having a relationship... As human beings it is impossible to just look at the person only physically after getting to know a lil more than one visit, just saying

I say this with the greatest of respect to all the men in the world, but you guys are not so good at thinking ahead.  Mostly you tend to be the, "I have an urge and I want ______ now."  I think it's a rather adorable and youthful quality...most of the time.

As a solution to this problem in the future, might I suggest finding two or three gals you like and building a little relationship with them ahead of time.   See them before this mood strikes and build a trust factor.  That way, when you get to this point in the evening and the libations are still at the "lubricated" versus the "lachrymose" level, you can call one of them up and hopefully she will be free.  And if she isn't but she likes you so much because she knows and trusts you, then she might find a way to get over to you.  Or if she isn't free at all you can call one of the others.

Just a small suggestion, feel free to throw it away if you think it sucks.

Actually, it is a good idea. I just liked the spontaneity of going somewhere and finding someone new, and maybe never seeing them again. But if that is not possible, planning a Plan B is a good thing.

and it is so sexy when you use big words, they create a verisimilitude of lust in my loins!

...had to break out the dictionary on that one.  It's not a good day unless I make someone check the dictionary! Lol!

Never heard of lachrymose.  I will try to remember that one.  Thanks!

You are welcome for your good day.

One of the most beautiful and descriptive words I know.  

Thank you for making my day a good one!

aside from some of the usual commentary here and there, your advice is exact to a tee. For me, it takes a lot of advance planning and, I make inquiries to check on whether the moons are bale to be lined up. Including with you, for future reference.

That's what bars at 2 am are for!