In my many years of pay for play, I have on occasion come across the highly sought after GFE. Overseas in many Asian countries GFE's are a dime a dozen. Here in the states they can be quite illusive. So my question to you is this: Are GFE providers here in the States professionals who take their job seriously and give their best OR are they gifted actresses?

Thoughts?

Your 2 options are one and the same. GFE = girlfriend experience = the escort pretends to be your girlfriend who likes/loves you. Of course she needs to have great acting skills and take her job seriously.
Your question is kind of redundant.

Mostly likely acting, but there are some ladies you might connect with.

But they are providing you their companionship for what you pay

That question is not really redundant, it just misses the point IMHO.  This hobby is as real as you want it to be.   There are some providers who are always on show in the most crass way, but I find by and large there alot of sexy intelligent woman who share with deep honesty.   They give with their hearts and minds much the same way as a physical trainer, a masseuse or a nurse might.  You don't ask if their performance is real.  You just accept it.  The confusion lies, repectly, with you.   The connection is real, but in the moment.  The difficultly is that a lot of us big tough guys want to attach and control, and most of these woman have no interest.  If you love completely for the moment, many will do likewise.  Just let it go at he door.   Treat them with repect, listen to their bodies and be attentive and all is real.  The question is about you, not them.

That might be the most insightful, succinct, and level-headed statement I've read... not just on this board, but concerning the hobby altogether.  Well said, sir, and thank you.

i agree, well said.  the key word in "gfe" is "experience."  it's not "girl friend reality," it's an experience.  

experience it and walk away.  keep the memories in your heart and be happy you "experienced" it at least once in your life.

Oddly you say that I am missing the point, yet you liken a gfe's "performance" (your word choice, not mine) to a physical trainer or nurse who takes their job seriously. Hmm, isn't that what a "consummate professional" (my words, not yours) does?

I have no problem or "confusion" about this issue. I absolutely LOVE the fact that these ladies exist. As far as being a "big tough guy trying to attach and control..."   I think you are reading WAY too much into my question.

First, and most importantly, I in no way meant to judge or criticize you and if my post came off that way I apologize.  So, said another way, yes these a lot of these woman are consummate pros, but that in no way implies that they are not consummately engaged.   Any relationship takes two to party.   My experience, ymmv,  is that I get what I put in and in approaching the hobby from that perspective I find it sexy, fulfilling and a great deal of fun.  

Happy holidays

I'd say there is GFE and GFE.  A lot of ladies offer GFE with regards to certain activities.  To me, the real GFE is the one few offer.  On top of the desired activities, the real GFE involves no sign of rush - before or after, subtle things like offering a drink, chatting while seeming genuinely interested (and interesting), wishing one well.  I can think of two ladies I've seen who have offered this - I'm sure there are more - but these ladies are definately "a cut above".

"If a guy wants a real 'girl friend experience' he can come over here, wash my car, change the oil, paint my kitchen and then wait up for me cause I'll be out late trying to make a living with guys who just want to get laid."...or something to that effect.

So the whole subject of "GFE" has been something I have been studying and writing about for a while now.  I wrote a little thing about it on my blog and I am very interested in get some feedback on what I came up with considering I am looking at it all from a totally different perspective and I might have missed something.   I've included the entire blog posting here (with a tiny edit or two so this does seem like I am trying to place an ad) for you to read or you can follow the link below.  

I recognize that this might be a little tangential to the original question in the thread, but it certainly falls under the same umbrella.

So without further ado....

G.F.E. - The Girlfriend Experience

Everywhere I turn now, it seems that I see this term being used.   I'm sure you've seen it used countless times throughout various web pages and ads.  There is even a movie called "The Girlfriend Experience" which I do not believe does justice to the term either.   It is used so often it has become diluted the same way the word, "Gourmet," has been diluted in the food world.  

What I'm noticing is that this term is being used as a catchphrase instead of it being used to denote a particular type of experience.   It seems as if it now describes the baseline experience offered by anyone and everyone who could be considered "upscale."  What ends up happening is that anyone who wants to differentiate themselves in this category really can't without actually having someone see them in person.   So a person who is looking for the true version of this experience will have an enormous challenge in finding it.  Another consequence of the overuse is that someone will say they are looking for that experience when really they want something else. It's a plain old mess.

Going back to food it rather reminds me of how I see so many little shops that offer espresso and other specialty coffee drinks, when really their main business is in something like sandwiches or frozen yogurt.  I actually just found out that places like these are called "slashers" in the restaurant world.   Meaning they are a restaurant/cafe/bakery or something other combination involving slashes.   What this "coffee" place will usually end up serving you is a cheap coffee blend that was bought blindly and therefore tastes terrible (and if you know coffee you know the vast differences between blends and tastes) and made on some cheap espresso/coffee machine.  They usually do not even carry the proper accouterments for the coffee because they do not know what needs to anticipate in their customers.  They offer espresso and other coffee drinks because that is a big part of what the consumer market is looking for and they want a chance to cast their lines and snag some of those "fish" as well.  

This is the way of the world of business and marketing, and always has been.  I am not on a crusade to get people to stop using the term, however, I would like to see this term used with more discretion, or at least the same discretion given to other terms like BDSM or PSE.  Those are both very particular and specific experiences that most people give a wide berth to for what I like to think are obvious reasons.

So, without getting overly specific, here are 10 things I think need to be in place in order to be a "GFE" companion.   This list was extremely difficult to come up with since I think it is quite difficult to verbally describe an emotional connection and experience.   The things on this list  (with the exception of #1) are not tangible and they cannot be taught or learned, only felt.  

1) Email and/or phone communication that is open, friendly, and consists of more than one or two lines.  If you are looking for more class and intelligence you'll hold out for things like proper spelling, grammar, and punctuation in the emails.

2) Connection.

3) Conversation that flows smoothly with interest from both parties. You should feel that you can really talk to this person and you even want to.

4) Affection and attention that feels sincere, not forced or put on.

5) Passion.

6) A feeling of it being real, sincerity.

7) Familiarity, as if you've known each other for a long time.

8) Never feeling that you are on the clock.

9) Humor.

10) Attraction.


I am sure there are things that many of you reading this will want to say in response to what I have said here, and I wholeheartedly welcome your comments.  More than likely I will continue this conversation in another posting later on….

That's pretty funny.

Wow Alyssa,

Sign me up for a gourmet cup of your GFE. You seem to really understand what we connoisseurs of female company are seeking. And looking at your reviews seems to indicate that you have been very successful in capturing the essence of a true GFE. Kudos to you and thanks for you reply.

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