When hobbying, part of me feels that I must constantly sample in order to get references.  On the other hand, when I find a gem, I want to go back many times.  Do you find this a problem, particularly to get references?

What's the feeling of giving a reference?  Is it thought of as lost business?  In the past, FBSM used to be very common so a FBSM reference for a non-FBSM person was often the strategy I'd use to minimize any potential hard feelings.

Let's be honest.  Variety is the spice of life, and we enjoy this partly because we can simply see a girl based mostly on whether you can afford her rate.  No other real barrier to entry exists other than passing screening, and that usually involves figuring out that you are who you say you are, and that you are respectful.

Women who work in this business should understand references.  You probably needed them to see the provider, and she sees others.  As a result, she should have no problem serving as a reference to a good client.

The issue comes up if she is giving you a special set of benefits or rates, and you are now taking advantage of that.  Let's say that you see a provider who lets you see her for $200 for FBSM and oral, instead of her $500 GFE rate.  The session is different and more limited, but she extends that courtesy to you.  If you start asking her to serve as a reference for a $500/hour GFE provider, what do you think she's gonna say?

If you are a double-talker and need to keep your stories straight, then I suppose just match up prices and services.  If you are seeing a provider who requires references for her FBSM sessions, then ask a FBSM provider to serve as a reference.  You don't want a girl who is giving you a break to wonder why you are seeing a higher-priced provider if she is cutting you a break on her rates.  That's not cool at all.

I don't have as many opportunities to explore this hobby as much as I'd like and it is easy for me to have huge gaps in between visits. So far it hasn't been an issue but I also feel that I must book something at least every few months in order to stay "fresh". Yes it can be a problem for some of us.

That is such a question that le would be fishing for and seeing if someone bites!  

Actually no.  LE is for quick and lazy, not methodical planning.  Have you seen the cops when they were in your high school class?  Never scholars.  

Basically, the question is of courtesy.  Don't want to hurt the lady's feelings by keep asking her for references.  Don't want to hurt her feelings by making her think she is loosing business

I, for one, am happy to give a reference for anyone I have seen once or a bunch of times.  I don't see it as losing business one bit.  I am even happy to refer men to my girlfriends when asked for a recommendation.  This is not marriage!  This is supposed to be fun!  And the more happy hobbiests playing, the more we all benefit.  

If you want to see just me, put a ring on my finger and here is my mortgage statement, car note, dishes in my sink, and lets fight over who should have taken out the trash.  If you want to skip all that crap and have fun, take me for a test spin, or rent me for the weekend, and don't think twice about stopping by as many dealerships for as many other test spins as your heart desires.  THAT IS THE POINT OF THIS!!!  FUN!

 If you have fun, you will be back.  If I was not exactly what you wanted, let me help you find who is.  THIS IS SUPPOSED TO BE FUN!!!  And for good providers, there is PLEANTY of men ... we are as busy as we want to be and don't see helping each other stay safe as harmful to our own needs.

Have a great weekend everyone!
xo - Hannah

 
Isn't she just and get to the back of the queue

Well said Hannah! Couldn't of said it better myself. I too have NO problem giving a reference and even hook my clients up with quality gals I know in the business. GOOD KARMA!  

So I do most of the cooking, take the trash out, load the dishwasher, buy the wine, and pay for the yard guy.  
And do amazing things with coconut oil and a FC2

xoxo