I met a new provider a few weeks ago.  We hit it off and exchanged contact info.  Since then we've gone out on a couple of dates.  Very chaste, innocent stuff -- nothing more than some light kissing and hand holding.  Now I can't get her out of my head and would love to see more of her (in more ways than one).

Would it be considered poor form for me to book an appointment?  Is that some sort of breach of whatever kind of relationship (and I mean that in the most general sense possible) we may have started?

ask her out on another date and make your move? See what happens. If she asks for 250, then at least u will know where u stand. If she doesn't, you're golden. Win win either way.

Thanks for responding.  Your advice would be the logical thing to do.  The biggest issue is that she's sporadic with communication and her schedule is busy, so I never know when I'll get to see her again.  Guess I'll just try to be patient and see what happens.

did this relationship started from a business perspective and then when you guys hit it off you had the off the clock dates?  Or was this strictly off the clock dates from the beginning?

If it is the latter and you now schedule appointments to see her, then it might change the nature of your relationship and it will be hard for you to go back once you have an appointment with her.

It depends on how you want to proceed in this relationship.  If you want something beyond physical then I say don't schedule an appointment with her and let things develop like any relationship in real life.  If you want to satisfy your desire, then schedule an appointment with her.  Who knows, maybe you two can maintain a professional as well as a private relationship.  Good luck.

Our first meeting was professional and everything since then has been 'outside', so to speak.  Beyond the physical attraction, I really enjoy her company as she is sweet, smart, and fun.  However, she's not going to be in town for that long, so I kind of see this as a fling and want to, in essence, maximize whatever time I can have with her.  I guess I'll be patient in the short term and play it by ear.  Thanks all for your advice.

Unless that is that you met by having an appointment with her, them maybe.  But it sounds like that is not the case here.  If you did not meet through an appointment then I can almost guarantee it will change the relationship.  So you need to decide if you want to move that way or take the risk it works that way.  Even so, I would not just schedule an appointment.  If you want something more I would suggest maybe going on a couple of more dates and look for an opportunity to carefully open a discussion on where things are going, etc.  There are a lot of providers that really do not like their clients and actually resent them.  They will never actually admit that for obvious reasons, but that is often the case.  If this is one and you are interested in something more than physical then you are asking for trouble.  It really depends on the psychology of the provider and there is a lot of variation there.  

Here is something else to keep in mind dude:  Maybe she likes you and would be interested in something more than physical.  But also, maybe she thinks she found a sucker she can tolerate being around and can manipulate into spending a lot of money on her without her really having to perform any services.  Could be either situation dude.  But I will tell you, many providers have the psychological profiles of some of the most manipulative people the human race can generate.  Be careful.

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a client I started seeing off of the clock stops making appointments with me but makes appointments with other dolls.

Generally the 90-day wonders like the opportunity to have a friendly trusted client squire them about town but, unless they are foolish or naive , not at the expense of their work.

Too often client/ K-doll relationships lead to disastrous unintended results where either the K-dolls ,the clients or both lose out.  

Smart bookers keep track of the booking patterns and practices of their clients , they also seem to know which  Johns persistently attempt to the K-dolls , a practice that does not endure the John to the bookers, because of it's possible negative impact on business.

In your place I  would continue to book appointments and if the opportunity lends itself make off the clock date, and see how things develop.    

she probably has sensed this is a fling so you probably probably need to expect to either "pay" for other services or spend a lot of money on her in other ways.  Also, if she does realize this I will double what I said before.  If this is an experienced provider you need to be extra careful because she could easily just be seeing what she can get out of you without having to bother with other services.  

This especially holds true if she is supporting a substance abuse problem with her income generation method and no you will not likely realize the problem exist for some time, assuming it does.

Yeah, that's the thing. As we all know, these ladies work insane hours. 6 days a week. Sometimes 7 days for the 3-month wonders. She's not going to have much time for anything else. That's why I say, just wait for the next date and go for it. See if she really likes you or not. I would not "ask" her where the relationship is going. That's a bad strategy in ANY relationship. Just do it.

In the meantime, if I were you, I would continue seeing her on the clock. If she's that hot and that much fun to be with, then why deprive yourself? She will be gone soon. Enjoy her while you can and, when she eventually goes home, you'll have lots of good memories. Maybe you'll keep in touch. Maybe not. But might as well have fun while the opportunity is here.

Hmmm, that has the potential to create one of those awkward moments after where one is thinking one thing and the other something else.  I learned that first hand several years ago with a friend/provider.  Even though I did expect to give her something, there was the question of exactly what.  I guess it's a question of if someone wants to get it out of the way first or deal with it later.

I agree.  This just doesn't work IMO and in my experience having had a provider as a fuck buddy.

If you pay her, you'll never get out of the client view she has of you.

What's the missing word in this sentence? Do what to the K-dolls?

"they also seem to know which  Johns persistently attempt to the K-dolls"

Thanks for pointing this out mate. I hope this helps.  

"they also seem to know which  Johns persistently attempt to DATE  the K-dolls"

Ah, that makes sense! My mind was wandering.

I just assume that whatever I say to a K-doll will go straight back to the booker.

He has already paid her at least once. That's how they met.