I cannot count how many times I observed a total devaluation of working ladies by women who are NOT escorts or work otherwise within the adult industry. Oftentimes these women display an open hostility and demonstrative disrespect. I often thought that this might be jealousy ‘deep down inside’ as these women would love to be a working lady, even if it was for one day only. They may bare an envy of ‘erotic power’ or ‘erotic pleasure’, which is attributed to Courtesans commonly, even by those who condemn their services.  
Jealousy and envy are linked, inseparably and most powerful, though destructive emotions. Even very attractive ‘career women’ or loving, care giving house wives often deny themselves pleasure or playfulness, being dominated by harsh self-discipline and ‘guilt’. Besides social skills, Courtesans are also associated with openness, sensuality, talents, courage, non-conformity or even beauty. Silent admiration is paired with hostility in many, somewhat knowing that this is an extremely demanded service throughout all levels of society. Deep seated curiosity and that ‘specialness’ attributed to Courtesans, along with their controversial status in public, very well may trigger a wish in many women to be a hot looking Courtesan in lingerie and high heels… even if it was for one day only

That is sure the long way around the barn to say regular society women don't like escorts.  As to whether or not they'd like to be one, even for one day, in my view probably not likely.   Curiosity is probably as far as it goes.  They have the ring and resent the fact that you're  after their husbands money far too much.

I think that most civvie women either look down at providers in general and the more militant feminists berate them as being women who kowtow to the patriarchal suppressors and thus hold back female empowerment & advancement. I think that it's a very complex issue, especially among women not in the industry. As a woman who enjoys providers and other women in the sex trade, I would never in a million years discuss or disclose my "hobby" to the women that I know. I would be denounced much more harshly than any man would be - I am considered a traitor to my fellow women because I am contributing to the continued oppression of sex workers by employing them. I got into a heated discussion a few years back with a female coworker about this and have since learned to keep my mouth shut, even when some of my female friends are dissing dancers and providers. You also have to remember that we women are socialized to be ashamed, embarrassed and extremely modest about sex. Thankfully alot of that backwards thinking is disappearing, and each new generation of women is gleefully embracing their sexuality (whatever it may be) and running with it. Hopefully in the near future civvie women might begin to feel differently about the sex industry....but for now it's the same old stereotypes and ignorance that keeps the status quo....at least in their eyes .

...that women from many backgrounds and socioeconomic statuses fantasize about.

I've always wondered, when I am older will I experience jealousy of younger women, or if I will feel content with the physical youth I experienced?  

I have had so many interesting experiences with non-escort women, even dating back to way before my escort days.  When I was about 17, I started to notice some middle-aged and older women give me what I interpreted as "dirty looks," and even talking down to me.  I always assumed it was either because A) they were simply annoyed with young people, or B) they were actually jealous of the youthful, content, and confident energy I possess.  I recall even thinking that perhaps some of these women had husbands/boyfriends who had cheated on them, which may have manifested a resentment toward all other women perceived as potential threats.  

Building on the notion that many women feel threatened by other women, it makes sense that many non-escorts collectively see escorts as an  extreme version of that threat... i.e., the shameful, disgusting women actively "trying to steal" married men.  

Of course, there is the proportion of women who don't experience resentment toward others.  I think it's within this proportion that a much smaller % (yet still surprisingy high %) of women fantasize about being a Courtesan.  (btw--Julienne, I love your consistent capitalization of the word Courtesan)

It's just so interesting that no matter what the popular opinion of Courtesans, some women will hate us while others will fear us, and others will envy us.  Some women probably even experience a frustrating combination of the three!  In my case, before I decided to become a Courtesan, I was simply intrigued & amazed by my fantasy of it.  

Maybe I'm over-thinking it.  I don't know.... just a thought.

xo, Mia

it's all about the denial of women's own agency over their own bodies.

imo it's inexorably linked (tho hard to see the direct connection) to open hostility towards a woman's right to choose birth or no birth.

women in this patriarchal society are not allowed to control their own destiny, let alone their own sexual & reproductive systems.

and so other women (and men) hate those that do.

a problem the old farts have with you young whippersnappers is that youth invariably goes hand in hand with supreme confidence, even in things you kids have no business being confident about.

i don't begrudge kids their energy or their ability to dance all night, drink until dawn, then get up and go to work and laugh off their hangover.

i do dislike it when they act as if they invented partying.

i don't put this on you mia, because we've not met, but many young people are openly disdainful and disrespectful of folks like me that can't move as fast.

yes, i wish i had the energy of my youth, but i am very very happy to have the wisdom of my oldth.  for instance, i am a much much better lover now that i've experienced a few things. i take longer, but just today a young lady didn't mind at all that i took so long to finish.  at least she seemed to enjoy it from where she was sitting..

to keep this short
They have the ring so would say  "They private hookers" IAM  SO SO kidding  CAT!! Baci on u
I am "seriously "kidding as u know Me ...Lol
Well  
At least we are FREE  , most of us have other jobs and careers  
Takes  a lot of  courage ,compassion ,caring and  a nice charismatic personality
To be a provider
At least a good one
and is not for everyone

CC

Bella!  Bad girl!  I agree it's not for everyone.  The one flaw in your theory is that once the ring is on her finger, her knees are off the floor.  Ha!

While I disagree that youth goes hand-in-hand with supreme confidence, I do strongly agree that many young people are disrespectful of persons that exceed them in age.  It's a shame.  In many cultures around the world, being younger than someone immediately means you respect them (at least at the most basic level), and the most experienced & elderly members of society are most respected & revered; I certainly wish that was the case here in the US.  

I love these interesting discussions that often pop up on our boards!

xo, Mia

Yes, this is written very well and 'nails' what I meant. Mixed feelings about the 'unknown': disapproval, fear, envy, jealousy, admiration...an 'emotional mix' in many women, probably also existing among women in most diverse contexts, as expressed by you similarly...

To put it in a nutshell or Lehman's terms where're all Courtesan's in life it all depends on what we're selling and offering. And are comfortable and proud on what we do.  

Some just call it "A Bitch Thing" that may be true for those women who harbor jealousy, envy and resentment toward providers.  There is also fear based on insecurity. Fear that their husbands or SO's find them less than sexually satisfyingly, thus they seek P4P services.   (They don't realize that most men are just dogs.)
Militant feminist, the religious hypocrites and the sheltered all have their own agendas.
In my experience, most well adjusted open minded women appear to be neutral about prostitution.  Many, more or less accept and even respect the professional independent escort.
An attractive upper management colleague I know, admitted to me that most women have fantasized about being a high end provider.    Don't know about that,.. Who knows?  Maybe she saw Jane Fonda in Klute.

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of a civvie woman (corporate executive type) who wanted to be a Courtesan for a day.  We got as far as me suggesting 69, and her responding, "I'm a Republican.  I don't do that sort of thing."

I think that everyone worships beautiful and "switched on" women (which most Courtesans are).

Democrat, Republican, Muslim, Christian, Atheist - and yes both men and women, want and need these goddesses.  

Those looks are "I want you" / "I need you" / etc.   It just doesn't come out right in the more repressed judgemental types.

I guarantee you that Carla the Italian goddess could seduce any one of them if she put her mind to it!

There is such power there... IMHO anyway...

I just had a flashback to the days/weeks after the movies "Indecent Proposal" and "Pretty Woman" were released.  My recollection is that a lot of women said that under the right circumstances, this would be possible.  The power of popular media...

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I have been "judged" often in my life especially by supposedly "Christian" people! Cannot believe that  a person could MURDER somebody and just say "sorry" but I Now accept Jesus as my personal savior and TA DA! they get into heaven...but God forbid you are a whore and do not "repent" or refuse to believe in their male only trinity.. and strait to hell with you. .doesn't  matter if you are a really good person who does her best to show love and kindness to everyone she meets...makes me sooo angry! when I Was first putting up my donation site I had a couple pics on my Facebook that were kind of sexy.. bathingsuit etc.(nothing explicit)a bunch of "strait" people that know me and love me couldn't text/email me fast enough telling me "OMG, Take those photos down!" Mostly Christian people donate to those sites and they didnt want me to be judged "poorly WTF? So if I enjoy sex as a women I am not worthy of getting help unless I conform to their belief system and deny who I am?!! I am NOT ashamed of me, I am the KINDEST person I know... I am so sick and tired of this BULLSHIT! ALL of the websites that are devoted to helping sick or disabled people are faith -based and expect you to be a member of a church etc. I refuse to 'perform" for them or act like something IM NOT! You are so right about most strait women having a secret fantasy about being a provider.. my own mother even said that she wished she were brave enough to do it when she was younger...! SO.. Keep on keeping on girls, WE know who we are and I love every "whore" on here!


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She deep trooth  that banana almost as good as Ashley shye Lol

funny dinamics
people love to judge things that they desire but have no courage to DO!!
is it boring? and predictable  
Idiots!!  
lol
CC

Hi Dear, yes, there is a lots of BS out there. I completely comprehend your anger. Its is about double standards...
I truly hope that something will change toward legalization but also acceptance in society! I personally changed quite a bit over the years..Basically I no longer care whether or not someone knows that I am escorting ...My closest friends (who I did NOT meet as an Escort) know about it for years and had no problems with it neither reacted 'shocked' at first. They understand the world and reality we live in. Of course, I think it is nicer to have a 'life outside" as well...Keep on 'rocking'!