This is for the ladies! How many references do you give one provider? Is it limitless or you do have a set amount you give/won't give? Also, how many references do you give one client? Thanks!!

Ladies, if I spend $1000 on you, how many reference checks is that worth?  Can you spare a few minutes answering a few text messages during your downtime?  

Hey, it's your business, your policy.

I agree with what everyone is saying but you don't think at some point when you get contacted repeatedly for one single person they're just being lazy on screening and solely relying on you as their own screening method? Now someone mentioned spending money on a provider so you instantly feel like you're "owed" something more than the time spent with this lady. I understand where you're coming from, but you're not paying for multiple references. You're paying for the time spent with that said woman. A few references is no big deal, but there's line to be drawn. Another thing, if you see multiple women, use them as a reference, why use the same lady over and over? Isn't a red flag? If a provider asks me for more than 8 references within a certain amount of time I feel like she's not screening and relying on ONE reference

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I know you're not asking, but this is from a client perspective.

Monger here. I do appreciate how one can get spammed by constant requests and the need to limit the number of requests you get. But if you were to have a general rule, I would think that the general rule should be that you should give AT LEAST the number of references that you actually ask for. In many cases, providers ask for 2 even if they only get one response back. So by this logic, providers who ask for 2 references should be prepared to give at least 2 references for the same client.

+1  A Booker for a relatively new Provider asked me if I would be so kind to write a complimentary review of her Provider.  I had a fun time so I obliged her and wrote a nice review.  Shortly thereafter, when I asked for a referral, the Booker told me she only gives referrals if I see her girl at least 3 times.  I understand the desire for repeat business but this sounded way too greedy for me.  Guess who I won't see again?!?!

perfectly reasonable for me.  References amount to OTC time for the provider, so it makes sense that it should relate somehow back to the amount of PAID hours you have had from a particular customer.  I rarely need to use refs, but I do enjoy OTC time as a thank you for the many hours I have spent with a particular provider.  I will often get a two hour dinner date piggy-backed onto a two hour session once a month with my regulars that I see weekly.  If a customer would rather use that OTC time to have you give him refs, I think it amounts to the same thing.  Just my opinion.  Others may disagree.  

for both parties. I personally have found that P411 has simplified things significantly for me.  A lady can quickly see what she needs to. Then it's up top her to determine whether additional screening is needed, if so she already has that data in front of her and can pick and choose whom she reaches out too.

Ladies, when you see a client has a whitelist do you call the providers on his list for reference or accept them in lieu of references? I have heard some providers whitelist to avoid future calls for reference. Should I use a provider on my whitelist as a named reference?

Do you ladies look at a clients reviews, white lists, p411 okays? I have ladies that I continue to see that are my go to reference if need be. But at some point doesn't it become obvious Client A seems like a pretty good guy that seems pretty respectable and I may even have a nice time with?

It depends from  who  is the white list ...if is reputable provider  
Or how old is the  white list ..
Some guys have  white list too  old.. From  provider that  is not even in bussiness ..
I  Usually white list to help the ladies and guys  get reference easy... And on time ...
Give references does  not bother me at all.  and made a  lot girlfriends  checking  and giving references  As long is not abuse.. Use me.. but  not abuse me ...smiling .

I'll give a refs to any one who ask  I don't keep count on who's asking  

Yes! The key word here is ABUSE. I have no problems as long as they're not abusing the reference check system

Hi There  

Just do you. If you don't want to OK someone for another provider for whatever reason, don't.

I can attest first hand that Larissa is extremely helpful when it comes to references, but by that same token, you should also be respectful of any provider if you wish her to do the same for you.

I would NEVER see you cause you act like your too good to help a guy out who spends money on you .Its disgusting that you act like that to your clients . The true colors come out on you . Disgusting behavior by you  and I hope your clients read what really on the inside of you .

But I get how awkward it is to give a reference for a guy you saw one time over a year ago.  But putting a specific limit on the number of references you give for a guy you saw recently doesn't seem right either.  It's all about staying safe.

If I am going to use a lady that I have seen as a reference, I contact her either via TER PM, text or e-mail and let her know. I wait for a reply before moving ahead.  

Yes, I usually that too.

Nice.... a truly  gentleman

Agree!! If I've seen him, I'll verify. Too hard to keep up all the timelines. I would tell the girl though that it has been a while since I saw him .

Giving her website and email address and maybe her phone number when asked for references is slightly complicated because it means getting the info from her profile and typing it into the screening form or email. So...what I do is copy the info for two providers and email it to myself so I can cut and paste when giving references to someone new. So I might use the same two providers several times in a row.

Not sure you read the whole thread lol

when traveling for references....and I'm very happy to do it!

Is it OK to not give someone an OK just because the same person keeps listing you as their reference.

I just had someone use me as a refes that I have not seen in 5years lol  
and only way I really remember him was from we did weekend date .

Agreeed!
I like them as an aide in screening as well. Smoothlines, a lot of it for me.  
In addition to which, they are hosted outside of this glorious country of ours.