often I have read blog posts accusing USA ladies to manipulate the system in various ways. Some apparently offer discounts for reviews or free services or whatever else you can think of. Other have complained of serial blacklister. In that case, I would have liked to know if the issue was with the fact that the escort blacklisted more than once or if what she posted were lies. There is a big difference there. Also, exagerated scores have been topic for many forums on TER.  
 
-Now, pleas allow me to bounce the ball back for a minute. If a hobbyist is to write a review just to help a provider (even if her *** wasnt fit to ...erm fit him) isnt this manipulating the system? This was not on TER. I am just giving examples of scenarous I know of. I am also not taking sites. I am just brainstoring here.  
 
- If a guy cancels a provider AFTER the time they agreed to meet just because he changed his mind and the girl expresses her disappointment, and for that she gets a fake negative review for revenge isnt manipulating the system?  
 
- If a guy sends you threathening private messages saying how the guys sicretly talk and he will make sure to put you off business by slagging you off because he does not agree with an opinion expressed in the forum by a provider. Isnt this manipulating the system? You talk to screw girls over for expressing their views? really? Kind of sad lol  
 
- writing a negative review on one provider just because another compeeting one badmouth her and you wish to take sides. Isnt this manipulating the system?  
 
- using TER to make a provider perform "better" is a way of using TER for your gain outside of the limits of this very same website. So, isnt this also manipulating the system and the lady?  
 
I have had the pleasure to meet and comunicate with a whole bunch of great guys over the last few years. I have also come to observe how in the end some individuals (not all) actually sabotage themselves by sabotaging the girls for their own gain. The truth is that any kind of manipulation of a review system/site is self defeating in the long run.  
 
For thoes who cheated, women BUT ALSO MEN, you are being defeated.  
 
Paranoya over reviews is because scammers who manipulate the system. So actually, it could easely said that the above examples are part of the reason why the rest does not trust reviews entirelly.  
 
Just a thought.  
 
If a guy askes info about an escort and the guy who was asked claims to have seen the lady but did not review, then he should not have the right to comment. That is what reviews are for . This is my view anyway. think, if he saw her why not review her but is happy to give it the time of the day to give you a feedback?  
 
To all the fair player love you all and lets keep playing  
 
I would love to read your thoughts on this and would love to read men and ladies share scenarious the have experienced or are aware of. Lets bring it all out in the open for reflection shall we?!  
 
Serena x

Many of your points are true, But perhaps the worst offender is the system its self (TER) Reviews have been deleted to raise ratings, People have been banned, and review denied because they are not juicy enough. Its just not a level playing field.  

And perhaps the worst offender is Lust. Even I am guilty, If I write a review just after a wonderful session I tend to give higher scores than if I let it wait a week or two.  

Now along with reviews are references. In the old days reference requirements were minimal. Now it is the norm. I have heard of ladies giving bad references but perhaps the worst is none at all. It makes Us (men) frustrated.  The mood for seeing a provider is fleeting, one moment you got to see her then as the days turn into weeks as you try to get verified you loose interest.  

 I don't place much value in reviews. I am most interested in her personality. And when I read reviews I always read the worst ones to see if it is is all BS.. I usually can tell. So if she is not a total rip off I'm interested.  

And a true gentlemen does not kiss and tell. So back channel communication as it relates to "bad" ladies is not acceptable. Better to say nothing if you do not have anything nice to say.  

A personal wish, I wish providers would allow private discussion (just the two of us) on how the session went. No hut feelings no fears of retaliation, just constructive discussion. Ah the perfect world

you made a bunch of valuable points. This is exactly what I was hoping with my post. I was hoping that the kind of comunication could start here in a more generic fashion so to understand each other prospectives.  

I believe that by sharing eachother point of views, we will understand eachother better and perhaps we will reach that oint in which that more private dialogue was possible.  

Thanks for your contribution

I have to agree with SampleTaster,  he made some valid points.
I would just add:

In regard to references, the old days seemed to work a lot better.  It never was an issue getting a reference from a local to give to another local lady, they all knew each and just wanted everyone to be safe.  Now, I am noticing more ladies adding conditions to their references, 6 month expiration, only after 2-3 sessions and not giving you a reference then offering you a discount to return. Also, screening requirements vary from lady to lady now, so its no sure thing a client with references will be able to see her.  The new rage is using screening services and seeing how many oks you have from ladies why never talk to .   So, from a client's perspective, the mood to see a lady is very fleeting.   It went from a personal service to an automated process with no guarantee of success.  Which makes you say, why bother.        

Writing a bad review sometimes hurts the client than helping the provider improve her service.  

Talking after a session is  great idea, so is talking before the session.  A lot of ladies in the past  did that.  Spent a few minutes on the phone with you after screening to just to break the ice and get to know other a little.  It help so that you both were not dangling your feet off the bed, trying to break the ice before the sessions.    

There are some that rather put more effort into manipulating the system for their gain. But they fail to see if they put that effort into making themselves the best provider they can be,  giving individual attention to their clients and just making it fun and safe, they could be very successful.    

there are so many ladies with great reviews, set yourself apart from the rest and make yourself the one lady everyone has to see once in their life.  

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One of my biggest complaints about the situation today is the whole reference system. I understand why it exists and why providers want reliable and recent references. But I feel very awkward asking a woman I saw before to vouch for me. I'm basically saying, I don't want to fuck you now, maybe never, but I do want to fuck someone else; still, could you vouch for me? Many providers understand the request, but I can't help feel I'm being rude in asking. White listing seems to be a poor substitute--there's not much incentive for someone I've already seen to go out of her way to say I'm a good guy. And even if I'm white listed, a provider might still ask for references--she might not trust the system.

Please excuse my whining! I know there is no good solution to these pitfalls but a bit of smarts and caution and patience, but since the topic was brought up...