Los Angeles
The first thing I notice about a man besides his physical attractiveness is his STYLE, and whether or not he holds himself with confidence. Men's fashion, especially for those over 35, is definitely not meant to be eye-catching like women's styles, but the subtleties of tailoring, fit, trend, accessories, etc., make for a potentially dashing combination. One of my favorite fashion mantras is 'dress braver than you feel.' 
Never underestimate the power of a dapper suit or anything that can be paired with a skinny tie/bowtie. Layers are hot, and the details matter. Don't be afraid to try different prints. Facial grooming is also important (pick a style that makes you look youthful, masculine, and shows off the angles of your face), as is knowing how to dress for your body type.
I'd also be careful with the "quiet but assertive", I think it was phrased that way. Assertive can run awfully close to "asshole" in the wrong light. Sure there are some women who are turned on by the dominant types, but that's not an across-the-board thing.
My advice? Be yourself. Don't try to put on airs of the type of person that you think you should be. That doesn't mean scratch your balls, burp and fart in public :-p but there's nothing quite as attractive as someone who is comfortable in their own skin, no matter if they're a 6'4 Adonis or not. Even if you fake being confident at first nobody else is going to know
Style & taste go a long way, but IMO that's just icing on the cake. If you find someone you're genuinely interested in, everything else should fall into place. Good luck
But I do know that the time I have spent with you has been so very enjoyable. And if you just be the same guy with "real world" girls as you are with me, you will no doubt not be needing to call me anymore. And sincerely, I want that for you. God I wonder what that ex of yours did to you to make you not able to see in yourself the man I see in you. Ok. Done rambling. The ONLY thing stopping YOU from dating is that voice in the back of YOUR head. You are VERY dateable. xo - Hannah
One thing besides the obvious physical attributes is a seemingly happy attitude. You can tell a lot by watching someone for only a few minutes. Are they smiling? Engaging with others? Laughing? Enjoying life? If so, I would definitely be looking twice And get my attention.
If a man is close enough to smell, I LOVE getting a faint whif of a great smelling cologne!
I like finding out what my date loves to do for fun, and since I'm a foodie I love finding out someone's personal favorite and least favorite foods. Always makes for great conversation.
I love commando but have no problem with either briefs or boxers....
I love it when a hairy man trims. It's certainly my preference but I don't really mind hairy men either.
I guess I just love men, period. All types and shapes and sizes...
But one who loves food and is fun and happy and smells good will score the highest with me....just sayin
My questions are:
Is there anything that makes you look twice [in a good way] at a guy across a room other than his physical attributes?
If you ladies really want a guy's attention you can dress seductively, put on heels, smile, flirt.........is there anything men can do to get your attention?
So now you are talking to the guy, is there anything that makes you want to know him more, other than the basics of good hygiene, dressed appropriately, cologne - subtle -not overwhelming, fresh breath, manners, good listener, sense of humor, confidence .......?
Moving along does it really matter, boxers, briefs, boxer briefs, commando ........
Finally and I know that this is a matter of preference, if a guy has hairy arms or legs and he trims them back is this something that you appreciate or do you think this as "unmanly". What about if he trims and shaves the boys.................good for you or unmanly?
Thanks for your help.
from across the room!
stone-face Clint Eastwood look!