I've done some limited hobbying in canada but have not ventured out here in Cali yet. I don't live in Los Angeles (I'm a couple hours away) but travel there every 4-6 weeks and am thinking about finding someone to keep me company when I stay there

Not doing an outcall before what would be the preferred method of meeting a date? I think I would prefer to meet someone in the lobby then go up to my room. The alternative being to simply wait in my room.

Also, this is a minor thing but what's the etiquette for parking since you can't park anywhere for free at a hotel? Should you tip extra for parking or is that just a known expense for the provider?

Last, I would always plan on being showered, clean and ready for my date before we met but didn't know if there was any expectation for that to occur after she arrived. In past experiences the providers I've visited expect you to shower when you arrive at the parlor, even if you did before you went.

Probably a lot of silly questions but I like to be prepared! I'm excited but extremely nervous to meet new people.

Thanks all!!
MrMike

While I know the answer can vary between different providers, do drinks in the lobby count towards the allotted time?

I would say gentlemen take care of my parking on outcalls & I love to meet for a drink in the lobby 1st!

Being fresh is always best, or showering together is great too!

By the way, you may want to check out the newbie board too...

http://www.theeroticreview.com/discussion_boards/messageList.asp?boardID=33

I don't see the harm in answering these questions here on this board, everyone, so here is goes.  

When I meet someone for an outcall I always like to meet them downstairs in the bar or restaurant and talk first over drinks or even dinner.   I feel like that way we can get to know each other and let the excitement and anticipation build from there, and it's just an added layer of safety for me.   To answer your second question, the time we spend downstairs is part of the allotted time we have previously agreed upon.   I prefer to make sure that all the time is paid for that way it does not feel like any lines are being blurred.

I do always hope that the person I meet is going to be a gentleman and take care of my parking for me, but there have been a couple of times where that did not happen.  That being said, I would never ask for money to cover the parking or the tip for the valet, I think that is in poor taste.

As for the shower, I expect that the gentleman will already be showered and shaved and ready when I get there.  I do not expect him to shower again once I arrive and I would much rather we spend that time getting to know each other.

This is just how I do things but I hope that gives you a little perspective on what you can expect.  All of us gals handle things differently, but the key is to always be respectful and be a gentleman (which you obviously are because you are asking these questions in the first place) and everything will go great.

Good luck!

Fantastic answer !!!!  Well said Ms. Rossi !!!!

Now why in the world would I meet someone for a drink when that counts as time for your service . I repeat THIS IS NOT A DATE! Do I say the word CLOCKWATCHER to your name . Ill take the steak and skip the dessert .

thanks alyssarossi! Great info.

The reason I posted here is I figured some of the etiquette may be more area specific for LA vs other parts of the country. Don't know just thought the ladies and gents in the area would be the best to answer my questions.

Thank you!

Everyone runs their businesses differently. Most ladies I see don't start the clock if we meet at the bar and have a cocktail to take the edge off. If Ms. Rossi chooses to do so - that's how she runs her business. The beauty of laissez-faire capitalism is she'll attract the clientele she wants - and if not - she'll choose whether or not to adjust her business practices. Guessing from her reviews, she's doing just fine.

As for me, there are plentyof well reviewed amazing ladies that will share a cocktail with me to get to know one another and then retire to the room for our festivities.  An interesting side note, funny how if they host at a hotel, they are fine with me knocking on the door - but if I host, they'd prefer to meet at the bar.  Whatever, I enjoy a good stiff drink like the rest of you.

Stay safe my friends ...

I agree, the women I've met who like to do a last 'screen' over drinks do not charge for that time.  I think this is very different from when the client asks for the date experience that includes drinks or dinner from the beginning, then that time should be billed.  But if this is for the sake of the escort's preference, then that time shouldn't be billed.  my 2 cents

doc

That reminds me of a line from Pirates of the Caribbean.  "you best rethink the way you feel about ghost stories, missy.  You're in one!"

Lines are pretty blurry when youre in the "fun" business.  You're rules pile up and sound pretty self serving for someone providing hospitality for a living.

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whether you spend it in bed or playing ping pong, we are donating to this ladies for their time.

if you don't want to spend it drinking in a bar, make it known before you even see her.  if she demdands it, find someone else that will give you the steak without asking any questions.

there are plenty of ladies who will do that.

The hotel staff would conclude one of three things.  She's a:

1) Nymphomaniac
2) Alcoholic
3) ________________ (you fill in the blank)

I agree, your donating for our time spent together. It doesn't matter how we spend that time. Unless I favor you more and never mind the extra Q.T. I had an outcall the other day and the guy ran over 30 min., talking and wanting to have diner, Then expected an extra 30 for the night cap.

I am speaking as provider and you are speaking as a hobbyist, we are coming from two completely different perspectives and that is really something to keep in mind with this entire conversation.  That being said, I have to disagree with you and say that the lines are not blurry in the fun business, but they can easily get that way, especially when you are with a great provider.  It is the job of the provider during your time together to make those lines seem like they've disappeared, but there needs to be a construct in which that can happen.  Every provider chooses how she wants to set up that construct in order for her to feel comfortable enough to do her job and share a great experience with you.  And as we can see from this entire thread, mine works for some of you and not for others.

As to my preferences, of course they are self-serving.  I have to protect myself and make sure that I stay safe and am not taken advantage of.   Am I to trust that every gent I meet will have my best interest in mind and leave it at that every time I meet a complete stranger?   I have the right to make the call on who I see and how I see them.

Think what you would like about what I have said, I have no problem with that.  In fact I am sure I'll get a few more insults hurled at me and maybe even some more movie quotes.  This is how I run my life, my business, and protect my safety so that I can offer a great experience.   If how I do things makes you uncomfortable, then you don't need to give me a second thought.  

None of you have ever walked a mile in any provider's shoes, especially mine, so just please be conscious of that before you start passing judgements or hurling insults.  If how one of us does something rubs you the wrong way, then just move on...like I am about to do right now.

yeah guys are pigs lol!

seriously, if the provider is into it and things go a little over, no harm no foul, but guys shouldn't expect any extra attention off the clock before or after.  it's the time we are paying for.

If a provider requests that the gent come downstairs and requests to have a drink b4 going upstairs; it seems to be that the this is "off the clock" time.  I don't see how you can charge a gent for a drink and time that a provider has requested.  On the other hand, if the gent suggests having a drink prior to going upstairs, then I can see a provider charging for this time.

Thats the way I've always known it to work.   Of course, everyone has the choice to run their biz the way they see fit.  Heck, I am friends with a very popular Vegas lady who insists and meeting the gent downstairs, having the drink already for him, and then paying for it.

As others have said, there is no right way or wrong way in this biz.  Its what works for both parties.

My two centavos.

Bond

didn't intend to be insulting.  just disagree.  

i get that it's your business and the great thing about that is you run it the way you want to.  from a business "best practices"  POV, however, the four seasons' answer to my post would have been, "you're right", no matter how much of a dick they thought i was.  that's hospitality.  i'm happy for you that your rules work for you and your clients.

responding to the safety comments in your post, and the comment about standing in your shoes, i wouldn't do what you do -- way more scary from your point of view than from the monger point of view. really grateful there are ladies willing to do this -- but spontaneity is part of lust, so best of luck with your rules.

YOU girls make 500 bucks in a hour and up for lying down and B.S talk More then most guys make in a week and you still complain about things . Get a real job and youll have some real complaining . Its absolutely ridiculous how out of touch some of you women are to the real world . The guys that see you work there ASS off to make this money and some of you dont give a SHIT .

Seems like my original post has taken on quite a tangent!

Thanks to all those who answered my questions. Clearly this is a free market, some women charge more then others, some provide different services. We have a choice to whom we see and anyone in this (or any other) business or have the right to run it out they see fit.

I'm looking forward to meeting some lovely ladies in the Los Angeles area, thanks again!!

If you invite a lady to see you at your hotel where you have to pay for parking or valet, you should cover her parking.  When we guys go to those hotels to see a lady, we pay for parking.

There was another benefit to having drinks before the session that no one mentioned. If you two don't get along or there is no spark or just not what each other expected, its a perfect time to end the date right there.  Cover the lady's travel expenses and I am sure she would understand.

With all the bantering above, everyone is not on the same page.  Most were thinking one hour sessions including having drinks.  Not every lady does one hour outcalls, some require longer sessions for outcalls. Which is why you need to look at a lady's website before you throw stones.

For my perspective Bond had the best take on the protocol to follow with regards to pre session drinks. This is still a business transaction for which the client is paying for irrespective where it is a one hour or 12 hour session.
Paying for the providers parking cost is a no brainer. If she is on an outcall.

Once you post , the thread takes a life of it's own beyond your control , you can just watch and enjoy/cringe accordingly

Your post generated an interesting discussion from different perspectives.  

its still going to be the lady defining the terms of engagement!  

Parking might be a no brainer for you and me but there are plenty that don't!

I take meeting in the lobby and drinks on a case-by-case basis. If the gentleman I'm visiting is much older than me and obviously not my boyfriend/lover, I try to be more discreet when in a public hotel setting. I am happy to meet someone in the lobby provided everything looks plausible. If it's fairly obvious that the situation is P4P, I will be more reserved in and save the PDAs for when we are back in the room. As for drinks, I am fine with getting a quick drink before a date without taking it out of the allotted time, provided I have space in my schedule to do so. If I've been booked for a longer date (2-3+ hours), I naturally assume that we won't be having sex the entire time, so drinks are usually part of our contracted time because at that length of a date, it's clearly my company as well as a physical encounter for which I've been booked.

Guys, to each his own but Alyssa makes perfect sense here. If you don't like the rules, go elsewhere. If you fancy Alyssa, you play by her rules. Pretty simple stuff. No need to flame or be sarcastic.