In the last month I've had two well-reviewed providers flake out on me at the last minute. (One of them flaked multiple times.) Now I realize hobbying is not an exact science--a certain amount of inexactness is to be expected. But it's still frustrating, especially when it happens so late that you don't have time to make other plans. Shouldn't there be a place to note stuff like how often a provider cancels, or shows up late, or doesn't respond? You can't do a full review of that provider, but it seems like it would be useful info to have when making an appointment.

I don't know, just a thought.

Its not you but they probably got a better deal with someone else .Remember your not dealing with rocket scientists here .Even though most providers tell you there working there way thru school ,DONT BELIEVE A WORD OF THAT B.S.

I flaked yesterday like a bitch on a perfect gentlemen, which I never do.  It just so happens to be my birthday week (or two weeks...whatever

But here is the thing... If girls flake, there should be no excuses, as it only makes it worse.

When I flaked, I told the truth and said that I  had been up late (which I never do) and simply fell asleep.  He appreciated the truth, and all is well.  

Sometimes we f**k up, but the good ones always make up for it.

Capri Chandler  

No Brennan, it wasn't you!

I cancel if I don't feel like I am capable of being at my best, not to mention that we are keeping this a secret and many of us have intense personal lives, friends, families, boyfriends and other jobs, too.

I always offer a longer date next time or something unless I cancelled because I received last minute info that made me realize we wouldn't be compatible. I also NEVER get upset if a guy cancels. I understand that you have a private life full of responsibilities, too. This is a side gig, a dirty little secret.

I'd rather be known as a canceller than get awful reviews! Sex for a woman is much more invasive, if you have a tummy ache it's gonna be painful to have something inside of you, knocking you around for an hour, lol....I hope it wasn't me who cancelled on you!!

BB

I agree there should be a posting for flaky providers and hobbyists. There is one provider who requires first visit to be outcall.I scheduled one visit after she checked references and agreed. It was email only so I couldn't call.I felt a litle uncertain so I waited at hotel but didn't pay for room. Sure enough she no-showed. Two days later I got an email apologiy.Her direct email wasn't working. It only worked through her ad site. I said ok can you please email me your phone number since I like to have a conversation before the meeting and she did email me her number and we did talk.I made a reservation and paid for a room. Now I have a separate email I use for the hobby that ia not my main email for business. So I need to log-in. So 6 hours before the date I check and she cancelled. I called the hotel but they said it is too late so I am charged for the room.So I contact the provider and her only reply was I am sorry but I did give 24 hour notice. Well she could have called or text me since she had my cell. I asked can we meet at a public place for coffee so she could check me out and then to her in call sine I am already out $$ for a hotel room. She said no. No other accommodation offered. A longer session as Miss Blake offered would have been nice. There are also providers who never return calls or emails. I don't understand that at all. I mean why even post an ad.On the flip side I am sure there are flaky hobbyists but perhaps they are tagged on providers only site?If not. To be fair they should be posted also. I realize the providers time is valuable also.

Have a back up plan.  If that doesn't work out just try the next week.  DON'T TAKE IT PERSONAL!
Never know when a ladies "Woman Visitor" comes a little early.

I made the mistake of getting very upset at a young lady and we almost didn't meet.  That would have been a HUGE mistake!

First rule is always have a plan B, C and maybe D. If you don’t then be OK with you may not get any that day. If they tell you they will make it up to you, generally that just means she might really show up next time and that’s it. If you except anything more don’t, you will be disappointed. Years ago I got to the point that I just tell them she won’t be making anything up because I am not calling again. If she is a regular and you are a regular, which is a whole other story.

The reasons for them canceling are many, kids, SO, drugs/hangover, monthly, illness and who knows. They are much more complicated with their plumbing. Some will get greedy and try for that 5th, 6th or 7th trick and just can’t do it. Never take it personally; they know they are turning down that portion of rent, new Jimmy Choos, purse or household budget.

Always remember that most providers do not have the ability or the desire to run their business in a professional manner. Those that do, keep them happy because they are far and few between.

I do understand how frustrating it can be, you make time in your schedule to have the provider cancel which just ruins your day. That is why you see as many providers as possible, keep your options open, same as dating.  

There's a big difference between someome (provider or client) who has to cancel at the last minute because of an emergency. In those cases, a future accomodation (be it extra $ from the client or extra time from the provider) is just a good sound business practice. However, if it's a case of repeated no shows or constant signicant lateness by a provider then I agree that some type of posting should be in order. Of course,there are rules about slander, mean spirited comments, etc. etc. So what's the answer? Can you post comments about someone who has hung you out to dry? Can you list names? Maybe out Board Moderator can clarify that issue. Ciao!

As in any business there are the good ones and the bad ones. In music or music/business there are two parts to the equation. Musical talent and then there is the business end. Providers are in the same category as I see it. Not only do they have to have the talent, they also have to deliver on performance. Now to the business end of things. Many of they ladies I have had the pleasure of knowing over the years have complained that the business end of screening/booking/calendering/endless emails and phone calls are overwhelming at times.

Hence the agencies. Now I refuse to go through agencies do to my own paranoid status.

The independent ladies that have a good client following have learned to master the business end without it driving them crazy.

Some very talented providers are just poor business woman ie "flakes" and the word soon gets around. That is why TER is so valuable. Now lets all hope that TER can incorporate their new upgrades with the best of the classic TER. Ranting again>>>>

We are always happy to help!

So, Is that why you cancelled me? lol

Aha, I just got it. I think BB hit it on the head.
I get two types of excuses for postponement
1- I have new furniture being delivered
2- my day job called me in!!!
Now, of course some fellows here have been around and now that a provider who is touring the country every week can't keep a day job specially if she post her availability on cv 5 minutes later!!!
So why not just say we are not compatible and. Find out what the poor guy has to say? Don't just judge by the reviews.

You can do some or all of the below in response to a flaky provider.

1.  You can just move onto the next lady.
2.   After you have 10 reviews or more you can join the reviewer's discussion board and probably post about it there.
3.   You can join other adult sites and do you hunting on those sites where you can post about it on the open boards or in private clubs.
4.  You can accept whatever excuse you get and reschedule the appointment.

I am sure there are a lot more options and everybody has their own ideas about how to deal with flakes.