Had an interesting experience.  Was with my ATF kgirl and she asked me to be her bf and she would quit the business.  I've been seeing her for a while and believe that she is serious.  I really like her and am giving it serious consideration.  Anyone have such an experience with a provider?

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Didn't know that there was a kgirl thread.

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researching it and not making me repeat it again. If you have any specific questions about making the transition, ask and I'll try to help.  FYI, out of the many Kgirlfriends I have had, I have never encouraged one to quit working.  There are fewer problems and less drama when they continue to work.

Don't do it. Many have baggage and or issues and than now all there debt, personal issues and possible immigrations issues are all on you now. Or, your responsibility now.

told me the Kgirls are not the same outside as they are inside.  I have found this to be true 90% of the time.  I just ended an outside relationship last month with a girl that I thought was perfect until I started seeing her on the outside for a few months.  She had smoking, drinking and gambling addictions.  Never smelled smoke on her at the incall, but when I went to her apartment the first, and only, time, I thought I was back in the military where they stick you in a building and then throw in tear gas and you have to find your way out.  The gambling addiction got her into hock with some loan sharks.  That's WAY too much baggage for a RL girlfriend.  Most of the time, you will never learn these kinds of things while seeing them at the incall.  

I think that's true of most providers. We only see the fantasy version of them during a session.

Over the years I have become rather close with three providers, not Kgirls.  Usually their personalities are nothing like what you see initially.  I just had one end recently that lasted about three years.  Two of those years she was still a provider, about the last year she had quite the business.  Really the only reason it lasted that long was because she lives in another state.  So we would only see each other when I was visiting her state, she was visiting my state for her "real job", or we would meet somewhere and take a trip together.  It didn't take very long for me to realize there was no way I could be around her a lot.  

In general, personality disorders such a Borderline Personality Disorder only affect about 6% percentage of the population.  I suspect this is likely more at least 30% in the provider population.  Though only one provider has ever admitted to me having it because she was in treatment for it.  

I don't know of this particular lady has BPD or not.  Some things fit while others don't.  But she clearly has some type of personality disorder.  When I first visited her and stayed at her place I was shocked at what a complete slob she was.  I'm not a neat freak, but I'm not a slob either.  I also soon realized she was a heavy smoker even though you couldn't tell if meeting her for a session.  She was also a very heavy drinker.  At this point I was still fine with us visiting on occasion and taking an occasional trip.  

She would talk about how bad her family treats her, about what a pain her roommates were, and about what disasters her past relationships were.  I still didn't see the true issue for about a year and a half until we got too close.  Then I realized, it wasn't her family, roommates, or old boyfriends that were the problem, it was her.   I ran an errand for her once when she was at work, then realized I got the wrong size and needed to go back and exchange it.  She started cussing me out form making the mistake and threatened to cancel our plans for that evening.  She apologized later so I let it go.  On another occasion she contacted me to get advice on something I hold a professional license in.  When she didn't hear the answer she wanted, she started cussing me out.  She apologized later so I let it go.   On another occasion I sent her two items she said she wanted/needed.  One I picked up for her when out of the country and the other she said she was out of, so I ordered more for her then sent both on to her when I had them.  There was a third item she wanted that needed to be kept cool and it was a hot time of the year.  So I researched which was best and told her which one she should get locally.  After she got the package, instead of a thank you, she cussed me out for not getting her the third item.  Then said she lied to me about actually being out of the second item I had ordered for her.  That is three examples, there are more.  She was a crazy bitch and I'm surprised I put up with it as long as I did.  But she usually always apologized later, I wasn't around her much, and when she wasn't being crazy she was fine to be around.  

Another lady I got to know very well turned out to have a severe drug problem.  So I distanced myself from her real fast when I realized the issue.

A third lady I got very close to in the 1990s did have a bad alcohol problem.  But she was able to recover from it and stay sober.  With her, she actually seemed quite normal.  I never saw any mood problems or anything.  I even met her father once.  Plus I was only 4 or 5 years older than her.  If our lives were better lined up I actually would have possibly been interested in trying a LTR wth that one.  

So yes, to sum it up.  Usually the lady you think you know will be nothing like who she really is.  As said previously, it is a total fantasy version you know initially.  So if you do decide to get closer be very careful, establish boundaries, and keep the exit sign in clear view.  It could take awhile to see the real her.

First no offense but youre insane.  Think about what money trouble she must have had to force her to spread her legs for a living and suck me and thousands of other guys dicks.  And she says shes going to quit? Where she going to get the money to support herself?  Uh im guessing you?  Helloooooo!!!  One of my ex said the same thing..."oh i will quit.^^"....oh she quit alright but then says can you pivk up my friends from LAX and can you sign this lease....next thing i know im a korean heidi fliesshman's pimp manager!  

So do yourself a favor and run or chop off your dick so dont have the desire to fuck so kgirls will disapperar from your life!

I can type more kgirl insaneness but the it would be a novel.

in the late 1980's when she was a hot young hooker working for Madam Alex in LA.  It was at a party with someone else paying, but still fun.   She's 50+ now but looks 70!!!  I'm pretty sure Fleischman's makes margarine.  

It does sound like her plan is to be supported.  You have to assume she won't quit, especially if that is her only source of income.  However, it can be fun if you are very careful.  Maintaining good boundaries is very important, keep the exit door in clear view, and remember a very important word, "NO".  It might be awhile before you see what she is really like.  Don't establish any ties that can't be easily and quickly cut.  The middle one I talked about in my previous post tried to talk me into cosigning a car lease for her.  She was assuming a lot of that one.  I just politely said, "I don't think I can do that, sorry" while thinking in my head, "oh hell no!"  She had her little self entitled hissy fit and that was the end of it.  Usually these type things end up somewhat more like a "sugar" arrangement.  It's important to keep that in mind.  

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Since all the info is on the kgirl thread.  Thanks for all the info and past experience.

moving onto other threads until its last man standing.  THEN it dies.  lol

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