GFE/PSE Sensual Domination

Not your traditional Mistress

I've always been interested in the idea of BDSM as a dominant partner (I don't know or care what specific language it's called in the community), but get turned off by all the other crap that seems to be attached to it all- cheesy toys and outfits, a lifestyle that's laughable the minute someone turns on the lights, etc.

So the concept of exploring the domination and control of a sex partner interests me, but the way I see it presented prevents me from taking it seriously or wanting to join in.  And one of the reasons is because they seem to be interested in everything except fucking.

It's kind of like when I owned a Harley- I love motorcycles and liked riding the bike, but I didn't like the lifestyle that insisted we all dress and act the same way- dentists and accountants trying to act badass.  It was laughable.  And all those "individualists" that bought all their clothes from the same catalog and acted like it was something special; I've never seen so much conforming in my life.  They became like a caricature to me after a while.  I still ride every week, but finally moved on in another direction.  I see the whole BDSM community as being somewhat similar and that's what keeps me from getting into it.