This strikes me as lesson in basic manners and I should preface that while this might a little harsh, it is only because the "East Coast Gal" in me is giving it to you straight...no sugar-coating or beating around the bush.
First, I feel that you might need to be reminded that, despite what we do for a living, we are actually people...just like you. Which means that basic human respect and etiquette rules still apply to us.
I do not know what you do for a living, but let's say you are lawyer. How would you feel if you are sitting at home after having a long day and someone shows up at your door asking you to look over some papers for them?
How about if you are a chef? Would you want someone showing up at your door, on your off hours, asking you to cook them a meal because they feel like eating?
You're tired, you want to relax, and someone just shows up at your door asking you to work more than you already have. I'm sure you would look at them say, "You could have just called me."
And what about if you are on vacation from work but just decided to stay at home and take some time for yourself? Would you want to be called to work? Especially by someone you hardly know showing up at your front door? *Also please do remember that we are women and if we are on vacation, it might be the time of the month for us, which is why we are not seeing clients.
Just because we do this for a living does not mean we are "Open for business" 24/7 or alone in the world either. Several of us have an SO or even kids. You need to think about that before walking up to someone's front door. And heaven forbid the SO is home, you are probably not leaving without a kick to the groin or a black eye.
We are people who have lives, just like you do. If you want to contact us, we have appropriate channels for doing so. By simply walking up to us and having some conversation about "our work" out in the open, you are putting our safety and your safety at risk. Not to mention that it is extremely creepy.
And one other note...seeing a client takes preparing both ourselves and the place, which takes a bit of time. Most of us do not lounge around all day "ready to go," so just because you might feel in the mood and ready, does not mean she is at that moment.
In the future, should you have questions like this, I would first advise you to put yourself in the position of the provider and run the scenario through in your mind. That should, hopefully, answer these questions for you.
One more time, for the cheap seats, do not contact a provider simply by paying them a visit, it is both rude and unacceptable. If you want to talk to a provider, use her preferred method of communication. If you spot a provider in public, outside of an appointment, its probably best to just flash a quick smile and leave her be. Do not talk to her about work, rates, availability, or anything of the sort.
I did my best to not sound too harsh, hopefully it just came across as a New Yorker being honest. You had the decency to hold off on your actions and ask the question here, which we appreciate and I personally thank you for. Someone else might not have known either, so thank you for asking the question.
so several live in my complex and i run into them time to time.
i was wondering whats the etiquette about knocking on their home or even asking them in the hallway if i can get service? is it considered rude or just not acceptable to bother them outside their incalls? and what if their incall is also their home but they are on vacation is it ok to still knock on their door and see if they will see me?
never thought i would have this sort of situation but i have so many living in my complex and i get to urge sometime to knock on their door to get service. thought of literally going down the the elevator in like 1 min!! whoa talk about apartment amenities!!!
but don't want to break some rule about this sort of thing.
any comments are welcome. really curious what the feeling is out there.
thanks
That is their private space. Even if they work out of it, they may not be working at the moment and I'm sure would be very angry about being caught off guard. If you can't contact them through normal channels IE: Website E-mail etc. The most I would do is leave a note (in SEALED envelope) With your Phone # and e-mail. If you can, try and push it under the door. XO
come to think of it note might be bad idea as well (SO may open) best to just try and locate them on TER or their ad site. I would be totally creeped out if somebody from my building came knocking on my door for service! Good luck! XO
It would be an extremely poor move on your part to approach them in any of the ways you describe. The only way you should ask them for an appointment is the same way the rest of us would- by phone, email or text, whatever is their usual preferred method of contact.
Never knock on their door, never ask them in the hallway or the elevator- just leave them alone and they may agree to see you. If do the things you suggested in your OP, you're almost guaranteeing they won't feel comfortable around you.
As for the other times you see them around the complex, just let them live their life without your interference. Don't wave at them at the pool, or even say "Hi" unless you're alone, such as in the elevator. If you do otherwise, you're crossing the line between their personal and business life. Just because they agree to see you as a client doesn't mean they're inviting you into their personal lives as a friend.
If you walk up to one of ladies in your complex and say "Hi....I'm Skippy and I know that you are a hooker....can I come over for a session?" She will either slap your face or turn and run.....She will probably assume that you are either LE or crazy....and she certainly will never see you.
Take the advice from Eve and contact her via her normal business channels....once you have been screened and you have your appointment set you could tell her that you live in the complex.....one note of caution.....I know several providers who are very concerned with their private lives remaining private...there is a possibility that she will not see you because you live in the same building....don't be offended....it is not you but it is the nature of the business.
Good luck.
This strikes me as lesson in basic manners and I should preface that while this might a little harsh, it is only because the "East Coast Gal" in me is giving it to you straight...no sugar-coating or beating around the bush.
First, I feel that you might need to be reminded that, despite what we do for a living, we are actually people...just like you. Which means that basic human respect and etiquette rules still apply to us.
I do not know what you do for a living, but let's say you are lawyer. How would you feel if you are sitting at home after having a long day and someone shows up at your door asking you to look over some papers for them?
How about if you are a chef? Would you want someone showing up at your door, on your off hours, asking you to cook them a meal because they feel like eating?
You're tired, you want to relax, and someone just shows up at your door asking you to work more than you already have. I'm sure you would look at them say, "You could have just called me."
And what about if you are on vacation from work but just decided to stay at home and take some time for yourself? Would you want to be called to work? Especially by someone you hardly know showing up at your front door? *Also please do remember that we are women and if we are on vacation, it might be the time of the month for us, which is why we are not seeing clients.
Just because we do this for a living does not mean we are "Open for business" 24/7 or alone in the world either. Several of us have an SO or even kids. You need to think about that before walking up to someone's front door. And heaven forbid the SO is home, you are probably not leaving without a kick to the groin or a black eye.
We are people who have lives, just like you do. If you want to contact us, we have appropriate channels for doing so. By simply walking up to us and having some conversation about "our work" out in the open, you are putting our safety and your safety at risk. Not to mention that it is extremely creepy.
And one other note...seeing a client takes preparing both ourselves and the place, which takes a bit of time. Most of us do not lounge around all day "ready to go," so just because you might feel in the mood and ready, does not mean she is at that moment.
In the future, should you have questions like this, I would first advise you to put yourself in the position of the provider and run the scenario through in your mind. That should, hopefully, answer these questions for you.
One more time, for the cheap seats, do not contact a provider simply by paying them a visit, it is both rude and unacceptable. If you want to talk to a provider, use her preferred method of communication. If you spot a provider in public, outside of an appointment, its probably best to just flash a quick smile and leave her be. Do not talk to her about work, rates, availability, or anything of the sort.
I did my best to not sound too harsh, hopefully it just came across as a New Yorker being honest. You had the decency to hold off on your actions and ask the question here, which we appreciate and I personally thank you for. Someone else might not have known either, so thank you for asking the question.
Honest, not in the least harsh, and a great explanation of the situation from your POV!
Mutually Assured Destruction.
You both can be outted, she will know where you live and you may know where she might live. Just because she has an apartment there does not mean it is in her name and that she lives there. Even if she does, it might be in someone else’s name. I know a few that have shared incalls, used their sister’s place during the day…etc and that is just the independents. You better be single or living alone if you try this.
Ever think what would happen if this was taken the wrong way? I knew a Russian gal that did had this happen. The asswipe knocked on her door since she did not respond to his little note on her car. She was horrified. Her response was to talk to the manager, who in this case was a woman and say that the guy was harassing her. The manager was sympathetic and mentioned what a bastard this guy was since he had a wife….yeah. So the manager gave her all his info in case she needed to file a restraining order. Next time they were in the elevator, he asked how about a fuck later that day. Her reply was if he wanted it before or after his wife would be home and how work was and named the company, address and his extension. Was what the manager did right or wrong, legal or illegal. I have no idea and don’t care, he deserved it. Same thing can happen to Birds there. More like the brain of a bird.
I hope some ladies out there read and learn from this as well; if you value your privacy, don’t show a face pic. I know some of you will balk at this and it will not matter if the guy has seen you before. I am no white knight but this type of breach in protocol endangers the provider and any johns that she may see at the place if it is her incall. If it is her real home, oh fuck. That is why I always recommend a girl use a john pad.
Thank you, for that reply!!! You articulated it beautifully!!!!
you....are brilliant.
I know a great provider who got really freaked out because she found out a guy in her building wanted to date her. He kept calling and calling and finally she got so upset she had to move. And this was her home space too! So NO NO NO, you should not contact them. It will not turn out well for you or for them.
I have to assume your post was tongue in cheek, and you did generate a nice little thread. But, God save Ireland if you ingenuously asked that question with any sincerity....
Yours are scary thoughts that come from a potential dangerous creepy stalker or worse. Let's us hope it is only a seed-up because the alternative is too ugly to contemplate.
i was wondering whats the etiquette about knocking on their home or even asking them in the hallway if i can get service? is it considered rude or just not acceptable to bother them outside their incalls? and what if their incall is also their home but they are on vacation is it ok to still knock on their door and see if they will see me?
never thought i would have this sort of situation but i have so many living in my complex and i get to urge sometime to knock on their door to get service. thought of literally going down the the elevator in like 1 min!! whoa talk about apartment amenities!!!
but don't want to break some rule about this sort of thing.
any comments are welcome. really curious what the feeling is out there.
thanks